I lost my job a few months ago and feel terrible about myself, how do I pull out of this slump?

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heycrysteezy
January 3rd, 2015 5:43pm
It's never a good feeling to lose a job, and you have the right to grieve. Just don't let it completely take over your life for too long. Remember, you need to work to survive. When applying for a new job, focus on what you were good at in your previous job, and give thanks for those things. You are not a bad employee. Or, if you were terminated for a behavioural problem, reflect on your actions and find ways to prevent them from happening again in a new company. It's never too late for a fresh start.
mayraishere
November 18th, 2014 2:45pm
When we lose a job we lose our stability; not only we lose our financial provider, but we also lose our routine, and suddenly everything seems out of place. But if you spend months feeling horrible about yourself, then this feeling becomes your routine. It's been a few months, you should ask yourself: were you really happy at your job? What do you like to do? Can you put your interests in a way where you can make money out of it? Is it worth to spend this much time feeling so bad about yourself because of a job? Many people transform their jobs in their lives, but, and this is my point of view, there's more living than this. And feeling terrible about yourself all the time ain't much living.
dotty
December 26th, 2014 2:42pm
some of the worst depressions come after losing job...you have to rebuild yourself completely, put back the pieces in place and check how great you are! are your looks fresh? is your spirit high? did you keep up with whats going on into the world and in your field of work especially? did you say hello to every friend that was there to support you and even to those who were not? did you smile to the loved ones and give them a tight hug? did you say the prayer grandma taught you? did you take a walk to the supermarket? now the world is yours! apply for a new job and keep your fingers crossed! we will do the same!
Anonymous
October 18th, 2014 11:15pm
Know that you are wonderful! Feel the self love! It could be a great time for a new start. As the famous cliche says, as one door closes, a new door opens up. Sometimes a work situation may not be suitable for you. It does not mean that you are a bad person. It could be that you are more suited to a different role. This is the time to get to know yourself and go on your gut instinct. Follow your heart and really feel out what you want to do. Take time to learn new things, study and find out what you enjoy. You could make a career out of one of your passions. Remember to smile and also stay sociable. The more people that you meet, the more job opportunities come up. Connections lead to plenty of new path ways. Try and stay positive. Everything happens for a reason and there is a blessing in everything.
Batman93
September 22nd, 2015 10:37am
Losing a job is hard. But don't be too hard on yourself. Take some time off and evaluate where you went wrong or how you can improve yourself. After identifying these factors, work on it and build yourself. Best of luck.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2015 6:52am
Just don't give up. Keep looking for odd jobs around you, and keep putting in applications. Remember, one door closes, another one opens :)
SoftDreamer1
June 7th, 2016 1:36am
The best way to pull yourself of this slump is to keep on going. The job search is not easy, believe me I know, but you have to keep yourself focused on your longterm goals and dreams. Jobs come and go, but when you believe in yourself, it makes your life a little easier. When you are not looking for jobs, please practice some self-love. Even if that means taking a nice warm bath, going out for a walk or coloring. You can't forget to love yourself. When I was unemployed and looking for work, I surrounded myself with positive people, kept looking for jobs, and watched music videos on Youtube (I love music so this helped me push out any negative thoughts). Keep your head up! If you would like someone to talk to about this, please reach out to me! :)
Stasia
October 4th, 2014 1:45am
Make sure you continue to connect with friends...don't isolate yourself. Let them know what you're dealing with if you can. Some of them may even be willing to lend a hand. Do what you can to search for work every day, even if it's a single resume or job application. Work extra hard to treat yourself well...this is important, whether that be bubble baths, a walk in the park, a visit to the library...there are tons of fun things you can do for free. Stay strong! We're here to help, too!
Greatlistener87
March 21st, 2016 2:30am
To feel bad at loosing something is normal. But the only time that you have really lost is when u give up. You have so much talent and knowledge that you have learnt from the job that you have lost. Rather then letting it die why not use it or rather share it in another company so that the knowledge stays alive in you and in others.
Nora0329
September 11th, 2014 8:23am
Sorry to hear that, it is a terrible feeling I can relate to but think how great you are and how much experience you have from your past job and use those to apply to new places because it was their loss for losing a good employee
Uniqueg
November 18th, 2014 7:14am
It's tough losing a job, you can have a time period to deal with this loss, and after that time maybe you can start looking into new jobs and seeing what opportunities are out there for you
Tliz713
September 20th, 2014 9:51pm
Hey there! In 2011 I was working at a local hospital and it ended up closing. So a lot of people got relocated but I was one of the unlucky few who did not. I ended up being in quite the slump myself for a while. I ended up not going out and became very shut away. I thought of how life is an amazing thing and if I gave up it would be the end of that so I got back out there and worked really hard to find a new job. Now I have a stable job and Im really happy, I hope this helps in some way to motivate you. Good luck!
Olivia23
October 27th, 2014 2:58am
The way i got over feeling lousey after i lost my job as i got up got showered dressed and prepped myself and walked around looking for another job, now even though i make less money i really love my job and the people i work with.
RaleighC
November 6th, 2014 9:59pm
Talk to others about it--friends, family, those close to you; don't let your feelings build up, but express them through conversation or other outlets, such as creative pursuits or even exercise. Try to keep busy; volunteering might be a great way for you to feel fulfilled and still keep your resume current as you look for another job. Try out a support group either in person or online; talk to a trusted listener on here; and don't hesitate to seek professional help from a doctor or therapist if you're finding it too hard to function.
PeaceTrain
November 10th, 2014 10:38am
In such a situation, the only way you can recover, both mentally and economically, is by finding a new occupation. It will be hard, but do whatever is in your power to get employed. You don't need to only think about getting employed by others, but you can even start something of your own, no matter how small it is!
fancyPeace22
January 5th, 2015 4:55am
First step is to realize, at some point in time, everybody experiences loss, whether it's a job or a relationship. This doesn't make you a bad person; instead it gives you a chance to look at it from a different perspective. I've been in that situation before, and understand how that feels, but you can pull through it & just might find yourself in a position you like even more soon.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2016 3:34pm
Perhaps this is a chance to find a better , more fulfilling job ? One where the environment is friendly and supports growth ? Maybe this is a chance to make a change ? To push you to make a change for the better... to do what you really love or at least discover the possibilities that exist out there? Sometimes we just need a push in the right direction.. why not look at this as that push?
Anonymous
June 12th, 2017 1:32pm
Every loss comes with a victory! Every negative brings with it a positive and you have to fall to rise. You may have lost your job but you have learned a valuable lesson that you were capable enough to get one in the first place and that you should never stop trying to get another.
ShiningPanda13
July 7th, 2015 3:21pm
You are experiencing an economic slump, but sometimes a forced change opens up options you never would have had access to had you been blissfully happy and unaware there were even options out there for you. While it is a blow to your ego and self-worth to have lost income and standing in your previous social structure at work, this is not a reflection on you as an individual. Keeping in mind what you can bring to the table is a good way to attempt to find new work.
ihearyou14
August 25th, 2015 10:35am
That is very difficult to handle, everybody loses a job at some point, and it does not mean you have to be unconfident because of a lost job. Take some time to remind yourself that the previous job did not define you. Before applying for another job, take some time to rebuild your confidence; get a gym membership, go on a date, renew your CV, anything to make you feel more confident. You DO deserve it and you CAN pull out of this slump!