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I'm never tired at night. How can I sleep better?

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Last Updated: 11/23/2021 at 10:38am
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Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.

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January 1st, 2015 5:28am
One of the ways that helped me a lot is reading a book or listening to an audio book in bed. Make a regular bed-time schedule. A time by when you will be in bed even if you don't feel sleepy. This helps relax the body and mind and induce sleep. Another way would be to listen to music... soothing music. Heavy metal and hip hop won't do much to help. Stop any intake of caffeine from three hours prior to your scheduled bed-time and eat a banana, they work as much muscle and nerve relaxants. Put away your cell phones iPods, iPads etc. Browsing the internet or social media kills our sleep, so try to put a check on that. However, if you can't stop yourself from going into the internet, then go to YouTube and treat yourself to some of the sleep music they have, they've helped me on certain occasions and I think they'll help you too. Hope what I've written helps you. :)
January 1st, 2015 5:31am
There are many ways to sleep better. You can drink hot milk, because milk has a component which makes us sleepy, and if it's hot, it makes us sleepy even more quick! You can also have a hot bath, to relax. You can read a book, listen to some classic/relaxing music or jut talk to somebody. Using celphones or computers it's not recommended, since it can make you more energetic and less sleepy. These are the things I do when I can't sleep :)
November 30th, 2014 10:32pm
If you're never tired at night and want to sleep better, you probably aren't doing enough activities throughout the day to physically tire you out. Do you run at all? Go for walks? The Gym? I'd try working in some workouts and cardio - at least 30 minutes daily! - and see if that helps your sleep. It does wonders for making me tired at night. I fall right asleep!
December 21st, 2014 12:49am
First things, make sure you environment is good: comfy bed, slightly cold so you hug your duvet. Don't drink/eat sugary things for a few hours before you will go to bed! If the no sleeping continues, see your doctor and they may give you some sleeping pills and more tips for sleeping better!
December 26th, 2014 7:18am
Work out during the day. don't sleep in late. stay busy during the day which in turn wears one out. less Caffeine cut out naps.
December 1st, 2014 4:59am
Be sure to have the room in which you are trying to sleep in as dark as possible, light can irritate you if you are trying to sleep. Drinking a cup of hot herbal tea such as jasmine or chamomile with some honey can help ease you into sleep.
May 29th, 2015 4:45am
That really depends on you and what works to make you tired. Is it having peaceful noise/music on (, having a nice cup of tea before bed, working out before bed, or laying down and just being? It varies from person to person and you just have to find what works for you.
March 7th, 2016 6:38am
Try doing physically intense things during your day, so you feel more tired. Try sleeping routines, or just find the beauty in sleep and learn to enjoy it again. Learn about the dangers of not sleeping.
April 3rd, 2017 1:35am
In my personal experience, I've found a few things that help me sleep better. It is VERY important to have a schedule. Pick a time that you would like to sleep and a time that you would like to wake, and set alarms accordingly. I stop drinking sodas or anything that contains caffeine about 5 to 7 hours before I plan to sleep, then I switch to drinking water. Personally, I practically live off of soda (which is very unhealthy, don't do that!) so by switching to water for those 5-7 hours, it gives my body time to flush out the caffeine. Also, do not drink alcohol or eat anything extremely sugary because that can make you hyper! The whole point of trying to sleep well is to be calm. :) Closer to bedtime, I recommend turning off your screens. No computers, no TV, no phones for an hour or so before you plan to sleep. Mobile phones and screens put off a white light that imitates the light put off by the sun which tricks your brain into thinking it's day time since you're staring at that white light all day. It messes up the way your brain releases melatonin (the chemical that your brain releases at night to make you sleep) which prevents you from sleeping appropriately. Eating healthy, exercising regularly and treating your body well all contribute to a sleeping well. Right before bed, even after doing all of these things, if you still find that you cannot sleep after laying in bed for about 30 mins, I recommend getting up and doing something relaxing such as reading a book, or maybe taking a 20 minute bath. There are epsom salts with lavender, which is an herb that is known for it's muscle-relaxing effects which can help make you sleepy! Then get back into bed and try again. :) Hope this helps.
December 2nd, 2014 6:32am
A sound machine helps me, so does having background noise I like; such as a favorite podcast or video, TV show, or music. A video with a guided meditation playing in the background can also help sometimes. If you can and haven't tried, perhaps avoiding caffeine, sugar and exercise near bedtime can help. Keeping a journal of your habits can help you find patterns to what works and what doesn't.
April 25th, 2016 6:21pm
I also experienced this before, but now, I usually listen to calming music especially piano covers to help me sleep at night.
October 31st, 2016 6:08pm
There could be various reasons why you're not tired, and it's best to do something that is going to help your specific reason! That's something you could definitely talk to a doctor about. Besides that, sometimes it helps to get into a routine, like maybe every night you shower, watch a 30 minute show, then turn off your light and just lay down. After a while you might train your body to fall asleep when it's time. Not only that, but exercise can definitely help! Some people like doing something tough like cardio because it tires them out, but it's recommended to do it about an hour or two before bed since at first you might be feeling more energetic. Other people like the opposite, they want something more relaxing so they do something like yoga or meditation. It's a good way to wind down and get some stress out, which may lead to you sleeping better.
April 16th, 2018 5:48pm
Not feeling tired at night may be caused mainly by messed up sleep schedule. Try to go to bed before 24:00, therefore you'll get at least 8 hours of sleep. Isolate yourself from technics 30minutes early before laying down . Clear your mind from thoughts, and also, dont eat before turning in to sleep( Digesting the food will make your mind stay up for a long period of time' I suggest eating 2hrs before going to bed) That all should turn your mind off, and the tiredness of the day will catch up eventually.
December 9th, 2014 12:08am
Listen to music that makes you feel calm. If that doesn't work, you can read, try to think of things that make you happy and paint.
November 17th, 2015 5:53pm
I've found that trying to turn of my computer and phone screens etc an hour before I go to bed is really helpful- maybe try some yoga, reading or meditation to help you wind down in that final hour before bed.
December 28th, 2015 7:12am
Try not drinking caffeine after noon and avoid sleeping during the day. Excercising before you sleep will energize you so try calming yourself down with a hot bath or shower and turning off electronics 30 minutes before you go to sleep..
January 25th, 2016 4:47pm
Get your life clock schedule back in to normal. Try to wake up early in a routine ,your body will get used to it. Also exercising in a day time helps with sleep a lot.
January 25th, 2016 11:25pm
Taking a bath with lavender oil helps, drinking a soothing tea or warm milk also. And lastly controlling your breathing.
July 11th, 2016 4:34pm
You could try taking a bath before going to bed. Also turn off the TV, phone etc an hour before you plan on sleeping. Chamomile tea is also a good relaxant to drink before bed.
November 7th, 2016 8:13am
Try switching off electronic devices atleast 30mins before sleeping. Sounds clichéd but really helps. Try reading a book or writing a journal. Try drinking something warm. It might help!
February 27th, 2017 9:44pm
There is no one answer to this question. It really depends on the reason you are not tired. If you are not tired due to insomnia or some form of sleeping disorder, you can try different techniques but ultimately you should attempt to seek a doctor's help so they can prescribe sleep aids. It could also be due to the things around you. If you sleep in an area with a lot of noise, natural light, or unnatural light, those could also be issues. One thing that I would do to start is if you use your phone in bed, stop. Putting your phone on silent and sometimes across the room can help you because if your brain is stimulated, you are far less likely to feel tired. Another thing that may help are breathing exercises. Sometimes, you just need to go into a state of relaxation in order to help you sleep and these tend to reduce heart rate and put people into an overall relaxed state. Either way, if it is a real problem, never rule out seeking medical advice as I am not a doctor and can only tell my own personal experiences.
August 22nd, 2017 12:30pm
Build the perfect sleepfort. Take a hot bath in lavender and pine. Perhaps drink some warm tea perhaps camomille (or lavender). Make sure you have a warm cosy blanket but a cool fresh room, maybe some nice plants that raises the oxygen level. Then lie the way you are the most comfortable and if you need someone talking, make sure you got that sound going on, if you need it to be dark, maek it so, if you need a nightlight, get the cousiest one, if you enjoy music, put on the best record.
October 9th, 2017 7:30pm
Read before you go to be and avoid looking at any screens/technology at least 30 min before you go sleep
November 21st, 2017 8:02am
Wake at the same time most days, eat some protein and fat for breakfast, eggs are ideal, exercise 30 minutes, and remove all electronics from the bed room.
May 15th, 2015 3:48pm
Try reading a comic book with music at the background. It releases good hormones and I can dozed off easier.
August 4th, 2015 6:03pm
I start by creating a schedule for myself. I make sure I'm done doing anything that takes energy/concentration about an hour before I need to go to bed. Then, I actually go through a nighttime routine--shower, set clothes out for the next day, take the dog for one last potty break, and so forth. With time, my body learned that when I start on that routine, we're getting close to bedtime.
August 18th, 2015 6:14pm
If the problem is not getting tired at night, then the simplest answer would be to wake up earlier in the morning and try to find some activities throughout the day, that would challenge you physically or mentally. So when you get home you'd feel tired and just want to relax.
May 6th, 2019 7:56pm
It is important to remember that insomnia, defined as the “inability to sleep”, is – like any inability – a loss of freedom. Tossing and turning in bed, with a busy mind can be very difficult. The later into the night it becomes, the more anxious you feel, as you shout to your mind you need that sleep, but nothing works. Anxiety might build when the birds chirp at 5am, with the promise of having a painful day of school/work the next morning. There are ways you can alleviate the stress. Take some times to meditate during the day, look out a window and wind down. Write problems on a piece of paper , this one especially works, as it can stops problems from circling the mind. Don't consume caffeine before 2 pm. Seek help from sleep/anxiety guides here on 7 cups.
November 23rd, 2021 10:38am
Hi, I know that feeling very well and although a few times it feels okay, once it turns into a daily thing, it needs attention. Here are a few things I do when I am not feeling sleepy before bed - 1) Start reading a book - I read every single day and it really puts you to sleep easily. You can even go through some of the books you liked as a child to feel cozier. 2) Drink chamomile tea - One of the best ways to get that sweet drowsiness and relaxation is to help yourself with a steaming cup of chamomile tea at least 30 mins before bedtime. I also make this detox tea by boiling an inch of grated ginger and lemon juice in water and then straining it. It works the best. 3) Try not to watch or do anything which may excite you - It is very important to just slow down at this time, perhaps keep the phone away and just get yourself in a calm and quiet atmosphere. 4) ASMR - I know many would be like whaa- after reading this but I rely upon ASMR a lot and it relaxes me very quickly. You can find amazing personal attention ASMR online. 5) Try not to worry about 'not getting the sleep' - I know it is not easy and one feels restless, but if we are able to think about other stuff instead of worrying about our sleep, it will help us sleep more easily. So those were my tips and all of them have come from my own experience. You can try out any of these and I would love to hear from you if you found them useful. If the problem persists, it is better to seek professional help :) Hope you get the sweet sleep you are seeking