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I'm studying in a college right now and am in a group. However I notice I'm hardly considered as a part of the group. It kinda hurts, any suggestions on how I can handle this or anything I can do?

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Last Updated: 07/25/2017 at 6:23am
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March 21st, 2017 4:12pm
I am sorry to hear that you feel like an outsider in your group. College can be difficult sometimes, especially when we feel like we cannot relate with our mates. What have you tried so far? Maybe it might be helpful to think of all of the things that you have tried and maybe consider how each thing helped or didn't help. Another way to think about this is to walk through the situation as if you are watching it from the outside. What would you say if you saw someone feeling like the way that you are?
March 21st, 2017 7:02pm
Well, I experienced something similar in my life, but it wear off once I invited people for hanging out together couple of times. This way I became an initiator for the whole group, and then other people started to invite me to and treat me as a group member.
July 3rd, 2017 12:33am
It's difficult to feel like an outsider especially in college. It may be difficult to quickly change your situation and you'll have to be patient. Try to spend time with one or two people from the group at a time instead of all at once. It could be overwhelming to entertain multiple people at once plus become closer to them. There could be people in the group who are closer than others too and try to remember that's okay. Try to find activities everyone would enjoy and invite people to spend time with you often. Try to be more involved in everyone's' life if you can; show concern, give support, and actively try to become closer to them. Remember everyone in college is stressed and focused on certain things, this means sometimes they'll be busy and if they have poor time management skills then their relationship with you will suffer because of it too.
July 25th, 2017 6:23am
At my first year at college, making friends was difficult. I felt like I just stepped right back into high school. I understand your pain, but perhaps consider just doing your part of the project, and find some people worthy of your time and companionship.