will I self-harm forever?

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bestTruth96
March 8th, 2015 5:25pm
Recovery from self-harm is possible. First comes the want to recovery, then the will to recovery. Recovery is a long bumpy road sometimes with lapses and relapses, but it is how you pick yourself up. Also check out 7 Cups of Tea's self help guide to self-harm.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2015 4:32am
No, you will not self-harm forever. If you believe things will get better, then there is a large possibility that they will. Just think positive and things will get better.
PerplexingMystery
March 15th, 2015 11:44am
from my own personal experience ive found that over time once things start to get better the urge to self harm diminishes and will be replaced with a feeling of contentment. however you may relapse but thats okay and shouldnt deter you from trying to stop
Erynn - Expert in Self-Harm
April 6th, 2015 4:18pm
It's unlikely, however it's not true that things always just 'go away'. Things have to change in order to get better. Some people are fortunate enough to have their situation change without them doing anything, and thus they stop feeling like harming themselves. More commonly, people have to choose to recover and take many many small steps towards stopping self harm. Harming isn't just a 'teen' thing, and there are adults all the way up to their elder years who self harm - it is simply less common because most people decide to recover before then and seek help. I just mean to say, we can't wait around for something to magically 'get better.' We are the agents of change in our own lives, and if we don't work to stop, or accept that it's an ok way for us to live, then yes - you are able to continue self-harming for the entirety or majority of your life. Most of us hit a point where we decide to recover though, for any myriad of reasons. I hope you find a reason to recover sometime too. Hang in there.
JocePunk123
April 18th, 2015 5:05am
No you won't they come a day when you give all that up and you look back and see your battle scars and know you were a fighter that you won the war and your so brave you dont even know you just got keep hope alive that you make it through this.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 8:01am
It's all up to you. I used to self-harm when I was 14,15,16--And have never done it since then. :) You can stop anytime you want to, I'm not exactly sure how I stopped, but just because you self-harm now I can assure you it doesn't have to happen forever.
neverletlifetakeyourspark
April 26th, 2015 4:00pm
It depends. Do you want to move on and recover? If so, then no, you will not self-harm forever. You have to realize that hurting yourself will NOT make anything better. It causes more problems and does no good for anyone. It might make you feel better for a little bit, but think about the long run. Do you really want scars for the rest of your life? Do you want to have to explain to your kids how that happened? Think of how your parents must feel. Would you want your children to harm themselves? No. You might think it helps, but that's because you're trapped. Free yourself from it and you will see how bad it actually is. It's absolutely okay to ask for help if you need it. But not everyone will be able to help you. Think of the positive, darling. There is always something to look forward too.
peacefulSummer36
May 16th, 2015 11:14pm
No! Definitely not. I use to harm myself when I was in high school. As much as it felt good to actually release all that pain and tension, it's not healthy nor is it good for you. It can be overcome!! It just takes a lot of dedication to overcome that urge. It's not easy and it will take a lot of work, but it IS possible.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2015 7:15am
it will be up tp you if ypu will self harm fprever. It is not a good thing to self harm. You may thi k ot helps but it doesnt its not good for our health. We need to find something to get rid pf this habit to replace this habit then we will not self harm.
originalLion57
June 4th, 2015 11:35pm
Hopefully not. You can find other ways to cope with pain by trying to reach out for some help, like talking to a professional or a supportive friend or family member. It doesn't have to be forever.
stronger10
July 6th, 2015 1:26am
Not necessarily. We can't predict the future. But we can take steps now to help us to stop self-harming. Getting help will allow us to examine the underlying reasons for our self-harm behaviors and to adapt new, healthy coping methods.
Destree
July 21st, 2015 6:30am
Most likely not but that answer is really up to you. Cutting is like an addiction because it gives us physical pain to distract from the emotional pain. You can stop cutting but it takes a lot of effort.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 3:10am
That's up to you! Quitting can be very hard, but it's always possible. Whenever you're ready, it's an option. :)
beautifulOcean
September 15th, 2015 10:05pm
It depends if you're willing to take the steps to stop. That's honestly what it comes down to. You just have to be strong, tell someone, and get help. Trust me, getting help is worth it. And if you can't talk to an adult you trust, then go for a psychiatrist. I know it's a hard battle, but I believe you can make it!
Anonymous
September 18th, 2015 1:56pm
It depends on the steps you take. Though quitting can be very, very hard, many people do but some people don't. If you find alternatives to self-harm or talk to someone about what you're going through, you may find it slowly easier to quit self harming
generousShiny86
November 2nd, 2015 4:02pm
Self harm is something which lasts when you need it as a coping method. Usually it is something which wont last forever, you find other ways which suit you, to help you in a more positive way. This most likely leads to you using this as a coping method for a period of time. It is not the best coping method, but many people use it for as such.
ImLittleM
November 16th, 2015 10:02am
Self-harming is always hard to go through. With the right professional help, I believe that everyone can stop self-harming.
charmingTurtle36
December 1st, 2015 1:34pm
No hopefully not cause I used to but when you get older you seem to meet people who have had the same experience as you and help you through it so nope
bambi74
December 14th, 2015 5:13pm
no you will one day find that person who cares for you and you care for them so you will stop in order to keep them safe
anyquestion97
January 12th, 2016 9:58am
I hope you won't... But you have to believe you'll recover from this. Things may be hard, but there are many ways to search for solutions and to feel a bit better. It's a long way, recovery is though, but you'll get through this.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2016 7:34pm
No you won't. With the right help you will be able do stop. It may take some time but it could work .
someoneoutthereblr
February 1st, 2016 5:19am
No. You can stop. It is hard and an uphill battle. Self-harming is an addiction and is incredibly hard to quit, but you can do this. And I believe in you
BenS
February 2nd, 2016 3:21pm
Hi mate. Depression is something that can truly sit with you for a while. If you are depressed and are self harming, I would say follow the simple steps to preventing depression. In short, spend as much time as possible doing your hobbies, as much as possible, every day. This will provide an escape for you. Secondly, spend as much time with your friends as possible, and as little time alone as possible. Time alone is time to think, and that is usually not good. So keep yourself busy with friends, and good people. This will pass. Things ALWAYS get better.
erenflowers
April 11th, 2016 5:50am
Hopefully not. This depends on you. It's difficult; self-harming can turn into an addiction. But there are definite examples of ex-self-harmers who have recovered and are now clean. It's a process, but it can happen, and it's very likely that you will recover too. :) By talking to people, getting help you need, and working through the deeper issues, you can progressively get better.
ChapterNate
July 12th, 2016 11:11pm
No, you will not. Not if you get the help you need. Not if you strive towards recovery with all the strength that you've got. Recovery might not be never feeling urges again, maybe you'll still have struggling thoughts sometimes, but you will not self harm forever. All you have to do... is stop. And that's... very difficult. But so worth it.
DevinaDee95
July 18th, 2016 9:48am
No. I used to be one for 3-4 years and now I'm 3 years clean. You just need to find the strength to not let it go on forever.
nrigaud
October 24th, 2016 7:13am
No. You can beat this. It's difficult to stop, especially if you relapse, and it might feel like forever, but you can do it. Try to find a better stress outlet maybe journaling or running, or writing down every day that you don't self-harm.
freefromworries
November 1st, 2016 1:49pm
While that answer is truly up to you, I would say it's a no. Self-harm is something that usually happens in times of extreme pain and stress, which you will not constantly have to live in. Things do get better, however cliche that sounds.
SupportiveSockMonkey
February 20th, 2018 8:37pm
You will not self harm forever as long as you have the will power. It may seem like forever but I know that you are strong enough to quit. It is a never ending battle, but just like me you can be strong and begin that very long battle one baby step at a time.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 2:56am
No you won't always self harm, eventually you could learn coping skills that could help you get though those thought/feelings/urges