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Everywhere I go I'm assumed as a woman, that I'm going to have kids, no matter how much I insist I don't want kids. What do I say to these people who keep pushing it?

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Last Updated: 03/02/2021 at 1:12am
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October 15th, 2019 1:43am
Just sigh at them. Think wonderful and beautiful and true things about yourself and others and the future. They don't understand. They too grew up being told that was the only eventually option. We are truly in a neat age, where more and more, for several who-cares-really reasons, women are deciding to live childfree and it's awesome. There aren't many but there are some studies that have shown older childfree couples are at least as happy as other couples (if not more so). Even being a couple or living single is totally your choice. We ultimately can't control what other people think, so why even engage with them. Live your life!
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December 9th, 2019 1:09am
Step one is explaining to them kindly but firmly that not all women have the same desires in life. Step two is to answer to their specific argumentation - for example, if they say it's natural to want children when you love someone and you just need to find the right one, you can point out that love is more than reproduction and that there are many happy couple that love each other and are happy with not having children. Step three: if they still don't get it, just give them a "yeah sure whatever" and ignore them. If you get tired of having to explain yourself over and over, just skip immediately to step three! You don't owe anyone an explanation.
Anonymous - Expert in Women's Issues
October 13th, 2020 10:49am
You don't say anything. If you react, they will push you even more. It's like, if dogs are barking in the street, you don't go and tell them to be quiet right? You just ignore them and move forth. It's the same with these people. What's the worst they can do? They can't force you to have sex with someone, to get pregnant. It's your body, you control it. If they keep pushing you, clearly not respecting your decision, which has already been made, it means they either don't respect you enough, or don't trust your judgment. Would you like such people to affect your decisions, your life, your feelings? No offense intended to anyone, and hope it helps
March 2nd, 2021 1:12am
Oh, I know how that feels. Personally, I feel like it should be said that it is nobody's business... but the people who keep pushing it think that it is their business, don't they? It does not seem right to just agree with them either. However, I think that you do not have to do anything you are not comfortable with in this situation. If you can, if you have the strength and desire to, you can talk to them, explain yourself, maybe even argue. If not, whatever method of avoiding confrontation (for instance, agreeing or evading) should work. It is upsetting that we have to deal with this. I hope with time, it will be more acceptable for women to choose their own paths.
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