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Why can't I sleep at night?

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Last Updated: 05/05/2022 at 11:00pm
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Anonymous
October 20th, 2019 11:15pm
Many people cannot sleep at night because of constant worrying and over analyzing about what happened during the course of the day. I was guilty of this for a long time. I would lye in bed for hours on end with nothing on my brain but worries- worries about being late to work, about being a bad mom, and worrying about how tired I was going to be the next day from all of this! I was stuck in a negative spiral until I finally became so tired of it and started doing some research to see if I could improve my situation. I learned that many suffer from lack of sleep due to constant worrying and that developing a "bed time" routine can ease your mind so you can actually fall and stay asleep. It takes a while to develop a routine that works best for you but it can be done and it changed my life!
Anonymous
November 11th, 2017 10:54pm
There are many reasons why, so I'm just going to talk about the ones that usually cause me to be unable to fall asleep. 1) I am not tired enough. This happens sometimes - I'll be in bed an feel wide awake. What I usually do is get up and do something relaxing, like coloring or listening to music for about 15 minutes before going back to bed. 2) I can't get my brain to shut up. This also happens a LOT - my thoughts will run a billion miles an hour and I'll be absolutely unable to sleep. What usually helps me then is to get up, find a piece of paper and write down all the thoughts that are bothering me, knowing I can deal with them tomorrow. It's not easy, but it usually does help!
Shanekilmartin
September 29th, 2019 10:54pm
There are many factors why you wouldn’t be sleeping at night. The most common is insomnia which is a sleeping disorder. But also being stressed can make you stay up so can anxiety depression or being on the phone before you sleep. Leaving phone away from your bedroom is always advisable it’s good to go to bed with a clear mind and wake up with one too. Going to be stressed is never a good idea having a hot shower or listening to music can help significantly or going for a walk in fresh air
MimiEcouteAuCoinDuFeu
September 1st, 2019 8:31pm
It may be hard to find sleep for lots of reasons. First : are you in your bed ? If the answer is no : you should wonder why it’s hard for you to go to your bed. I experienced several reasons, like : (1) doing intensive cardio training late in the day, (2) not being tired because I woke up late in the morning, (3) not being tired because I woke too early, had a long day at school, and then took a long nap just before diner, (4) don't want to stop doing something, like reading, or playing. For the 4th reason, I decided to use my internet box parameters to turn wifi off past a certain hour. Now, if it's hard to find sleep when you are in bed : maybe you think in circles, remembering bad memories, (as if your brain was picking the worst chapters of the story of your life) or anticipating bad news... It warms up the body and prevent from finding sleep. I never achieved to stop my brain, but happily it’s easy to cool my body down : I stand 5 minutes in front of the open window, take fresh air, and then return to my bed (which cooled down too). And then it’s so much easier to fall asleep ! Hope it might help you !
AishaD
April 3rd, 2019 4:32am
Not being able to sleep at night is most often categorized as insomnia. Insomnia can be a result of many factors, and it can be acute or chronic (both are treatable). Some of the symptoms you are probably facing right now are general tiredness, irritability, problems with concentration, and sleepiness throughout the day. Some causes of this can be because of a significant life stress (new job, moving, etc.), illnesses, interference in your sleep schedule, and/or environmental factors. You should talk to your doctor about this and work out the root of this problem. Try listening to some relaxing music before you sleep, meditating, or maintaining a healthier diet.
Anonymous
January 19th, 2019 11:18pm
It could be that you have insomnia. Insomnia has many possible causes, including stress, anxiety, depression, poor sleep habits, circadian rhythm disorders (such as jet lag), and taking certain medications. Sometimes, just a lot of anxiety or stress causes us to stay awake without insomnia too. There are two types of insomnia, primary insomnia and secondary insomnia. Primary insomnia is insomnia that isn’t caused by anything, that’s been there most of your life, and can be treated with a variety of therapies or medications. Secondary insomnia is insomnia that’s caused by a second, underlying issue. Some factors could be stress, depression, anxiety, and so on. This can also be treated with therapies and medications, but would be focused on the underlying issues rather than the actual sleeplessness
Matthew2414
January 18th, 2019 3:54am
There are many possible causes. 1. Physical causes. A doctor can do tests to determine hormonal or thyroid issues that may be the cause. 2. Environmental causes. Too much light in the room, too warm, too much noise, excessive electromagnetic radiation such as from appliances or powerlines. 3. Poor sleep hygiene. Go to bed and get up and regular times. Do not uses digital devices 3 hours before bedtime. Get light and exercise in the morning. 4. Nutritional deficiencies. D3 deficiency. Take D3 supplement in morning per doctor's instructions based on your current D3 level determined by blood test. 5. Anxiety. Natural supplements like L-Theanine and Lemon Balm Extract can help. 6. Excessive caffeine intake. Don't drink caffeinated beverages after 3 pm.
youshouldsmile
December 17th, 2018 9:27am
Most of the time we are spending with the phone in our hands so first of all - let's turn the night shift what I mean is from the blue light to yellow which doesn't trigger our brain that much and makes our eyes to feel more rested. Since blue light is bad for us, then our brain can't make hormones for sleep. Also, try to do not think, try to clear your minds (but it's so hard you would say) yes, it is hard but just trying for ten minutes you finally will be asleep. Or at least that's what I do when I can't.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2018 4:35am
You may not be able to sleep at night if you have a lot on your mind. Whether it's something that happened a week ago, worrying about something that may happen in the future, if its on your mind you won't be able to sleep! To help with this, You should take 15-20 minutes of you day and assign it "Worry time". Use this time to think about your worries, think of solutions, think of why it's making you worry etc. It is very effective! If you are struggling throughout the day to stop worrying, try writing your worry down and referring back to it during your "Worry time" You'd be surprised how much this can help !
Brittneym101
November 24th, 2018 4:11am
Everyone is different so you may have a different cause as to why you can't sleep. I can't really pin point exactly why you are having those issues, but people often get sleep studies done. It may be within your best interest to get one. Maybe you have a lot on your mind and it could be that your brain doesn't want to turn off. This answer will depend on a lot of different factors. Some say that warm milk can help. It may be time to visit a doctor is this is something that happens often. Good luck
Diya83
November 3rd, 2018 3:02pm
Maybe you are stressed and your mind is overwhelmed, if you try to relax and put away things that could add to your stress, like your phone or any other devices that you do things on and instead listen to music you enjoy or you find calming and try to not stress as much you could get a better night's sleep. If you also do things that you enjoy and you feel happier before you sleep it could help you to fall asleep faster
Anonymous
September 9th, 2018 6:32am
Could be many factors. Main one being, your brain is too alert. You need to make sure there is a comfortable enough sleeping environment for you to be able to switch off completely. In order for your brain to release the right amount of Melatonin, you will need complete darkness. That means mobile phones and laptops put on silent and placed elsewhere. Your room should ideally be at a cooler temperature (especially females). The reason why you're having so much trouble is distraction and disturbance of the mind. That can be put at ease by silent meditation or simple deep breathing exercises.
compassionateBeauty81
August 18th, 2018 3:51pm
Im not sure about your specific situation but some people use music to listen to or calming sound Effects. You could try that or is all else fails you could try an over the counter sleep aid like NyQuil and see if that works for you. Your not sleeping could be because of any stress or anxiety you might have or it could be something greater. If you would like you could go to a medical professional to see if they can treat you’re sleeping issue. I really hope you get through this problem and if you would like to talk about it more there are many listeners to help you.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2018 5:09pm
You may have anxiety or depression and your thoughts could be why you can’t sleep. Or it could be something else
alsem
July 5th, 2018 11:58pm
This is mainly down to stress, it helps if you right down whatever is making you feel anxious and decide on how you'll deal with said problem the following day
SosukeAizen
May 12th, 2018 3:05pm
Usually because you have something nagging at the back of your mind. You need to try to confront your feelings and deal with your emotions to get mental peace.
Naya6315
May 5th, 2022 11:00pm
Lots of people have trouble sleeping. Being under a huge amount of stress causes a hard time for people to be able to fall asleep at night. It is important to try to decrease the stress in your life as much as possible but if unable to it's best to add something in your life that will allow you some peace right before bed. Sometimes it may not even be real-life stress but more trauma-related stress. At that point, it is better that you see a professional preferably one that specializes in post-traumatic stress disorder. Sleeping allows the rest of the body and mind allowing an individual to feel better.
EmmaVictorian
November 12th, 2017 1:45am
Well, it could be many things. Could be too much coffee, or your mind is thinking, or it could be stress, could be from pain. Mamy many things could make you not sleep at night. could be too much alcohol.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 4:25pm
You suffer from insomnia, depression, or simply be addicted to your phone. Try to develop a bedtime routine. If you still have trouble, see a professional so you can be well rested and happy!
GuardianAngel77
April 7th, 2018 9:00pm
Worry about things. Having depression and sad about things. To wound up from ADHD. Having flashbacks from the past .
Anonymous
April 11th, 2018 5:33pm
I drank a cup of coffee after 1pm today and I'm really sensitive to caffeine! That combined with using my phone in bed was not a good idea!
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 9:58am
Any number of factors can be the reason, you may be exposed to too much light of a certain spectrum via a screen etc. That inhibits melatonin production (the sleeping hormone), if you are a teenager puberty may cause a condition called Circadian Rhythm Disorder which messes up your sleeping pattern or if you have a lot on your mind you may need to deal with it before you can have a good night's sleep.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2018 10:15am
I’m having same trouble ..will sleep 3/4 nights six hrs and 2/3 hrs on nights in between..mine is anxiety and my brain overthinking..I try to write everyday what’s happening stressing me out etc
nrigaud
May 3rd, 2018 5:27am
There are many possibilities. You could be napping too much during the day, drinking too much caffeine, or you may genuinely have insomnia.
ClareBlissfulSoul22
May 31st, 2018 2:19am
There could be a multitude of reasons for not sleeping at night so do some fact finding to narrow down some possibilities for yourself. How long has this been going on? has a major change happened in your life when it started? are you taking regular exercise? are you drinking stimulants close to bedtime? writing down anything on your mind on a piece of paper is a great way to let things out of your mind until you are ready to look at them the next day. There is a well-documented strategy called the "5 whys" which I came across you could try it. You keep asking the why until you get to the root reason behind your not sleeping.
Decembre
June 21st, 2018 5:00am
To improve sleeping at night, I recommend creating a schedule where you go to sleep at the same hour and wake up at the same hour. This way, you body can accommodate with a permanent sleeping schedule and thus help you sleep at night.
phosphenerelief
June 17th, 2018 6:20pm
Multiple reasons can determine this - Caffeine, how recently you've eaten before bed and its resultant impact on your energy, looking at your phone screen anything less than an hour before bed and how much or little energy you have used during the day. Psychologically it could be due to rumination - racing, excessive thinking - but that's completely normal, sometimes your mind needs time to decompress, as it is through reliving memories, or thinking about things that we organise them, and consciously process and get over them - so simply try to do something to relax before bed and don't dig for those thoughts or emotions, but if they come to the surface - recognise them, address them kindly, and openly and then let them go instead of holding onto them
Anonymous
May 31st, 2018 3:15pm
Usually when a person cannot sleep at night it is referred to a condition called insomnia. Its where the person lacks the ability to fall asleep or stay asleep. However that is not always the case as to why a person cannot sleep. Not being able to sleep at night could be an underlying symptom of another disease or condition. Some of these may include, depression, chronic pain, medications, stress, or maybe a lil bit of anxiety. Most of these can be helped with some form of medication.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2018 11:43am
Two answers are possible 1.I don't work enough during the day and so it's difficult for me to get asleep at night. 2.Something is really bothering me.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2018 5:34am
Its a common occurrence that could be due to thinking too much before sleeping or the light coming from your phone. I suggest not using your phone 15–30 minutes before you try to sleep.