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How do I deal with being forced to be around someone who makes me feel terrible at work place?

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Last Updated: 10/22/2019 at 5:13pm
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dreamSoul41
September 26th, 2016 9:54pm
Report it,no one should feel terrible / uncomfortable where they have to be everyday.think if it's not you I will be someone else so take I to someone who can act on what you say
Roadie
November 23rd, 2015 7:40am
As people, we're all different. It can make it really challenging to bring together people from different backgrounds, with different personalities, and different mannerisms into workplace teams. Often it's not a case of "if" you'll work with someone that you don't click with but a case of "when". It happens in pretty much every time and skilled managers can bring people together. If it's getting to you then I've always found that you have a couple of choices. To see the negatives in the situation, which inevitably brings you down. Alternatively, you can look at the positives in the situation, which might include other friends in the work place that bring you up. It's about doing the best to manage the relationships that we don't necessarily enjoy and making the most of the relationships that we do enjoy that help us get through the day. Ultimately, you spend a good chunk of your waking life there so make the most of it :)
Anonymous
February 1st, 2015 3:38am
In the past, when I've dealt with this sort of thing, I've found that I need a menu of options on any given day to deal with people at work. First, I need someone I can confide in, and vent to after the fact, who know the ins and the outs of my situation so I don't have to constantly explain the origin of my discomfort. Second, I see if there is any way to change the situation to make it more bearable. Is it significant enough that I should approach my boss and try to change my position? Do I need to confront them? Should I consider finding a new job? Finally, I try to find something about the situation that is positive, or the least bad. Are they good at their job? Do they have a sense of humor? Do they make my work better? Ultimately, the only way to feel better is to take some kind of action to change your circumstances.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2015 1:41pm
Very vague question. What is the person doing to make you feel terrible? I can envision very few ways to make someone you work with feel terrible without violating employee treatment policy. Now does that mean it would be adequately addressed? Maybe not, but if it is not adequately addressed, well, time to bone up the resume and get moving along the road of employment. TRUTH: In 1997 I held 4 jobs. Two of them, I just made up my mind that my sanity and self respect were worth more than a paycheck. I was tight financially, for sure, but I am still here. You are worthy of self respect and positive moral at all times, even on the job. I was in the US Navy, terrible working conditions, but we were a team, and other employees, as you stated, were rarely the source of any negatives.
trisjlistens
August 3rd, 2015 10:10am
Shrug it off. Be nice. If you can't, then ignore. You don't have to be friends with everyone at work. The best thing you could do is be professional at all times.
ActiveListener0809
October 24th, 2015 4:11pm
Try to find something nice or good about that person and focus on that thing to help distract you from the other things.
Greatlistener87
November 14th, 2015 11:04am
Its good if you can speak to the person in charge to put you not too near that person you dislike so that nothing triggers.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 11:17am
I build an invisible bubble around me and focus on my work. I stay away and avoid this person as much as I can.
cheerfulMonkey67
November 29th, 2016 1:41am
Depending on the reason why they make you feel terrible action may be required. A unhealthy workplace can be a very toxic place to work. If this person is verbally or emotionally abusive towards you you may want to contact your supervisor to let them know. That is why they are there. Just do your best and know you are a valued member of the team. I wish you the best of luck!
matchlight
October 22nd, 2019 5:13pm
You don't have to deal with it as you don't have to be forced. I have been in your shoes - you speak to whoever is in charge, whether it be a manager or assistant manager. The number one priority of a workplace is work productivity and it's clear you are being affected by this. They are lowering productivity by keeping you with someone you don't like and you are allowed to escape that barrier. If that doesn't work, you can try to chat with someone who also dislikes them and also has negative feelings to them. You may find that if someone shares the same opinions as you that it will be easier to cope.