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Why do I always think about my problems right when I lie down to sleep?

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Last Updated: 04/27/2021 at 4:22pm
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April 8th, 2015 4:49am
This is very normal because when we're about to sleep, it's the time where we don't have something to do or focus at. That's why our mind tends to wander off to different places, including the problems. Thinking about the problems it's fine, as long as you don't ruminate on it, leading to lack of sleep. If you find yourself thinking too much leading to lack of sleep, then bring your mind back to the current and now. Remind yourself it's time to sleep.
May 5th, 2015 6:27am
Problems coming up is the mind telling us that something is wrong and that needs to be healed. Sleep is a time when the brain processes information and emotions and also it's hard to get to sleep with everything out of order. You may need more time to wind-down, or you may need to do some introspection and see what areas you need to address inside of yourself so it's not hitting you all at once when you lie down to sleep.
June 7th, 2015 4:53am
Theres nothing else to focus on when you're just laying there! When we're busy we don't really have time to think about whats bothering us.
June 7th, 2015 9:08pm
I feel like I start to really think about my problems as I go to sleep because the simpler problems from the moment-to-moment of the regular day fade away, and I am left thinking solely about the bigger questions.
March 1st, 2015 9:12am
Because that is when you are not distracted, Your mind is empty of day to day things and so wanders to other problems, I know this can be annoying and mean you have a lack of sleep, but mindfulness can be very useful in this situation, check out the 7 cups guides for it
June 5th, 2015 6:17pm
I believe it's because as you start the process of sleeping. You then beginning to think more, and you thinking can become clearly then during the day.
September 1st, 2015 10:29am
I feel that when you are laying in bed, that's when you look back at the whole day. Its best to try and think positively before sleeping.
February 16th, 2016 3:52am
You have racing thoughts. You may have drank caffeine early in the afternoon. If there is always something on your mind in bed, keep a notebook near your bed so you can write down things that come to your mind and you don't have to worry about them. Turn your electronics off. If you need more help send me a message. :)
October 17th, 2016 5:53pm
I tend not to allow myself to fully process things as they happen, therefore everything comes up and out when my mind is beginning to quiet.
October 19th, 2016 1:04pm
Maybe because you were really busy during the day and focused your attention somewhere else? When you lie down to sleep, you tend not to focus on anything and nothing catches your attention so naturally, your mind drifts to your problems. It's totally normal, by the way - don't worry about it! If it causes you trouble because you can't sleep, then perhaps you should try taking your mind off things by counting sheep or thinking positive thoughts.
December 20th, 2016 4:31am
This is a time where you start to relax. As your brain starts to relax it tries to understand your memories and make sense out of them. If you have stressful unresolved issues the brain tries to resolve these stressful thoughts before relaxing. I try to talk about my feeling/thoughts to someone before trying to go to bed. This helps our mind understand and organize our memories without losing more sleep than needed. Talking with a listener or logging on to a chat could be beneficial to helping you sleep.
March 21st, 2017 8:33pm
This is probably because it is a dark comfortable area where you can be quiet and your brain can process all your problems. A lot of people experience this, including myself. You're not alone! Feel free to talk to others like myself or any of member of 7 cups of tea! We as a community are here to help!
July 14th, 2020 9:13am
All of us experience good days and bad days — and when we lie down to sleep, we often re-experience challenging emotions that arise from any unpleasent, traumatic situations. At worse times, the sufferer may have persistent severe insomnia. This situation sucks energy out of the sufferer and leaves him/her so exhausted that he/she has trouble getting out of bed in the morning or doing basic activities. If you suspect that you have signs of one of these mental health conditions, seek help n support early.Recognise n overcome it with professional help in processing any problematic conditions. The key is to seek help early.
April 27th, 2021 4:22pm
Think about it, when you are busy you are less likely to focus on your problems or concerns, but when you are not busy your mind goes towards those things. I would say not to avoid it, just try to find a way to solve what is bothering, a way to cope with that. We cannot solve all our problems at once, trying to put them in a list and see which one needs to be a priority might help. It could help you to identify what needs your attention the most, maybe picking sometime in your day to do this can help you to not be focusing on it before going to sleep. The idea of having to solve all of your problems might make you feel anxious, and stress. Journaling might help. If you decide to try the list, you could write next to it what can you do about it, how can you solve it. Maybe writing things down could help you organize your thoughts and have a clear idea on what to do. - Hope that helps :)