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Why do I always have life reflecting thoughts before sleeping?

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Last Updated: 06/23/2020 at 9:48am
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March 9th, 2015 11:21pm
I know for me personally whenever I'm in bed, I'm no longer distracted by my phone, chores that need doing, or family members. Bed is where I can truly be alone with my thoughts. Also, there's something comforting about thinking about the past, even if it wasn't perfect. It's an escape from the present. I spend all day in the present, while at home doing chores, while in class, and while at work. When we're children, we escape the world by using our wild imaginations, but when we're adults we sadly lose much of that ability. Imagination turns into life reflection. Lastly, while sleeping, our minds sort through years of memories, fears, and wishes. It makes sense that we naturally start dwelling on these things before sleep, it's the beginning of the sleep process!
May 3rd, 2015 5:42am
I've read that this helps us sleep. usually thinking of what has occurred causes less planning and anxiety as thinking of the future. Also this reflection allows us to take note of our experiences their meaning, store memories, recuperate and manage emotional growth
August 11th, 2015 2:52am
Because you're human. Myself and I'm sure majority of the world think about life when they jump into bed. The good and the bad thoughts enter our brains as we're winding down. We're not focused on anything in particular so it may be the only time of the day we can think about ourselves. Meditation before bed is such a good way to wind down. Meditation will clear your head and erase any negative thoughts you have about life. Give it a try, it's worth a shot. If it's not for you, try reading a book etc. Keep yourself distracted and try to find things that will take your mind off of negative thoughts (that's if your life reflecting thoughts are negative!) Goodluck!
March 8th, 2015 6:03pm
Going to bed, for a lot of us, is the only time in the day when we actually have a few moments to stop everything that we're doing and just "be." As your lying there in bed, you're not balancing a checkbook, scribbling through homework problems, hastily cooking breakfast, or rushing to catch the bus to get to work. Your mind isn't preoccupied with the normal baggage in these moments, so it's natural that your thoughts would trend towards the more reflective, or philosophical.
April 10th, 2015 2:44am
Before sleep, one typically has that 'winding down' from the day phase...and with that one tends to let those thoughts appear. You're not multitasking through the day or focused on other things, so your mind tends to think about the other things now that it can focus on that.
May 22nd, 2015 6:06pm
I get these when I have something looming ahead that I am avoiding, or a decisions that I have yet to make.
July 20th, 2015 9:31pm
I seem to always have life reflecting thoughts before I go to sleep simply because I am relaxed and not distracted by the days activities.
August 4th, 2015 6:31pm
This may be because you have either got into a pattern of doing so which in turn can make your brain do it out of habit or it could be because, when it's quiet, like at bedtime, are brains can more than likely function more due to no or little distractions
November 2nd, 2015 12:33am
I think some of it is the brain preparing to shut down for sleep and reviewing all of the input from the day/week before. Our minds need time to process, and thinking about big questions is a good way for us to sort through all of the information in our brains.
November 23rd, 2015 1:53am
Because it's the way our brains are wired haha!!! During the day, we have things to occupy ourselves
June 6th, 2016 10:06pm
That is because you are normal. There is nothing to worry about. In fact be happy that you still have that room for positivity in your life.
October 8th, 2018 4:53pm
Personally, I have the same thoughts before I go to bed. I like to look at it this way; these thoughts can help me wake up better tomorrow with a sharper mindset and goals to achieve. I can use these life-reflecting thoughts to see what's truly important to me and which ones can stay on the back burner. These life reflecting thoughts can help me carefully think about the day and my life so I can sleep peacefully knowing that tomorrow brings new and more opportunities for success and growth. They can also help me think about my goals and what I want to do with my life.
June 23rd, 2020 9:48am
This is completely normal! In order to sleep, you close your eyes and relax yourself. There's honestly nothing else to do, so you just start having some deep thoughts. If you want to sleep faster or get these thoughts out differently, I would suggest talking to someone you live with for five minutes every night before going to bed. It can just get out a lot of thoughts and make you sleepy. If you live alone or this doesn't seem like a good option, you can write in a journal every night before going to sleep to get these thoughts out of your head.