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How not to sound weird when talking to authority?

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Last Updated: 11/26/2021 at 4:59pm
How not to sound weird when talking to authority?
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kevsayz
August 14th, 2016 5:39pm
Prepare what you want to say in advance. Think about the message you want to send, what you want to say, and how you want to say it. Consider how different interactions may have different outcomes. How well do you know the authority figure you are speaking to? What is their personality like? Speaking up to authority takes practice! Try not to get too down on yourself if it doesn't go well the first time around.
lovingLynx89
August 17th, 2016 12:35am
Three words, openness, respect for you and the authority and carefully choose your words. You have to listen, keep your mind open to authority but decide what to do to keep good relationship with authority and still remain true to yourself
gentleBubbles37
August 18th, 2016 2:49am
Just be confident and talk professionally. If you can sound smart and responsible than they will respect you.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2016 3:30am
be firm and confident, speak clearly about the subject and think of them as a helping hand not as a higher figure.
HelpingHand315
August 23rd, 2016 7:01pm
Just keep in mind that they are just a person. like you. Even if they might be above you, when it comes to your work/job status or something along those lines they are just a human. You don't have to be scared of them, jut be polite and friendly and it'll be okay :)
Melanie015
August 25th, 2016 9:59am
Just be calm. And have confidence in what you are saying.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 4:57am
Take a few deep breaths and pretend they are just another person because they are just like you and me
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 3:34pm
Just speak to them like you're speaking to elderly/people you really respect or look up to (even though you might not respect them, but believe me it is better for everyone)
CoffeeCakes
August 28th, 2016 5:37am
I have really bad social anxiety and when I want to talk to somebody of authority, I tell myself to calm down, then I think out what I want to say. It may sound weird, but it really helps. Then, you should politely go up to them and tell them what's wrong and then just try to calm down. Take deep breaths while you can and don't try to freak yourself out. You should try tapping your finger on your leg if that helps :)
JudyMoonshine
August 28th, 2016 10:28am
When speaking with an authority figure, talk to him or her first and foremost with respect. Speak as calmly and rationally as you can and they will immediately recognize that they are dealing with a normal, rational person. This will make the conversation much easier.
keepfighting22Lexi
September 4th, 2016 5:31pm
Have confidence in yourself and be respectful, that's all it takes! If you assert yourself in a respectful way, they'll be impressed.
Lastnightsnews98
September 13th, 2016 9:32am
I usually try to bow my head down a little bit and speak with total respect. I know it may seem hard but they appreciate it.
SandyCream
September 29th, 2016 9:26pm
Respect. Talk to them showing that you respect their autority , maybe refer to them as Mr/s/x , by their surname or their tittle. Don't act as if you know better than them or can do their work better (some may be unfriendly people but it wont work in your favour getting in their black list) . But remember that in the end they are just humans like you with families , friends etc.. outside their job so they won't judge you too hard if you seem akward if you are not offensive.
funnyHeart83
October 22nd, 2016 11:48am
Remembering that we're all human and that you're no better than anyone else and no one else is better than you. Simply be respectful and honest
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 4:27am
Be polite and avoid sensitive topics to talk about. Try to be honest about your opinion without diminished the opinion of others.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 11:15am
Remember they are simply just a human being just like you. They have their insecurities too. So just try to talk to them with the respect you'd give your parents and don't let it get more weird than that.
moonlightdragon
November 9th, 2016 7:40am
Just talk like how you would with any other human being, but just adjusting your speech to formal. Being polite and knowing with who you're talking to it's more than enough. They don't cease to be human beings.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2016 10:04am
try to think what you need to say first then talk to them in a polite manner. cite the issue of the problem and make sure it is clear to the authority available. do not talk to them impolite because that would only escalate the situation.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2016 10:59am
Speaking to authority can sometimes seem as a nerve-wracking thing in which we find ourselves thinking we're sounding weirdly! However, the case may very well be that our nerves are just in overdrive and we actually sound find! It should always be kept in mind to remain polite, respectful, and thoughtful when speaking to authority is what I believe.
Anonymous
December 11th, 2016 4:46pm
You have to remember that they're people, too. They are not a mystical authority figure. They're normal people with normal problems. So just speak to them like you would to a normal person: respectfully, kind and honestly.
Aurora131
December 17th, 2016 5:00am
Speak confidently with head held high, a firm tone and eye contact. Body language is especially important when speaking to someone that is a figure of authority. Good posture symbolizes that you're relaxed, a firm tone suggests that you're sure of what you're saying and eye contact ensures that trust is established and that what you are saying is meant to be taken seriously. Stuttering or pauses are completely normal in these situations due to the anxiety associated with talking to an authority figure. Whether it's your boss or a cop, the key to speaking confidently plays a great deal in how your message is conveyed and how receptive people are to it. It's best to keep things simple instead of elaborate wording that implies a beating around the bush type of thing. Having a lot
friendlylittlefox
December 22nd, 2016 8:51pm
I found that the best thing to do is first, listen. Authority figures are still people, and it's easy to lose sight of this due to the presence of "power" - i.e.; a badge, a title, a diploma, a social status. Listen, observe, and reciprocate. Do as they do, and speak as they say. Imitation is not only a form of flattery, but also a way to connect with others on a seemingly deeper level, while equalizing the balance between you. Now, you don't want to mock them literally word-for-word, but imitate their gestures, their tone, and their vocabulary. For example: Your boss might stand straight and tall, speak clearly, and in few concise and accurate words. While greeting him, you may say: "Hi Tom, how are you?" and not say: "Hey Tom, how are things going?" When discussing problems, you'd be straightforward, like: "The order is late. I can call the shipping company and inquire about an early morning delivery." and avoid bouncing around the issue indirectly, like: "So, the order hasn't gotten here yet... I don't know where it is... but I could probably see if the shippers would send it to us tomorrow, maybe early in the morning, or I'll just see what they can do." Reciprocate their vibe, and you will feel better about your communication abilities with that person of authority.
oxyg
December 29th, 2016 10:43pm
Stay cool, calm and collected. Don't overthink your words and speak clearly. Be respectful and cooperate as well!
Anonymous
February 1st, 2017 8:13am
Think that they are the same as you. You should show respect but be strong about your arguments and defend your opinion, as is as valid as anyone else's.
CaptainObviouslyOblivious
February 17th, 2017 3:11am
Well, the thing about Authority is that there's a difference between authority and respect. Being respectful and thinking before you speak is always a safe path to take, but be aware that some people with authority like to throw their weight around. This question is a bit circumstantial, i'm afraid. Try not to panic, I suppose. ;)
Anonymous
March 8th, 2017 7:14pm
Sometimes sounding weird is because you have not listened to the question and begin rambling when giving an answer. Best thing is to listen to what has been said, think of the answer and speak clear and slowly. Not silly slow, but slow your body down. Remember if you have not dont anything wrong then there is nothing to worry about. Other than that, be friendly and you will begin talking like you would normally talk to a friend!
ButterflyofEmpathy
March 11th, 2017 8:56pm
First, understand that they are people, just like you. Imagine you're talking to a friend, but be respectful. The more practice you have, the more natural it will feel. Be polite and respectful but don't worry too much.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2017 7:30pm
Confidence is key. Know what you're talking about and stick to the subject and get to the point, rather than stalling and beating around the bush. Remember that the authority figure is just like you. They're just another person in uniform. But most importantly, respect. Talk to them politely, just like you would like to be treated. Confidence, respect and gratitude (depending on the situation). Gratitude will lighten up the mood, maybe loosen your nerves a little and help create a positive vibe of the atmosphere.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2017 5:34am
Try to relax a little bit and realize that if you haven't done anything wrong you have nothing to worry about. Authorities can be intimidating sometimes and its okay to feel nervous even if you haven't done anything that might've gotten you in trouble. Just let loose and relax imagine that you're talking to a friend but in a formal way
Helpfulsmiles16
April 26th, 2017 8:13pm
Always remember to remain respectful! Respect is the key when talking and addressingredients anyone in your life, but especially authority figures! Remember your tone and body language are key, hold yourself well and you'll be fine! :)
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