How do I stop over thinking at night?

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Anonymous
October 28th, 2015 6:36pm
I used to have this problem for a very long time, and I know what a pain in the neck it can be. But I will tell you what I did in order to tackle this problem-- I listened to audio recordings of guided mediation. here's a video by a channel that I often listen to on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O7GlLLrAFnU Check it out and see if it helps you relax and fall asleep faster!
yourfriendnikhil
May 12th, 2016 6:35am
One overthinks at night only when he/she stays awake longer than he must. Firstly if you sleep timely, you would not have time to overthink. But sometimes if you are unable to sleep, you overthink. To avoid it, just close your eyes and think and remember about the good things that happened in your life. Try to stay positive. Even in the worst of conditions, try to stay positive and look at the brighter side of things. Talk to yourself and tell yourself that everything is going to be all right. Just hold tight.
amongtheunderground100
June 13th, 2015 12:44am
Challenge yourself! Try naming as many Disney movies, car brands, or songs by your favorite artist etc. as you can! It usually tires you out, distracts you from ruminating, and helps you take your mind off of things while playing to human nature's competitive spirit, even if it's just with yourself.
adoredSpace32
June 18th, 2016 5:29am
Choose a word that means nothing. The word must be gibberish. Everytime that you start thinking, interrupt yourself with that word. It will help you lose your train of thought.
porcelaina
April 28th, 2016 12:17am
Take a hot shower or drink some herbal tea before bed to get you to sleep as soon as possible. If there are no night time rituals that make you feel sleepy, try watching a movie or talking to one of us lovely listeners until you fall asleep!
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2016 6:34am
Do not be an active participant in your thoughts. Disentangle yourself from the incessant monologue/imagery/whatever by observing it. You are not your thoughts. Most (90%~) thoughts are very automatic and happen all by themselves, almost like an autonomous bodily function - like digestion, or your heart beat. It is easy to forget you are not what you think, if you're in your head a lot. You are overly identifying with your thoughts, and so your physioemotional state reflects that. So you must learn to decouple from them. Start by learning to step back from thought and dispassionately observe, and after that you can even learn to silence thought altogether whenever you want.
CoffeeTeaAndHonesty
April 14th, 2015 9:35pm
One method that seems to work fairly well for this is writing out a list of things that are on your mind to deal with in the morning.
Theserainydays
October 29th, 2016 10:39am
Mindfulness meditation can really help! I'd suggest looking through the mindfulness exercises on 7cups.
angelstarshinelove
May 20th, 2016 10:42am
You can try to have a worry time in the day and tell yourself to calm down.Try to associate your bedroom with peace and quiet,instead of frustration and anxiety.I'm always available if you need me.
CloudySnowflake
May 21st, 2016 3:51pm
Well, what I do to stop myself from over thinking is to visualise all my worries and problems as little colourful bouncy balls. I collect them all up and put them in a box, and close the box :) I just think to myself that I can open that box tomorrow morning, but they are put away for the night so I can sleep!
cannoninvienna
August 4th, 2015 7:26am
You can stop overthinking at night by focusing on your breathe, which is a form of meditation. If that is not your "cup of tea" you can try to take deep breathes and think of something that makes you happy. Listening to music is always plan C!
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 7:34pm
dont think that you shouldnt overthink things. Just let yourself be free and do what ever you want and when you are tired,sleep. Its just all in your head always remember that you couldnt stop the waves but you can learn to surf
olimaar
October 26th, 2015 3:01pm
Try to read a book or watch a movie before you go to bed, and stop on the cliffhanger. Then, spend your time in bed thinking about the possible outcomes of the cliffhanger.
MissNadia
May 31st, 2018 8:03am
I try to firstly become aware that im overthinking which will eventually lead to stress do i stop ..clise my eyes and breathe slowly and think about one solid blank colour till my mind becomes tired and overwhelmed with sleep
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 12:00am
Try find some methods of self-expression to maintain these thoughts. For example, you could write in a journal every night before bed to keep those thoughts from overwhelming you.
Kaylei72
March 24th, 2015 11:29pm
Relax your mind. Try to clear your mind of any thoughts that are affecting you in any way. Be strong and make sure your muscles are relaxed
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 1:16am
I fall asleep listening to something, I have QI on or something similar to stop my mind from wandering onto stressful subjects.
KiForEverybody
August 24th, 2015 2:36pm
Thinking... what you do to over thinking? and when you are in the cinema and you are taken by a film are you taken also by this over thinking or are you focused on what is going on on the screen? soo to stop over thinking at night, change the focus of your thinking. By the way switching of the NeoCortex will help a lot!
sid8080
April 30th, 2016 2:33am
well firs t accept that you are thinking much.. do meditation which help you be calm and peace do some excerise it will help you develop positive attitudeand a very nice sleep talk to the person about your thinking it will hewlp you realx
ErinKay
April 21st, 2016 6:27am
This is quite common. A lot of people can't turn their brains off at night. I would highly recommend for you to search mindfulness
HeyItsCatie
April 24th, 2016 3:56am
Try to relax an hour before you go to bed; take a bath, read a good book, drawing. Try to stay away from phones, computers and technology in this hour. Before you go to bed, try to only think about something you're looking forward to on the next day.
IreneDreamer
May 8th, 2016 4:06pm
Over thinking happenes mostly at night because for most of us it is the only time in the day that we actually stop and are able to think about our past, present and future with no disturbances. Thinking isn't always bad, if it means considering the endless possibilities you have in life and how many great things future holds, but even that can be tiresome if you had a busy day. Try to relax before you go to bed. Have a bath, maybe somecomforting food, listen to calming music, meditate. That way your body will naturally prepare for sleep rather than suddenly trying to 'switch off' and failing.
Aprtylittlemess
May 21st, 2016 8:11pm
Do not be an active participant in your thoughts. Disentangle yourself from the incessant monologue/imagery/whatever by observing it. You are not your thoughts. Most (90%~) thoughts are very automatic and happen all by themselves, almost like an autonomous bodily function - like digestion, or your heart beat. It is easy to forget you are not what you think, if you're in your head a lot. You are overly identifying with your thoughts, and so your physioemotional state reflects that. So you must learn to decouple from them. Start by learning to step back from thought and dispassionately observe, and after that you can even learn to silence thought altogether whenever you want. I highly suggest you read up on mindfulness. The entire practice is based on these simple principles, and you'd be amazed at how completely transformative they can be. Even a little bit of mindfulness before bed can lead to a good night's sleep.
HelpWisely
June 4th, 2016 9:48am
By not over thinking during the day.. If you overthink from the time you wake up then this will continue even during the night.
introvertedwolf
June 8th, 2016 9:49am
You can always read a book before falling to bed, and you can enjoy a chamomile tea as well. Think about what you're going to do the next day, find something to look forward for tomorrow and persuade your self to sleep well.
healingPup26
September 29th, 2016 12:54am
focus on what is happening in the moment. it helps if you go through the alphabet and name an animal for each letter. if you finish, go through and do it again. it gives your mind something to focus on until you go to sleep. melatonin is good too (and totally natural)
harshvu17
June 3rd, 2016 8:00am
Try and watch something interesting on tv, or rather talk about a nice topic with your friends. It really helps. You can also try to think about your passion and do something creative, Nights are the best time to do something good about yourselves.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 11:19pm
First of all relax close your eyes take deep breath forget about everything have a little me time. Read a book. Listen to your favourite song. Day dream...or talk to a friend
hermajesty21
August 31st, 2017 10:23pm
This is a common problem that people experience, and can be fixed by tiring yourself and your brain out more during the day. Doing that is an easy way to make yourself hit the pillow and fall asleep faster.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2018 8:13pm
Try to think about other things besides what you are worrying about. For me, when I am stressed or anxious about something, I think of a fun memory or I make a story in my head. Sometimes just writing it down or talking to someone, even to yourself can help too. Everyone is different, so figure out what works for you.