How can I deal with being blamed for things that aren't my fault?

Through my experience, I feel the biggest thing you can do is not base your value or worth on the opinions of others. Remind yourself (constantly if need be) that whatever you're being blamed for is not your fault. Surround yourself with people who support you and hold you in positive regard.

Are others blaming you or are you blaming yourself? you cannot control what other people think or do. In some cases legal action can be taken if money or inflamatory slander is at play. If there is a way you can prove you didn't do a thing, that is a great option. Otherwise, unless it is harmful to your day-to-day well-being, merely wait for the time when you can remove yourself from the presence of the people who like to blame you of things. You can persevere! If it is damaging to your day-to-day well-being, seek guidance from a local or online therapist, close friend or close friend's family, school counselor, or even a family doctor.

Well, this calls for different action, depending upon the situation. When you are mostly with equals, you have to dare to speak up and face the situation. But when you are in a relatively weaker position, compared to the person who blames you and say you can lose something valuable (like a job), then perhaps you need to deal with it a bit diplomatically. Don't be frank in such environments, but then if the blaming is constant, avoid such people.

Please dont waste your feeling by thinking of others blaming.dont worry if it is not your fault.just ignore people you makes to feel you uncomfortable.be happy your self

Keep reminding yourself that it was not your fault. It's can be easy to begin to believe that something might be your fault if someone keeps blaming you. Try to understand why the other person might be blaming you for this. It's probably due to some other source of stress in their lives that could very well not actually be related to you. Displaced anger is something that happens a lot.

Practice self-compassion. Understand that at times even if its not your fault, others will judge and blame you. So, be compassionate towards yourself. Not let others negative thoughts bother you. Take your time, do something good to yourself and develop compassion for yourself. You could read about self-compassion more here: https://www.7cups.com/forum/AppreciationGratitude_170/PsychologyofHappiness_1219/SelfCompassionNotesfromDiscussion_81612/

Re-evaluate the situation and find out if you really ar enot to blame at all. Taking responsibility for your own actions, even if you did something not so bad, is important because it is how you grow up, become responsible, mature and then you can forgive others for blaming you without feeling bad.

Remind yourself that you are not in the wrong, take a few deep breathes, and calm down before you talk again. Explain exactly what happened as peacefully as you can, pointing out facts and flaws in the other's story. If the person (people) keep harassing you, don't be afraid to walk away and talk to a trusted adult. You cannot control others' thoughts, opinions, or feelings in a situation like this but you can control how you react. And even if you try as hard as you can, there is still a chance people will believe and hear what they want. However, you are not alone, the 7 Cups community always has your back.

I think having open communication, and telling the truth can help, you shouldnt take the blame for something you didnt do. I think explaining yourself while being kind and understanding can help. You cant change someones opinion of you, but you can defend yourself the best you can.

Get proof that you didnt do it and convince the person who blames you you didnt do it if they dont belive you show them the proof

Do your best to prove through your actions that those things aren't your fault. If you do the best you can with what you have, nobody can blame you

It will hurt you will feel bad but at the end of the day you know it's not your fault. If it really bothers you then you should do something that you enjoy doing and get it off your mind for a while.

Take a step back and calm yourself. Remind yourself that there is the possibility that the other person is having a bad day. If you believe that you didn't do anything wrong, or have done your best in the given situation. Explain to them your side. If things did not turn out for the better, stay away from the situation. You don't deserve to be treated unjustly.

Although you can't always stay quiet and take the blame, it'll be a wise choice to do so and try to avoid an argument. But it's also important to talk it out calmly so you won't be labelled by others for what you're blamed for.

Remember that is not your fault! The person who may be assigning the blame to you, may not be able to take responsibility for his or her actions. In addition, sometimes people lash out at others during challenging times or times of needs.

It doesn't brings you anything when you blame that persons back. You just have to keep on giving your best. Sometimes, you'll be honored for what you're doing and just try to ignore it for the first time.

Try to find out why people blame you, then give reasons why this is not true and why it is not your fault. Also turn it around and ask them how they would feel in your shoes. Explain how you feel and ways to avoid this. Such as having good evidence before making assumptions and blaming you. If things do not change you maybe have to work on not internalising it and grounding yourself and self care. Sometimes you have to pick your battles otherwise you will be losing energy over the small stuff and lose sight of other things

You have to remind yourself that the way other people act or react is often times out of your control. I know it can be incredibly frustrating but the more you hone in on the things you can control, the less out of control and helpless about the situation you'll feel. My worst experience being blamed for things that weren't my fault was while I was serving in the military and struggling with severe mental illness. I was often being blamed for personality failures when it was simply an untreated illness. This was very damaging to my self esteem and confidence. After years of therapy, it has been wonderful to see myself start to heal.

Explain to the people that you did not do what they are accussing you and if they continue to say other wise just ignore them they are not worth getting worked up about. They are just trying to instigate.

There are many things in life that we can be blamed for that are not our fault. Unfortunately, that can be a part of life. The main thing, I think, is realizing that though you may be blamed it is not your fault. So long as you are doing the best that you can, that is what matters. If you can look back on the event and know you did the best you could than you should feel good about what you have done and ignore the negative incoming speech.

It will always feel unfair to be blamed for things that aren't your fault. And it will always be frustrating not to be able to voice that sensation of injustice. You would love to voice that but sometimes, for some reasons, you can't always set the records straight. If it's something punctual and the people that blame you don't know you and are total strangers you'll probably never meet again, just remind yourself of that: "they don't know you so their judgement doesn't count". If it's something that's been happening with a certain group of people and you feel they should know you by now, try and remember: "If you know you weren't wrong, you know you will still able to live with yourself". In the long run, action speaks louder than words and people will start to see that they treated you unfairly. The waiting part can be frustrating but at the end, you have to remember who you are, and if who you are is someone innocent, that's good enough in the worst case scenario.

If you can't explain to somebody that it isn't your fault, than it isn't worth the fight. You know that it wasn't your fault, and that is all that matters.

You may not be responsible for a given problem, but you can certainly be part of the solution. Try to focus your energy on working hard to fix a problem, strengthen a relationship or achieve your goals. Demonstrating to the people around you that you're more concerned with success than pointing fingers will build a culture where people are less likely to assign blame.

All you can really do is clarify and provide your information and your evidence, and understand that their disbelief doesn't diminish or devalue your truth.

Work for finding out area of influence that you have. Things that are out of your area of influence should not be bothering you very much and that you need to consciously teach yourself. Things that are in your direct area of influence, responsibility of those lie with you. Need to be taking responsibilities of those and learn how to accept mistakes and move on.

Identifying that you may be experiencing unnecessary blame and/or guilt is the first step to taking the power away from the accuser. Afterwards, finding a safe and trusted individual that can validate your experience and feelings is one alternative. If you don't have access to someone like that, another is journaling or any sort of creative outlet in which you can name, identify and express your story. In finding validation for your experience, this enables your body to release the stored emotions (be it anger, disappointment, shame and/or guilt, betrayal, sadness), process the experience, and move past the blame.

What matters most is how we feel about ourselves. If you know that you are not to blame, then what others feel towards you doesn't matter. The best thing to do, is to surround yourself with positive people who love you and care about you and free yourself from the negative ones.

Being blamed for things that are not your fault can be hurtful and exhausting. It’s easy to understand that your initial reaction or natural instinct would be anger. You may be asking yourself many questions. How can I manage my emotions better so that I can deal with conflict in a more calm way? How can I keep my mind peaceful? Why do I get defensive people blame me for things? What is triggering the misunderstandings and how can these misunderstandings be cleared? To be the voice of reason and assure yourself that you have good intentions takes self-acceptance as well as patience. Looking back on the things you have been blamed for, what did you hope to ask those who have blamed you? Has there been any misunderstandings in the past that have been cleared and if so how was the misunderstanding cleared? It takes time to fully relax when someone has blamed you for something you have not done. You may move to a different room for a while to just process what has been said and then on how to deal with what has been said. Its ok to reflect for a while before you choose how to react towards accusations made. Take your time to share your thoughts and your feelings in a way that is diplomatic and honest. It can either be speaking to them in person, through the phone, through a message or a letter. Explain what you felt when you were blamed in any type communication comfortable to you. Before thinking up your response it’s important to ask yourself: Am I feeling calm? When you are calm you have a response that is reasonable this will likely make others take into consideration what you have said. For further support you can communicate with one of our listeners or members and you can also get access to mindfulness exercises and self-help guides.

Depends what you’re being blamed for? Try and sit down with the person who is blaming you and calmly explain that it’s not your fault

First of all, don't take it personally. State your position in this situation. If you are not taking the blame, say what you need to say and exit the as soon as possible. It may be hard to a people pleaser to do that. However, it is very essential to set your boundary from the get-go. Remember, "Not my circus, not my monkey." Make sure to get your guard up. A lot of time people tend to over explain a small matter which causes them get blame and even guilt into taking the ownership of other people's mistakes or even issues. Don't fall into that kind of mind trap.