I'm excessively worried about being critiqued, and it stifles my progress. How do I get over my fear of judgement at work?

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Last Updated: 09/06/2016 at 2:28pm
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Anonymous
January 26th, 2015 2:59am
Do your best,everybody get's this feeling once in awhile.I do too,but once you're used to what you're doing you should get better.Everybody messes up,trust me.
ArtyTom2
February 19th, 2015 4:04pm
Remember that in theendthe main person you have to please is yourself first and that others come second.
KathyTheHealer
May 11th, 2015 2:44pm
it's very impressive that you already know the trouble you are having and try to solve it. You must be very good at your work, right? Fearing of judgement is the most common fear for everyone, which means everybody is gonna freak out if they were in your shoes. So to get pass the fear, is just expect it there, focus on what you are doing, time will pass by, and they are not gonna talk about your performance anymore.
Zozzie
May 28th, 2015 6:31pm
Evaluation anticipation is a theory in psychology that you may wish to look into, as there are many ways of overcoming this. Everyone experiences it, and dependent on how much you care about the subject in question, you may experience varying levels of anxiety. Coping strategies include rationalisation, making yourself question why it is so important what others think? fro example. As you are in a work setting, you will face a natural atmosphere of competition. Try working with others as this may condition you to feel your peers are there as a support as opposed to a panel of critics.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2015 6:51pm
Focus on the reward. Be it the feeling of accomplishment, the finished project itself, or the monetary value
goldenPumpkin55
June 23rd, 2015 1:00pm
Because you're allowing yourself to worry in the first place. Relax and have some confident. The problem isn't the people at work, it's you. Start by loving yourself and nothing will stop you.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2015 6:00am
Judgement is a very difficult subject to deal with. But the truth is, you can't always be beloved by everyone, because honestly, some people who don't like you or judge you, are really jealous of you. Judgement usually stems from jealousy, so rock on and keep goin! Don't think too much about what other people are thinking and live your life the way YOU want to!
Greatlistener87
May 23rd, 2016 1:53am
Everyone will have their opinions on others and that is based strongly on their emotions and how they feel about u. The only opinion that matters is yours about yourself. If you carry yourself well people will learn to keep their opinions to themselves.
SMLHappy
September 6th, 2016 2:28pm
I find that getting feedback on my work helps me grow in my role. Feedback should be looked at positively, even if the feedback is developmental. If no one every tells you how you are doing it is harder to grow and develop.