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Sometimes I hear a voice in my head that tells me negative things like everyone hates me or I should kill myself. What should I do?

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colorfulUnicorn23
April 23rd, 2017 6:03pm
Practicing self love is the solution to this, the hate that you've accumulated for yourself over the years is whats bringing in those thoughts. Look at yourself in the mirror and observe yourself you'll instantly love yourslt and youll realise how lovable your are and the same voice will then tell you how lovable you are
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 8:32pm
I think it would be best to seek professional help. A counselor, therapist, or doctor, maybe? I have had this happen to me and I find it's good to distract myself, or talk to someone that cares for me about what I'm going through.
Lfesfadedmmries
May 27th, 2017 3:56am
It's common to hear negative things in your mind, especially if you have anxiety or depression. But it is helpful when this is happening to think of the positive things. There are people who care about you, think of them and what they would say to you if you told them you felt that way. Think of how they would assure you of your worth and importance to them. These thoughts are often temporary and distracting yourself from them can also help. If you are afraid that you might actually hurt yourself you should call 911 or crisis services to get professional help in a safe environment.
Shannon4000
June 2nd, 2017 9:28pm
If you are having suicidal thoughts, call an ambulance or the suicide hotline. To deal with other negative thoughts, finding an outlet like art or music is a big help. If these thoughts are constantly interfering with your life, dont be afraid to speak up and talk to somebody. In the end, you'll feel better you did.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2017 7:34pm
Go in front of the mirror and give a good stare and remind that voice of the strength you behold. Tell it that you are not afraid and you definitely are not backing down any soon.
huhhaleigh
June 27th, 2017 7:59am
I think you should tell someone, those thoughts are not easy to carry on your shoulders alone. Let someone help you.
jodiejasmine
July 8th, 2017 1:08pm
A lot of people struggle with being told toxic things from a voice within their head. It's important to realise that the voice isn't real and doesn't reflect the truth - if this issue persists it's a good idea to see a doctor or therapist for a professional opinion.
euqin96
July 9th, 2017 4:29am
DO NOT LISTEN TO THAT VOICE. I personally had and still having the same experience, but I try to fight or distract myself from those. I usually play songs that will help me to feel enthusiastic or at least cool everything down.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2017 4:14pm
This probably will be difficult, but telling someone seems like one of the best options. Tell a parent, teacher, trusted adult. Someone who can help you get the help you need. Also, do not believe what that voice tells you. If you can, tell a doctor or a therapist.
HopeFaithLove7
July 19th, 2017 6:57am
How we perceive ourselves is entirely different from how others perceive us. They say a habit can be broken by engaging into another habit. Thinking negative things about ourselves may be lessened if we do good deeds or commit to activities that unleash your other potentials.
contentedDreamer86
August 18th, 2017 6:34pm
Ask yourself about the good qualities you have In you. about things you feel great about yourself, when you do them. About how you can affect others' lives in a positive way. And realize you are indeed worthy.
RoseMari158
September 14th, 2017 2:24am
Tell some one what's going on so you can get help, be it from a patent, teacher,or consoler, you should get some help.
Gentle143
September 21st, 2017 7:11am
I think we all go through hard times and sometimes we need a little extra help to sort things out. It's ok to reach out and talk to someone. Telling someone what's going on is a great first step to feeling better. Negative thoughts and feelings can wear you down and make things seem hopeless. But there is hope and people here to support you and help you feel better.
LexaLexy
October 20th, 2017 5:54pm
That sounds like it could be something serious going on. Take some time to think about your own safety, and try to see some professional help. You don't deserve to live with thoughts like that, and there are lots of people and resources that can help you.
fruitySunset76
November 5th, 2017 10:07am
Practising positive self talk can be really helpful. When the voice in your head tells you that everyone hates you and that you should kill yourself, instead use a positive comeback like "No, I have no evidence to prove that everyone hates me. I have friends/family that love me" or "I deserve to live a happy life so therefore I shouldn't kill myself." It can be really hard at first, but over time it can be a really useful technique to use.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 9:35am
try to ignore your voice, and try to tell it to a therapist. when you hear a voice it means your mind is confused and you need support for this, asking for help is not something to be ashamed of
wonderfullHoney85
January 3rd, 2018 6:53pm
don't listen to those voices. always remember you re amazing no matter what. things can get difficult but things to get better
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 5:49pm
Positivity is always important. Difficult, but important. It's sometimes the small voice inside our minds that can affect us emotionally. However, although we can't control the events that happen to us, we can control how we react to them. We have the power to be positive.
DelicateEllie
January 5th, 2018 11:45pm
Tell that little voice its wrong! When intrusive thoughts spring up, it's important to be aware of them. Once you are aware, then you can proceed to changing them. If that little voice is negative, and being a jerk, then you have to change those negative comments into positive ones. Stating reassuring, positive statements aloud can really alter your mood (for the better)!
LovingHeart123
January 6th, 2018 12:55am
Acknowledge those thoughts and think. 1) are they accurate 2) are they helpful. If the answers no. Then identify the thought. Identify that it’s not true. And change it. Change it from “everyone hates me” to “I am loved by many even if a few people dislike me”
softSugar96
January 13th, 2018 1:51am
That must be difficult. If you are continually experiencing these suicidal thoughts, called suicidal ideation, it might be a good idea to seek professional care.
loyaltyWithin19
January 13th, 2018 2:37pm
I would seriously advise going to see a therapist if this is the case. These voices are trying to influence you in a way that could leave you in danger
Jennifer164
January 13th, 2018 3:33pm
Dear I don't want to scare you but these are called hallucination.You should try meeting a psychologist or a psychiatrist for this issue.Till then keep questioning the voices you hear.Stay safe and take care of yourself.
Graficcha
January 17th, 2018 4:17pm
Therapy approaches to help deal with inner critics and negative voices exist. Once thing to remember is that having this experience does not make you broken or a bad person, and that there are ways to learn how to cope with this sort of trouble. ACT therapy is one type of approach that can help you learn how to gain some safe distance from these intrusive thoughts - it may be worth connecting with a professional to help you integrate this into your life.
YourPersonalPal
January 24th, 2018 2:33am
Everyday when you wake up go to the mirror. Stare at that beautiful person in the eyes and say “you are a truly gorgeous human being. You could not possibly be any better than you already are. I’m glad I get to be you, there no one else I’d rather be. You are loved and a significant part of a lot of people’s lives.”
preciouscinnamonroll
February 10th, 2018 3:01pm
I myself have experienced this voice before. I always remember that there’s not one, but two voices. The first voice is negative, but the second one is positive. The positive voice tells you to be happy. The positive voice is the voice that finds a reason for you to get up every day. That voice is stronger. That voice can always counter the negative voice. When I hear the negative voice, I just say with the positive voice: you’re wrong, go away! I hate you.
Cattato
February 21st, 2018 2:00am
I hear that voice sometimes too,you just gotta counter that voice and be like too bad I'm not going to kill myself. I have much to live for. No, that's not true, I am loved. Things like that. But most importantly, do not believe those lies, because those are lies. That voice is just speaking lies. You gotta fight it with all your might and speak the truth right back to it!
Peacefulmorning
February 22nd, 2018 3:56pm
Just remind yourself that that’s not the answer. There are people who love and support you. I will love and support you. Violence is never the answer.
MarcGM
February 28th, 2018 12:54pm
Reach out to a suicide helpline. Just tell them this and they will know what to do. Your case is not unique and they can help you out with it. It will certainly help to see a therapist too, you don't have to figure this out all by yourself.
mthilliard
March 1st, 2018 6:17pm
It's a common thing, to have that voice. And you can have it without actually wanting to kill yourself. The reason you're having these thoughts could be a couple different things. I had these thoughts when I was in an environment in which I felt inadequate and outcast. I would really suggest either putting your thoughts into writing (the reasons why you might feel this way) or opening up to someone close to you. Communicating your issues with someone you trust can relieve you of so much.
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