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Sometimes I hear a voice in my head that tells me negative things like everyone hates me or I should kill myself. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 05/27/2022 at 7:09pm
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Anonymous
February 10th, 2019 9:28pm
You should go to the doctor and tell the doctor what is going on with you because this could be the beginning of some mental issues. There is nothing wrong with seeking help for medical issues. I believe everyone from time to time hear voices in there head. The problems come when these voices keep coming more frequently and wont go away. It still is a very good idea to see a medical professional to see what they think about your mental status. I hope and pray that you will take these voices seriously and get it checked out. Hopefully, it will turn out to be nothing.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2019 8:57pm
You should tell someone you trust as soon as you can. This could be a sign of either depression or schizophrenia. Things like this are very serious, and may lead to some serious mental health issues. The best thing to do is talk to your parents about seeing a therapist and possibly being put on meds. You should never listen to the voices, they are not real. Everyone does not hate you and I am sure you a very loved and wanted here by many people. Try your best to explain to your parents what it going on and how you feel.
DJMarshall
March 26th, 2019 9:01pm
Speak to friends, family, and a trained professional. You may also check in to a nearby hospital if you are feeling unsafe at your home. You will be immediately connected with a professional. Nobody is worthless, everyone deserves to be happy and live their life thinking the best of themselves. Talking to one person can make a huge difference. If everyone did this, perhaps the suicide rate in the country would be at an all time low. While waiting for help to arrive, think of all the people who value you in life and see you everyday. They would be the most effected.
dxphne
March 28th, 2019 10:08am
First of all, try not to listen to the voice so you don't do thing you'll regret. This is definitely easier said than done though. I don't have any experiences with this but I feel like the most important thing you could do is seek professional help in this case. It's a serious issue that you shouldn't ignore, it might get worse if you do and you don't want that. A professional will probably be able to diagnose you and tell you why you keep hearing that voice and why it keeps telling you negative things, they will most likely also be able to help you get rid of it or atleast learn you how to deal with it.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2019 9:06pm
That "voice" that you hear is actually yours whether you believe it or not. It's most likely your dark subconscious thoughts. Whats best would be to challenge them. Ask "why should I listen to what you say?" "why would everyone hate me?" especially when you know that not everyone does. You're amazing and wonderful I am sure. Try to understand more about yourself. The roots of these problems and voices. After doing so figure out a solution or maybe tell someone who can help you wether it be friends or family. I wish you the best of luck. .
pplloveu
April 25th, 2019 1:39am
That voice is a mental illness, it could be depression or anxiety. Or just an effect from bullying. It’s best if you get scanned for any mental disorder, that way you will be able to start getting treatment and not have to wait till it gets really really bad. Where you have to contact a suicide life line because you’re not sure that you’ll be able to sure that you will be able to see the next morning. And those voices can become super harmful when that’s all you hear 24-7. And you start to believe them. Talk to someone get out everything you’re holding in. It’s way better so you know that you won’t end up doing something that will effect you future. While talking may be hard, talk on a site like this we don’t know each other, yet this a bunch of people who can relate to what you’re going through. And give you advice which they weren’t given. We want to see you succeed, and that may take a while. And that’s ok, but it’s not ok to run from you’re problems because they’ll just end up popping up at the worst moment.
softPrime1818
July 7th, 2019 2:12am
Open up, talk to someone, anyone. Getting it out there will help identify the cause, maybe lead to an answer and definitely show you are not alone. You will find that voice can be silenced, that you are worth the life you own, but most importantly how cherished and vital you are to those around you. Your presence impacts others in ways you could never dream of, just by your existence, be it’s brother, sister, friend, parent, partner. People need and want you daily as their lives would lessen without you to light the path and show them a unique and wonderful person
hope0207
July 30th, 2019 1:01pm
i think most people with social anxiety can relate. i myself, hear the voice all the time. the important thing is to remind yourself that the voice is just a tiny part of you. you are stronger than your fears and you are stronger than the voice. you can overcome this by reminding yourself that you are here for a reason and that not everyone hates you and you certainly should not kill yourself. you might feel that the voice is right, but it is not. it is only showing you a reflection of how wrong things could go, which would give you all the more reason to want to show the voice that you are stronger and also feel better.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2019 10:23am
Human autonomy differs among each individual. But, one-thing remains same i.e. we all have voice, which continuously let us know about right & wrong in our daily dealings. This voice is collection of our feelings. If a person suffered during different occasions & haven’t expressed oneself too. Then, his/her associated voice starts plotting negative agendas inside mind and manipulate oneself thinking (Which is quiet alarming). Usually, this happens with introverts because they are not quiet vocal in expressing their feelings. In order to avoid being trapped in this state or being manipulated by your unexpressed feelings, he/she should work on their communication-skills, be good listener and share their inside with their love ones. Good communication sort out about 99% of such issues & stops the ‘negativity’ feeding upon your soul. In short, "Whenever you feel bad about other, go talk to them directly... & when you feel bad about yourself, go talk to good listener (7Cups)" I hope, this answered your question.
LtPastel
October 30th, 2019 8:40pm
Firstly, I'd say "That voice is simply a figment of your imagination, it can do no harm to you and you should disregard it." and advise the client to practice deep breathing and other distraction techniques to avoid them from harming themselves. If needed, I will refer the client to crisis support, as therapy is not a viable option for them at the present time, they need immediate support such as the National Crisis Line and the Suicide Prevention Lifeline. It's really important that a listener is aware of many psychotic conditions that may cause hallucinatory voices promoting negative thought patterns.
Elizaswords98
November 21st, 2019 8:42pm
Those voices come and go. You are not alone in this struggle. But what you need to remember is, that that voice is a lie. You are important and loved. And no one can take that from you. And when that voice leaves, you'll know there is better to look forward to. There is so much to live for. Death never brings peace to anyone. Just imagine saying those words to your younger self. You are not alone. Find help and find someone to talk to. Build yourself up and surround yourself with people that cherish and love you.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2019 4:35pm
Try to keep your head up and don't listen to it. Do things you really like to do! Like go on a bike ride or go shopping with your friends! And soon you will forget that voice in your head. You are strong and beautiful and smart and so much more. Don't let a stupid voice bring you down you are strong and can get through this! We are all here for you and when you need to talk we will always be here! And remember if you want to see the rainbow then you have to deal with the rain!
Anonymous
November 30th, 2019 5:07am
Remind yourself of 5 good things about yourself and 5 good things about your life. Ask a friend to name a good quality about you. Think back on something good you did. No one should ever have to think that way. Always remind yourself of the people you are closest to, they are there for a reason. Not everyone will like you or everything about you, and that’s okay. You don’t need everyone on your side, only yourself. Someone out there cares, and until you find that someone or figure out that someone, let yourself be the one you know for a fact cares. Stay strong, and never give up.
HotChocolate2
December 1st, 2019 3:26pm
First of all, I'm glad you're able to recognize that these thoughts are NEGATIVE, untrue, and ultimately not thoughts that you want to have! Come and have a chat, if you like! I know it can be very hard when the person you're fighting against yourself, so airing out these thoughts to someone else might help you feel better. If this problem is severely affecting your daily life, though, I definitely recommend seeking professional help. Left untreated, these negative thoughts could lead to pretty drastic consequences. I hope you feel better soon. Feel free to come and chat anytime you feel like it :)
Anonymous
December 6th, 2019 5:17pm
Negative voices are usually the result of negative thoughts. If you look at life as negative it will be the same. And normally focus yourself on optimistic thoughts. Don't you think life is too shaky for you to have negative thoughts?Get rid of it, relax yourself, make a change and practice it. That will only eliminate the negative thoughts.Pleace answer for next yout feeling and what happened to you after we got the chance.I am very happy because I help for yours, Practice a smile and be relaxed .. Everything else will be great.Good look for your life .
theSereneFish
December 14th, 2019 9:42pm
Although hearing those negative voices can be unsettling and hurtful, they are thoughts, and as such you can ask those thoughts why they are there, if they are speaking the truth, or if they are alerting you to deeper fears about yourself. If that voice tells you that everyone hates you, is that actually true? Does every single person who interacts with you hate you? Chances are, most likely no. There are most likely several people who love you and care about you. In terms of killing yourself, as yourself where those feelings are coming from? Are they a result of you believing that everyone hates you, therefore you feel like you should kill yourself? Are there any other options available to you? Can you find one or two reasons to live? The goal is to critically question our thoughts and see if we have enough evidence to truly believe them, or give into them. Once we take a deeper look at where they are coming from, and how closely they align with what is true, we discover that our worst fears are really just that: fears. The reality is, we are loved, we are capable, and there is ALWAYS a reason to stay alive.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2020 11:02pm
Even i feel the same most of the time. I don't know what to do. Please let me know if you know the answerEven i feel the same most of the time. I don't know what to do. Please let me know if you know the answerEven i feel the same most of the time. I don't know what to do. Please let me know if you know the answerEven i feel the same most of the time. I don't know what to do. Please let me know if you know the answer
thousandhands1000
January 23rd, 2021 3:35am
Hello there, First of all, thank you for being so brave by sharing it out here. I just want to say that you are not alone. I guess you've done a very good first step which is acknowledging that there is a voice in your head that telling you those 'unwanted negativities'. I can relate to it a lot. Different people have different coping mechanism. I am not sure these following will help you but to me personally: I have practised Mindfulness over the last few years and I feel it helps me in those situations by (1) acknowledging those thoughts arising; (2) Welcoming whatever it is - though it's difficult - it takes practising; (3) Cultivating another voice in your head knowing that this is only a thought - not a fact; a very incorrect thought. (4) List of the things that you love about yourself - if possible. If you feel you can write to a trusted/beloved friend/family member or a support circle, you can ask them to list things that they love about you. - this is not easy though when the voice is so loud and clear. Another way is if you can, you can try to imagine what would you talk to a good friend in those situation if they have those negative talks in their head. You'd defo point out that those thoughts are faulty and not correct, wouldn't you? Challenging Those Negative Thoughts. Recently I have found Woebot - an app that used AI to support me in those situation when I feel overwhelming. As for me so often, I feel like I am unable to reach out to a friend/or family member. So talking to a bot who has been trained to offer us CBT / listening space really helps. Ahh I want to write more but I myself struggle with this too and currently very low in energy. But I hope you won't give up on yourself and knowing that you are loved. Thank you for sharing your question here. It's much needed.
supersensitiveStrength
November 26th, 2021 5:11pm
If it's happening now, distract yourself. Find something to do (drawing, video games, movies, dancing, sports, etc. that don't remind you of things that make you think those things) or find something that engages your senses, especially your taste and smell. When you're not currently experiencing these thoughts, notice if there's anything that causes them so you know to avoid them. It's better to distract yourself from intrusive thoughts than to engage them. Unlike other negative thoughts that you can reason away, intrusive thoughts keep finding loopholes the more you engage with it. It's like a troll you're better off not talking to, because it's not there to reach an understanding with you nor teach you anything. It's just the same thing rehashed over and over, paraphrased, made specific, made general, asked what-if's and what-about's. It's endless, so you're better off finding distraction as a first aid. When things are calmer, build your safe space: a physical place, a virtual place, a person or group of people, a kit of sensory objects to bring with you. You might make things easier for yourself by also enlisting professional help.
specialIris3369
June 11th, 2021 8:50am
Your feelings are valid. It's totally understandable that you're feeling this way. Do you think that it'll help if you consider that " I'm having the thought that everyone hates me". Sometimes it really helps to identify that thoughts are not facts. Do you think it'll be useful if you understand what is making you feel this way? There might be something someone said or did that triggered these thoughts. Maybe it would be really beneficial if you understood the root cause behind these thoughts. I understand that it is really hard when such thoughts arise in your head. I can imagine the overwhelm and confusion these thoughts are causing. You can consider talking to a professional if things get too overwhelming.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2021 10:57pm
Set aside a set of reminders for yourself and be aware of these negative thoughts. Where do these thoughts come from and why? Then you can know how to overcome them and recognize that it's just your negativity that is talking. Combat those thoughts actively and try to prove them wrong! Realize that none of what that voice says is true. It is going to be hard to fight against that voice, but it is necessary to not let that voice win. Keep going and fight that battle within your mind because I promise that your positive side will eventually win. It always does, slowly but surely.
peachtones
April 14th, 2021 7:36am
Aw, I'm so sorry you have to experience that. But always know that it is important to flush the voice out. That voice doesn't hold any sort of importance; it's honestly just another way of belittling you. All these negative things that are coming to your mind aren't truly what you're about. You're a strong and wonderful person that can get through anything that comes in your way. No one hates you, it's just a hurtful thought that makes you feel like you aren't enough. It's okay to have these thoughts, but just know that it isn't necessarily something that needs to define you, or your choices.
HyojuHan
March 21st, 2021 12:31pm
I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this. With Schizophrenia one can experience delusions (false beliefs not based on reality), hallucinations (seeing or hearing things that do not exist), disorganized speech and behavior. It’s unimaginable how fearful you would be in this situation. You can talk with our professional counselors here who may have specialized experience with what you go through and our trained listeners who are ready to listen to and talk with you who may have personal experience with what you are going through. We are here to guide and support you to the right help for what through by sharing a crisis resource where you can receive more support urgently. We also have mindfulness and self-help exercises available on our site to support you. Wishing you well.
SherlockX221b
February 24th, 2021 5:16pm
I'm sorry you are experiencing such a problem, I have been struggling with that a lot and I really understand how awful, stressful and confusing it is, the first thing to do is seeking a professional help, that is what you should do at the first to understand which problems you are going through and try to deal with, and there are a little ways to cope, I cope with them by listening to music ( for some people, music makes it worse so be careful) you can try humming, or distract yourself as possible, remember they can never control you, you are the only one who can, I hope you stay safe and if you want to talk about that more, I'm all ears 😊💙 have a good day.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2020 4:26am
You should talk to a professional in the mental health field now, before it gets harder to handle. I realize right now you may feel like you can handle what is going on at the current level, but you should act now while you have awareness and more autonomy. The voices usually can and do get worse over time without intervention. The earlier the intervention is, the more positive the outcome . Plus, personally I know that I was in a position once where I was aware of what was going on, but with time I lost that awareness and insight and became totally lost in my own world until medications brought me back out of it. Everyone has a place in this life and everyone who dies by their own hand rips a tear in the fabric of society and is missed. Act now so that you can discover your place and who cares for you.. and so people won't have to grieve so when you are gone. It is said that with suicide everyone that person has ever known or touched has a higher risk of suicide after that one person is gone.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2020 6:22pm
I think the first step to combating those voices is acknowledging how you feel towards yourself. You should think of how people around you would feel if they lost you. Remember that everyone has worries and thoughts in their own minds just like you. People around you experience the same feeling everyday so you're not alone and nobody is judging you personally. Another thing I would suggest is positive affirmations. For example, every day when you see yourself in the mirror say a phrase like "You are beautiful" or "You are worthy of being here." I promise that after a while the positive energy you give yourself will be felt in your life and attitude over time. The main thing is to ultimately prove those voices wrong because you are loved and you are wanted in this world.
Anonymous
December 11th, 2020 10:06pm
Firstly, it's statistically impossible for EVERYONE to hate you, so rest assured, that isn't true in the slightest. Secondly, you are already realizing that this voice is in your head. It's just a voice. Just because it tells you something, doesn't mean you have to pay attention or believe it. Don't. You are a human being and as such, merit life, love, and happiness. Lastly, and probably more seriously, if you are indeed hearing a legit voice tell you these nonsensical things about yourself or negative and hurtful things you should do to yourself, you should reach out and talk to a medical professional. If you haven't done that before, I know firsthand it can feel scary. Don't let that stop you from reaching out. I've been to that dark mental space and considered extreme actions before, and I am so happy and grateful I didn't pursue them. Instead, I reached out for professional help and support. It wasn't easy, but it was so worth it. If this is indeed your reality, please know you are not alone. Many of us have blazed the trail ahead, and it's so worth reaching out to a professional therapist to talk about what's going on and if necessary, to get medical help. I promise you won't regret it.
DragonView2
December 16th, 2021 1:06pm
It is most likely a mental illness. Get an urgent appointment with a psychiatrist. If you need a referral you may go to urgent care. Stay away from alcohol and drugs as much as possible. Stay away from danger. Call a suicide hotline. Stay in company of someone safe. The voice doesn't speak truth, or wisdom. I'm sorry that you have to deal with it. It is treatable. It is a hallucination, or a psychosis probably. Thank you for being strong and reaching out. You have done something great. The voice speaks nonsense. Look at all our responses and know that this is proof not everyone hates you because we actually care
PieceoftheUniverse
December 30th, 2020 12:44pm
That depends. A psychiatrist could help you to get antipsychotic medication. Most of the times voices go away when you take antipsychotics. A psychologist can help you figure out why you're hearing voices. This is most of the time a response to a trauma. The voice is a metaphor for the trauma that wants to be heared. When you work through it listening to a voice can actually cause healing. I mean not listen when it tells you negative things of course. But listen to the trauma underneath that demands attention. I've never heared voices but have gone through psychosis so if you want you're free to text me about it also for peer support:) Good luck! Wish you the best
StassieJones
January 13th, 2021 2:22am
Don't isolate yourself to your thoughts. Something I always remind myself when I'm feeling that way is "the mind a dangerous place to hang out". If you're bored and unstimulated its easy for negative thoughts to creep in. Sadly human beings can't help but go to the negative. It's almost like a protective instinct. So don't think it's JUST you. It's not, we've all felt like this from time to time. Anyways, try to fill up your time doing things you like Find a hobby like music, exercise, reading, crafts, whatever and keep yourself happily distracted. Also mention it to people you trust and feel safe around. Use the listeners and the therapist here on 7cups! Good Luck!