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Why can't my mind stop thinking when I'm trying to sleep?

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Last Updated: 09/04/2021 at 6:28am
Why can't my mind stop thinking when I'm trying to sleep?
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Emily619
July 3rd, 2015 5:20am
Your mind cannot stop thinking when you are trying to sleep because your brain and mind are most active during that time. When you are trying to sleep, you are alone, and you usually think about life, and deep thoughts. It is difficult to not think about life during this time. Sometimes, I even think so much that I end up falling asleep, or maybe I don't even get sleep at all. Just try shifting your mind to a sleeping state, and enjoy your rest :)
hellolovelyhuman
July 3rd, 2015 7:23pm
Because that is the peak of your mental activity. It is the time when your brain cycles and tries to calm down enough to get you into the stages of sleep. Your subconscious mind is about to activate and in that state you cannot hide from the thoughts you push back day to day.
Stainedglass
July 4th, 2015 2:32pm
It likes to do that sometimes. Try turning it off for a while, force yourself onto a thought that's repetitive to move away from keeping your mind awake. I like to count as high as possible, i usually slow down and start to drift off somewhere around 200-300. Every time you lose track try to resume from the last number you remember and do your best to force away other thoughts in replacement for counting :)
Hiroko
July 4th, 2015 3:22pm
It is probably because of anxiety. You can barely breathe and your heart starts pumping really fast, which makes it impossible for you to sleep. A tip: Just try to stay calm and do everything you'd normally do: if you got a panic attack.
FreddieFarrell
July 4th, 2015 10:24pm
We are aware of a tiny fraction of the thinking that goes on in our minds, and we can control only a tiny part of our conscious thoughts. The vast majority of our thinking efforts goes on subconsciously. Only one or two of these thoughts are likely to breach into consciousness at a time. Slips of the tongue and accidental actions offer glimpses of our unfiltered subconscious mental life... Although thoughts appear to "pop" into awareness before bedtime, their cognitive precursors have probably been simmering for a while. Once those preconscious thoughts gather sufficient strength, the full spotlight of consciousness beams down on them. The mind's freewheeling friskiness is only partly under our control, so shutting our mind off before we sleep is not possible.
Kattastrophe
July 4th, 2015 10:26pm
Sometimes throughout the day we get so busy in life that we give ourselves little to no time to think about ourselves or what is important to us. So when we do finally lay our heads to rest all those thoughts come rushing within our minds. Often times we look at it as a negative nuisance but trying to turn it into a positive experience can actually help you fall asleep knowing that you're thinking about things in life and understanding that it's normal and other people go through the same. When we tend to think of it negativity it leaves us with some anxiety and maybe even some panic which doesn't help us sleep any easier! Be easier on yourself and enjoy the thought process ! Also try to work with the thoughts and put in some soothing sounds or thoughts within your mind to help you relax and eventually fall asleep.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 10:01am
Close your eyes. Focus on the colors you see. All the pretty rainbows in the darkness no one else can fathom. Count the infinities. Focus on the impossible.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 3:42pm
It's because our mind is always on the move, it can't stop at one place - be it when we're sitting for an exam, going to propose to our special one, playing a certain sport or even while going to sleep. It's just everywhere. The best thing that you can do is face your thoughts, write them down on a piece of paper or just close your eyes and bring up a good, convivial memory. Interestingly, you can also keep your brain busy by thinking the name of an animal or an insect for every letter of the English alphabet.
SocialButterfly31
July 5th, 2015 6:42pm
You should try an hour before you want to go to bed relax your mind. By doing this you need to not do anything active with your mind like watching tv, or playing video games and drinking coffee anything that could stop you from sleeping.
peachysunny
July 5th, 2015 8:38pm
try eating something or reading a book or doing something to distact yourselfand then make up dreams
amiableLove11
July 5th, 2015 10:03pm
Your mind is racing throughout the day and you want it to stop so that you can get to sleep. I recommend writing down your thoughts and issues about the day on a sheet of paper or journal before you get in bed. that way you have thought about the day beforehand and can get right to falling asleep.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 12:46am
Too many distractions or anxiety about an upcoming event. Probably reliving an embarrassing moment.
PennyLaine
July 8th, 2015 5:56am
For most people, sleep tends to come relatively easily. They become sleepy, prepare for bed, and within moments of settling down and relaxing sufficiently, they are swiftly on their way to dreamland. Some of us though, particularly those with a propensity to be analytical, even to the point of being over-analytical, having all the lights out and nothing to distract us from our thoughts is the perfect time for gears to start turning and for processing of the day's events, or current life stressors, to make their way to the front of our brains, which may become quite burdensome when the thing we'd most like to do is just rest. I know that, personally, it's taken many years for me to control these thought processes to allow me to drop quickly and comfortably into sleep. It's not an easy thing to learn, particularly for those of us who have the over-analytical brain problem, or who have many stressors in life that are apt to keep us awake at night. Some people certainly have other reasons for having their sleeping time invaded by unwanted thoughts, but for me, and for a good many others, it's simply because we have issues that we feel are unresolved, and it's much easier to not continue to revisit these issues when we're busy with our day to day activities, but much more difficult to push them to the back of our minds when we're lying in the dark and quiet of our bedrooms, with nothing to stop us from diverting our full attention to the issues that are cause for stress, or just something that we feel we have to process sufficiently so that we can put them to bed, and therefore allow ourselves to go to bed. :)
AffableBeeListens
July 8th, 2015 9:28am
The brain is wired to process lots of information during the day. However, when the stresses of life get to us, this activates the limbic region of our brains that is responsible for emotional processing and memory. When we are stressed we cannot process our feelings in any logical way, so this ends up increasing our anxiety and can contribute to sleep problems. Try using strategies such as deep diaphragmatic breathing, visual imagery and mindfulness in order to calm the brain down and distract it from all your fears and worries.
nojudgment101
July 8th, 2015 5:07pm
Because everything and everyone around you remind you of what you don't want to think of.and a little part of you want to think.
NiceCrow
July 8th, 2015 8:29pm
Probably it's because when everything is quiet your mind has time to think about everything, even if you don't want to do it.
Gilbertron
July 8th, 2015 9:48pm
That always happens to me! Its probably because you keep thinking about trying to sleep. It's a struggle, I know.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 2:05am
I can understand how you feel. Non-stop thinking can cause you to lose a lot of sleep. It sounds like you mind is racing?
ArisThuMan
July 9th, 2015 7:07am
Your mind can't stop thinking because you are not distracted with any of your daily tasks. Your senses are dulled because it is darker and quieter, and your body is immobile for the most part. Don't worry as much about how much you are thinking, but more about what you are thinking about. My personal resolutions are to focus on the sound of my breaths or my fan, or to create a story in my mind to distract me, haha.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 11:35am
You may have too many things on your mind, it sometimes helps to write a list of everything that is running through your mind, so that you can work though that list and try and achieve those things.
Personalitikhum
July 9th, 2015 2:31pm
Because sometimes the mind wants to be structured and organized. If the thoughts are kept in our heads, it would almost always be disorganized.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 3:58pm
It can be frustrating, inconvenient, and just plain annoying when you want to catch some shuteye, but can't! Are there physical factors making it harder for you to sleep? Try to avoid caffeine before bedtime, and turn off that cellphone+laptop or use a colored filter--blue light makes it harder for you to sleep. Perhaps some exercise during the day, as well as a calming cup of tea or a book before bed, will ease you into a relaxed state of mind. If you try to establish a set bedtime and wake time, it will be easier for your body to know when to sleep. As for your thoughts: when I find my mind racing as I sleep, I try to catch myself in the act so I can tell myself to pause, and take a deep breath. As I exhale, I allow myself to clear my mind. Focusing on the blackness behind my eyelids, and training myself to allow thoughts to escape, instead of ruminating upon them, helped me slowly relax. Being mindful of your thoughts might help you control them, so that you fall asleep easier. Perhaps meditation, or writing a list of what you are thinking about/what is bothering you will help you make sense of your thoughts in a tangible way. I hope this helps!
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 9:28pm
Your mind is not what sleeps. It is your body that sleeps. So focus on resting your body not your mind. If you cannot keep your body still for more than fifteen minutes, try sleeping pills (aka soporifics).
Oktotalk
July 10th, 2015 3:10am
It might be that you have insomnia. The best thing you can do is go and see your doctor. If it is insomnia your doctor will be able to diagnose it and help prescribe medication. You might want to try Melatonin
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 7:43am
The nighttime is usually when it's quiet and therefore gets your mind thinking. Though if you organize your thoughts before you go to bed and go to bed when you are really sleepy so that you are just going to fall asleep, 'm sure it'll help.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 1:17pm
it's because usually when we lie down to go to sleep,we have very less distractions to seat our mind at and also it may happen because we have developed a habit of thinking while we go to sleep
oldvital3
July 10th, 2015 5:15pm
it isn't your mind! it is you! you really need to stop think in the bad things when you're trying to sleep :)
butterflykisses27
July 10th, 2015 7:25pm
Sometimes something may have happened during your day that is stuck in your mind. Sometimes its something you have watched on tv that stays there when you think your ready for sleep. Sometimes its your brain trying to process something you might have unconsciously forgotten during the day.
BubblyWater
July 10th, 2015 10:41pm
When you're lying down, you've stopped distracting yourself from whatever is subconsciously bothering you. You're not playing video games, on your phone, watching TV, and so all of those thoughts kind of catch up with you! What's helped me in the past is writing a journal throughout the day to vent some of those thoughts out so they don't all catch up with me at night.
HisBestFriend1030
July 11th, 2015 5:06am
Sometimes it's because we are stressed out and have way too much on our minds and we cram everything in which keeps us up. Some times listening to music will distract those thoughts and helps us drift off.