I had more interviews for jobs I didn't get. I feel so crummy. What do I do now?

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EverythingWillBeOk
September 21st, 2014 3:37pm
It just means that they weren't a good fit for you. Use every interview as a learning experience and most importantly, keep trying! You'll find something eventually.
Oakley14
October 22nd, 2014 7:50pm
Oh wow. I just happen to see this & I have to post!! I have had 2 job interviews this week alone. So far, nothing. I got a call for another interview Friday, I am contemplating on even going. I get myself prepared. Get all dressed up. Then try to find the positive energy to sell myself to these people. Just to get a Dear Jane email or letter. I have been unemployed for 4 years now. At what point am I unemployable? How do I keep the positive energy flowing? So far I've managed. My husband is awesome. I am lucky there. But sometimes it can be so debilitating. :(
JCubed
September 24th, 2014 8:58pm
Even though repeated failure may be demoralizing and make you feel like you want to give up, it's important to remember that even interviews you didn't succeed with make you better in the long run. Every experience, success and failure, help prepare you for a brighter future, you are just one step closer to being at a place you desire. Keep pushing.
Atlas - Expert in Work Stress
September 17th, 2014 7:49pm
Dont give up! learn from your experiences and keep going. This is just the challenging part of your story...the good ending is still coming so DONT GIVE UP
chanakya
October 12th, 2014 9:58am
Realize where is the fault happening. Don't deny your Weaknesses Just confront them and work to diminish your weaknesses.
EmmaDreams
October 19th, 2014 2:30am
Even though you didn't get the jobs, you've gained experience for future interviews. It's tough finding a job, but remember that you made it to the interview process, and that in itself is an amazing accomplishment. Don't be afraid to reapply and keep trying. It takes time, but you already have come so far. Keep up the good work.
Snowfire
November 7th, 2014 9:23pm
Remember that your feelings are real, but they are not necessarily true. It's natural for the mind to sometimes wander into areas of self-criticism and negativity especially when we are in the vulnerable position of interviewing for jobs. It's important that we realize there are many looking for that same job, and many will have equal skills and experience. And it's also important not to jump to conclusions about why you did not get the job(s) you applied for. Just do your very best and look ahead to the next opportunity. Perhaps it will be even better than the previous ones you have applied for! What you need most right now is a positive outlook and to be your own best friend. Surround yourself with positive people, talk about your struggle with a compassionate family member, friend or a 7Cups listener for support. It's a big world, and you are not alone. Many others are feeling or have felt discouraged during the often long and emotionally triggering job search. And talking about it can really help lighten the load.
mdcrist92
October 25th, 2014 6:23pm
Keep pushing forward! Remember the skills and qualities that you have and keep going for jobs that match them
Urgarlayessica88
October 29th, 2014 9:39pm
It sometimes work to do a small research on the company you are trying to work for. Show that you have knowledge of the company, and that will make you a great worker for that company. Stand out in the crow! if you need more help please message me Urgarlayessica
stephx
November 2nd, 2014 5:44pm
Taking some time for yourself after a disappointment can help relieve the stress. Do something you enjoy and make an effort at keeping your mind away from negative thoughts.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2014 3:50am
First of all, understand that this is very normal. Nearly everyone gets rejected for 99% of the jobs they apply for. Rejection is difficult, but try to liken this "rejection" to getting struck by lightning-- it's very rare. If you're sad that lightning didn't strike this time around, keep going out into that open field and hanging out by the lightning tower. The odds will be low each time, but eventually you'll get struck. (You know. In a good way.) Meanwhile, get a friend to go over your resume and cover letters-- make it an activity!
Lucky
November 10th, 2014 10:31pm
Don't give up, keep trying its not always easy to land a job in your first set of interviews. You cannot give in at this point, sometimes we give up just when we are about to break through.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2014 10:00am
Well first don't give up! There are various reasons why we may not get a job. If you feel it's a skill or communication related concern then seek out a job training coach or possible see if education upgrading is an option. Last but not least, network network network! Sometimes it more who you know and not what you know that gets you the job!
PashT007
April 10th, 2015 5:23pm
Trust and believe that if you didn't get the job, that there is something greater out there for you. It is not a reflection of your abilities. I have had this happen to me plenty of times. I'm sure that your gifts will make room for you.
Gerry148
November 4th, 2014 4:54pm
What can you do? You keep trying. If you continue to get shot down then take some time to look at your resume. A lot of people miss just how important a resume is to finding an ideal job.
StrangerLendingSmiles
November 17th, 2014 3:15pm
This is not the end of the life... remember success may be delayed but it wil never be denied ... have patience... things will work out..plan accordingly and dont loose confidence because it may cause you loss in some way... be happy and cheerfull.. gather your confidence and then wait for the show.... :) :) :) good luck pal...
Uniqueg
November 17th, 2014 9:00pm
Sometimes people go through rough patches like this, but think of it as experience that you get with each interview and when that right one comes along you'll be ready
Annalia
November 18th, 2014 6:21pm
Just keep your chin up and do your best to keep trying. There is a job out there for you, and you will find an employer that values you.
tranquilBeauty34
March 10th, 2015 12:08am
Dealing with rejection in a job search can be difficult, especially when it has ocurred several times now. The first thing is to not take it personal. Not getting a job is not a measure of your worth. In this difficult time, try and stay positive, focus on your key areas of strength. Remember to ask for feedback, receiving constructive feedback can help you succeed in future interviews.
TheGirlOnASnowBoard
May 23rd, 2015 6:50pm
Hi! i see your problem, why don't you work on the points why you didn't get the job? keep trying, you'll find a job eventually, just be patient, and keep the faith :)
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 1:24am
Maybe you need to change something in your life. Perhaps a change in attitude or perspective, present yourself as an individual and be unique. You need to stand out from the crowd. Be charming, humble, positive, passionate and hard working. They don't only look for good skills but a brilliant personality. Present yourself well with respect and they'll respect you.
MajoraLink
December 29th, 2015 12:49am
Everyone's problems are unique so I won't say I know what you're going through but I can understand why it upsets you
Ripplewave
December 29th, 2015 7:12am
Oh, that must be a tough situation to be in. I would feel extremely bad if I were to face with something like that....Is there anything you would want go back and change? I mean like something you think might have changed the interviews to go in your favor. Was there any specific part of those interviews, which you think you could have done better?
Anonymous
March 7th, 2016 4:57am
You pick yourself up and take these interviews as experiences. Now all you need to do is keep pushing forward. From past experience it may take 100 interviews before you get a job but i always thought of the saying that good things come to those who wait. It just wasn't meant to be
Anonymous
April 26th, 2016 5:48pm
Try a different approach and learn why you didn't get the job. Improve it.
sereneSoul23
August 22nd, 2017 9:10am
Doing interviews even if you do not get the job is a good progress path in my opinion, it shows that you are trying your best. Practice makes perfect so the more you practice the more you are moving towards a successful interview. Perhaps the best way not to be negative is to concentrate on the things that you can learn from past interviews as with other experiences in life. When you are feeling mentally up to it, you can breakdown the interview and analyse what worked, what you need to improve, what didn't work, do you need to get/learn additional skills? Personally I feel giving interviews helps to make you feel more comfortable talking to people in the future, so that is a plus, what do you think?
RiverDreamer
October 31st, 2017 9:43am
Rejection. It sucks, it's hard, and it can get you feeling really down. But it's important to remember; everyone gets rejected a dozen times in life and it sucks for everyone. But that's not to say that everyone deals with rejection the same. Some people deal with it smoothly, picking themselves up and dusting themselves off then continuing on their way, but others opt to bash themselves up over it. If you're one of the latter people, don't bash yourself up! I know it's cheesy and you're probably sick of hearing it, but there's a storm before every rainbow. Think of J.K. Rowling, for instance. You know her, I'm sure. Award winning author of one of the most famous book series in the world. Do you know how many times she got rejected by publishers before one of them realised how awesome and top notch her stuff was? 12 times. That's quite a few, considering how epic Harry Potter is. So before you get disheartened, tell yourself not to quit. Summon your patronus and send your discouraging dementors away (sorry to all those who haven't read Harry Potter, you're missing out on these sick references). You might get rejected 12 times. You might get rejected 50 times. You might get rejected 100 times before you land that dream job. But hey, if you give up now then you'll never know.
AmHereForYou96
February 5th, 2018 12:39am
Easy come easy go, just keep looking you will find somthing! Life doesnt stop! Things might not work out from the first time, but it will in the end! I never met a person that searched for a job nonstop and didnt find a job! They all did and now most of them are in great positions!
carefreeHeart57
February 27th, 2018 2:48pm
We all experience not getting a job we want. First and foremost, don't get discouraged! There is a position out there for you!