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Sometimes I hear a voice in my head that tells me negative things like everyone hates me or I should kill myself. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 12/30/2020 at 12:44pm
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Anonymous
March 8th, 2018 11:55am
Tell your parents. This could be a big situation. I personally have schizophrenia. I hear voices all the time. I don’t mean to alarm you at all. It be best to seek professional help
NeptunePH
April 7th, 2018 10:53am
First thing you should know is: that voice is completely natural. It's there for everyone. Sometimes that voice might give you bad thoughts. Ignore them. You can't completely stop them, because it's a part of all of us. Just ignore it, dont acknowledge what it's saying, and DEFINITELY don't act on it.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 5:20pm
I would try and tell someone, which I know sound simpossible! It doesn't have to be someone in 'real life' it can easily be a listener on 7 cups and we can help you discover what is best for you. If you think it's more serious I would suggest getitng professional help.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 9:24pm
If you are having suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a suicide hotline. You can find them by country at suicide.org. There is help. Please reach out.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 7:28pm
if it was me in your position i would try my hardest to ignpre then block them out and distract myself with the posotives of life. if they are trully as bad as u say then you should deffinetely see a profetional
Melissame
May 23rd, 2018 6:32pm
This sounds like it could be really scary. It is important you talk to someone you love about this and talk to a professional. This is often related to mental health conditions and it is important to get professional advice. Best of luck!
MissEmma1994
May 30th, 2018 7:38pm
I know that it can be difficult but it helps to try and ignore this voice and try and think of all the reasons that people like you and want you around. Such as your family and close friends.
ZoeeyGayglass
June 6th, 2018 7:14pm
That can certainly be a tough experience but there is no need for you to be alone in this. Please seek the advice of a trained mental health professional. If the voice still persists or starts again, contact emergency personnel immediately.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 9:18am
Hearing voices in general is not a good thing. If you are worried for your health please consider talking to an expert about it.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 10:23am
Try your best to remove those thoughts and replace them with good thoughts like, i'm confident,loved
SpringRollRogers
July 1st, 2018 2:24pm
This is why talking is so important it helps counteract the voice. The people remind me of the right thoughts and the value my life has
Anonymous
July 5th, 2018 6:35am
Definitely speak to a professional. You’re not alone. Many hear those voices, even I do, but it’s how you choose to deal with it that matters. Giving in won’t help a thing, but taking control may.
Kempokarate12
July 6th, 2018 4:36am
These voices can be incredibly difficult to ignore. They start to overpower our thoughts and we soon may start believing what they say. What's important to remember is that voice is wrong. It's extremely difficult to believe it but you have to remind yourself of situations that prove you're right. Try to hone in on a memory that makes you feel insanely happy. A time where you felt like you were worth something, or loved, etc. Every time that voice pops into your head imagine this memory. Use it to fight off the feelings of worthlessness. Don't think about anything else. Don't let your mind wander to all the ways the voice is correct. If the voice is yelling at you then you just yell right back.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2018 5:01pm
Wait till they go away. Thoughts themselves can't kill you. They are temporary. When they are gone you'll notice brighter sides of your life and you can think about them when when dark thoughts appear again.
ugotafriendinme18
July 8th, 2018 4:16am
Take a few deep breaths and just realise that this is not you talking and these things are not true nor something you should do. I really suggest you talk to someone about this like a doctor so that you can get the mental health help and support that you need :)
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 8:33pm
First, know that voice in your head so you can seperate it from the rest of your thoughts and deal with it. Then, realize that it’s not right. It’s just your brain messing with you.
Allears247
July 25th, 2018 8:43am
I would seek professional help from a psychologist to be evaluated before it can potentially get worse.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2018 6:13pm
I suggest you call a hotline, http://Imalive.org. also talk to friends/family about it. and if possible get a therapist!
Anonymous
July 28th, 2018 1:26pm
Stop listening to the voice The world need people like you you don't want to die think of what you will lose think of what they lose
VictoriousKiwi
July 28th, 2018 9:47pm
When I have felt that way, I’ve found it helpful to think of times when I haven’t thought those things and try to see what’s different about this situation. It helps me to see that I’m not always going to feel this way.
serpentsxspell
August 2nd, 2018 11:50am
Please see a doctor immediately and tell them all it is you are feeling and hearing. Please do not hurt yourself, you are not hated.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2018 1:55pm
Avoid it and most importantly seek help talk to someone you think will surely help you Our team here is present for you just feel free to give us a chance
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 2:28am
Try and realise the voice is wrong, tell somebody about this and try to rationalise the situation. No matter what though don't harm yourself, that's not an answer. You are important.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 5:51pm
Block it out. Tell it no you are wrong! Get out of my head! Tell yourself you are beautiful and you are kind and amazing
adriiia
September 1st, 2018 10:34am
Just Breathe deeply and repeat to your self:“ I’m Beautiful And I’m worth everything, I have people who love me, I have great things waiting for me, and I have days and days to look forward too!” Another thing to do is trying fun little activities! Such as bakimg, drawing, dancing, singing, basically anything that you find entertaining and fun! By doing those things, it really helps distract you from bad things and it puts our state of mind remain calm and peaceful. Yoga is also a nice way to relieve tension and stress the mind is giving you.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2018 10:29am
Do NOT listen to it and seek professional help so that they can get you the proper help you need. I'm sure not everyone hates you, we all have someone who loves us even if you do not know about it. Stay strong, okay?
FluffyBat90
September 22nd, 2018 5:17pm
Being able to single out that voice is an important first step. What I find to be more helpful then, is to try to integrate that thought within a wider frame that includes a positive response to those negative thoughts. This is the most effective strategy I have tried so far and I thank my therapist very much for it. I used to battle those thoughts, but even if I won a battle, they would come back. On the other hand, by accepting these thoughts' message, but confronting them with pertinent objections, you begin a dialogue that allows you to play with that negative energy and somehow change it, even flip it. For example, if the voice says "everyone hates you" an objection could be "ok, you say everyone hates me, but what is the evidence for it? Because when I think of it, I remember occasions in which people in my life told me and/or showed me they loved me. So, maybe there is people who hates me, but certainly not everybody." In the end, the fact that everyone might hate you is probably a real concern of yours, so why not address it like you would if a friend came to you saying "everyone hates me". You'd understand the concern is real, but the thought it stems from has no confirmation in reality.
MellowAspen
September 26th, 2018 12:23pm
This is a very scary, lonely moment when this happens, but its important to remember that things get better, life can change and we can be happy. There is a negative voice, but there is also a positive one. It's important to talk to someone family or on 7cups or a therapist to help us find that positive voice again as it can be lost. You never have to face this alone. Just think of that negative voice as a bully who just wants you to fail, try to shut him in a little box and show him that you don't need that in your life.
Anonymous
October 12th, 2018 11:56am
Honestly, just tell it to go away. It will yell and scream and maybe it can feel like its going to force you to do something but honestly, as I learnt in my biology class, your nervous system is what controls you and your actions at the end of the day. Try to distract yourself and hopefully it will go away :) If it doesn't, try talking to someone. If there is no one at home or you don't feel comfortable talking to the people around you, blast music and sing (yell) along. That's what works best for me.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2018 9:07pm
Many thoughts are coming to our mind, and some of them are staying for a while or repeat. When bad things happen or feel lonely, we can tend to accuse ourselves like thoughts coming to your mind. In this situation, it may be better if you improve a self-compassion. Also there are books about that, and it works by reading and practicing the exercises. Other than this, you should focus on what's happening more than accusing and being harsh to yourself. It is like a process for most of the people. Sometimes we can be alone, or feel like this. Important thing is how you manage this process at the end. There are still many things to learn, and we should be tolerant and friendly to ourselves. Hope it somehow helps :) Best wishes,
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