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I'm so nervous during presentations and meetings, how can I improve my public speaking?

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I'm so nervous during presentations and meetings, how can I improve my public speaking?
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Phillip985
November 8th, 2015 6:18pm
Start out one on with with people. Slowly work your way up until you feel comfortable enough to speak in front of small groups and eventually you'll reach your goal.
wittyBike8048
November 12th, 2015 7:40pm
You are not alone when it comes to such situations. Many have gone and go through it in their life. First of all you need to tell yourself that nothing is wrong with you, your outlook and approach. Suit yourself in clothes which you like to wear the most. Rehearse your speech in front of the mirror and judge yourself accordingly. Tell someone whom you trust and love to judge you and correct you. You will be glad to hear a few suggestions from your loved one. Try to make your speech crisp, precise and well scripted with a few funny liners to grip attention. Go through your rough speech and try to derive out how(s) and why(s) for every line and prepare a short answer for it. Like this, you are prepared for not just the speech but also for the questions one may ask from the audience section. Remember, you are standing in front of the crowd to address them because they consider you worthy of it and think of it as a challenge to prove your fellow co-workers right. Be proud and live happily. Good Day! :)
eleanor0610
November 12th, 2015 10:03pm
Me too!! Things I find helpful include: taking a couple of deep breaths and having a drink of water before hand. Practise well in advance so you know exactly what you're going to say inside and out - the more prepared you are, the less you have to worry about! But really, it's just a case of practise. The more often you force yourself to do it and the less you run away from it, the more comfortable you'll start to feel.
CoolVerse
November 13th, 2015 2:45pm
Being nervous in front of a crowd is normal. It creates jitters and it would make your head jumble around and cause you to talk weird and shake a lot. For public speaking you should practice yourself in the mirror every morning. Try to read and dont eat your words. That always helps im improve your public speaking.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 5:38pm
Personally, I just try to speak in front of as many people as possible as often as I can. When I really don't want to though, I try to turn my brain off and not think about what I'm getting myself into and just raise my hand to go next. It's never as bad as I think it's going to be. Some baby steps to becoming comfortable speaking is trying to speak in a group presentation. That way you feel part of a community and that you're representing said community instead of yourself.
Ed78
November 16th, 2015 4:47pm
Here are a couple of tips. 1. Remember that everyone in the audience wants you to do well. They are all on your side. Even if they don't agree with your ideas, they want you to do a good presentation. 2. Remember too that you are the only person in that room with your unique set of skills. Some people may have some things more than you, but no one has your unique skill set. 3. The situation is unique, it will never be repeated in exactly the same way, so enjoy the uniqueness of it. 4. Enjoy it. Smile. You are helping minds to come together, you are the author of a unique moment.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2015 10:45pm
Public speaking is like surfing. If you don't ride the adrenaline, it'll come crashing down on you. I get myself ready by remembering that everyone there wants to hear what I have to say. They want me to succeed, to give an amazing talk. I also take propranolol as prescribed by a medical professional; it works wonders.
electricCreature67
November 19th, 2015 2:46am
Before you present, make sure you practice presenting at home. Write down key points on index cards so you don't get nervous and remember to relax as you do it.
Cosmiclover01
November 19th, 2015 8:04pm
When nervous, always remember just to take a deep breath and relax. Improved public speaking is something that can always be practice. Remember, speaking in front of an audience is a brave act, so be proud of yourself for doing so. Once you get the hang of it, it will almost come naturally because you're used to public speaking regularly.
HannahInk18
November 20th, 2015 1:24am
Everyone experiences nerves before presentations. The best thing to make you feel better and to perform better is to take control of your natural physiological panic responses. Take deep breaths at the very least, but there are key techniques for public speaking. One of these is 'Diaphragm breathing'. It means breathing from deep down in your diaphragm rather than just from your chest. By doing this, you will not only feel calmer, but you will also speak clearer, slower, stronger and more confidently.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2015 8:10pm
If you are nervous, you should use relaxation techniques before meeting or presentation. It is useful if you can visualize yoursef
calmCupcake11
November 21st, 2015 2:36pm
First express your opinions or feelings in safe environments, in situations where people are supportive and loving toward you. Notice your self-talk throughout your day. Can you improve it? Can you make it more encouraging, more cheerleader like?:) Get into a habit or being encouraging to yourself more often and then you'll go there before doing a presentation or a meeting and that'll make it easier for you to go back to that "more confident place". Visualization also helps. Imagine how you want to feel and behave.
LittleTiger15
November 22nd, 2015 6:59am
well someone once told me, just picture the people in front of you naked or imagine them wearing ridiculous outfits. it will help distract you for a while. But another technique is to not look at the audience in the eye. Instead look at the wall behind them or their hair.
AiChan1111
November 25th, 2015 4:34am
I always run through my presentations with friends. It's important to know what you're presenting, so make sure that you know your topic inside and out. I like my presentation medium (slides usually) to be less wordy, I use mostly pictures and key words. This prevents me from reading off the slides, my presentation would feel more smooth and I can engage the audience easily. Make eye contact with your audience, really talk to them and talk with confidence, this will prevent them from getting bored or distracted. The part that always worry me most about presentations are the Q&A session. I make sure to anticipate questions that will be asked before the presentation, and during the presentation, I make sure I understand the question before I answer, and in the worst case scenario where I don't have an answer, I would honestly say that unfortunately I don't know the answer, but will find out after the presentation and contact them with the answer if they would like it.
thegirlintheredcoat
November 25th, 2015 9:29pm
It's something many people actually hate doing, even when they sometimes come across confident! Most of us actually feel the same about it. But with time and experience, it gets easier as you'll gradually feel more confident.
EternalColour92
November 26th, 2015 3:18pm
I was originally a very timid person when it came to public speaking but I have developed some strong abilities now and have even won gold in competitions. I started by practicing in the mirror and learning how I looked while I was talking. I repeated until I felt incredibly comfortable. Then I started asking people I trusted if they could be my practice audience, and I would start with one person and then worked myself up to a small group of friends/family. It does take time and you might not even notice a huge difference the first time you talk in front of a crowd after trying this but if you keep trying, eventually it's nothing. Like a house, you have to build it brick by brick.
Honey
November 27th, 2015 5:40am
Be as prepared as you can get. I research and practice until I know I am prepared, and I find that it significantly reduces my anxiety. I also like to think about what confidence looks like in physical gestures and practice. This could mean practicing my posture or the way I move my hands while I speak. When you are in front of a crowd, just remember that no one is actively hoping that you mess up. This is a fear that you create for yourself. Most people are resisting the urge to check their phone, thinking about their next meal, or thinking about what they plan to do once they are finished with work. This is a comfort for me because it reminds me that their focus is not entirely on me. It isn't personal; it's just human nature. All I'm risking is that someone zones out during my speech. Speak confidently, even if it's fake confidence, and no one will be the wiser.
dorifishey
November 27th, 2015 9:20am
Start small. Start speaking to yourself in front of the mirror. If you're still nervous, then start by just saying hi and introducing yourself before going into the presentation. Once you've grown more comfortable, try it with your friends, siblings or family. Start with one person, then maybe increase after that. The idea is to practice and to get yourself used to the idea of speaking first.
mimo29
November 28th, 2015 3:14am
It's really common for people to advise you to "imagine everyone in their underwear" when it comes to overcoming public speaking anxiety. Few people realise that the underlying reasoning behind this is it reminds you that the people listening to you are fellow human beings, who make mistakes and understand nerves. Everyone was inexperienced at some point. Keeping that in mind might help. The other tip I have for you is to practise, practise, practise. Even if you aren't confident, fake it well enough and you'll find people smiling back at you during your speech. They want to see a confident and prepared speaker. Nobody wants to sit through an ill-rehearsed messy speech, everyone wants it to work out well just as much as you do. So don't think of your audience as the enemy! And lastly, try to dissociate yourself from what you're speaking about. It may feel like putting yourself out there to be judged, but your work does not solely define you. Good luck!
adorableMusic86
November 28th, 2015 7:33pm
act if the audience are like your family or your close friends , try memorizing your speech well and keep in mind that fear is just a thought in you head
NadineH
November 29th, 2015 9:44am
You gotta breath slow, calm down, and focus before you start. When you do start try to see those people as your friends, keep your eyes on friends you have, so it would be easier to maintain eye contact and feeling a bit adjusted while talking.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 5:21pm
First of all, you don't forget that everybody can make mistake .Spectator is also a person like you.
takeurtime
December 2nd, 2015 11:51am
Preparation is the key !! Take your time and let the people in front of you know what you have researched on !!
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2015 12:15am
Practice in front of friends or family and even the mirror. Writing down what you want to say in point form on cards can help too.
WhisperingPiano
December 3rd, 2015 8:40pm
Everyone feels nervous when they speak in public. So remember that it is always natural to feel a little nervous about going on stage. I think everyone is different but the following could help a lot: Practice in front of a mirror over and over. Find out where the weak spots in your presentation are and focus on them. Practice in front of friends, family, mentors. Remember that people don't go to bed at night thinking about your presentation and all the mistakes you made. Little mistakes are common and accepted. There is nothing wrong with fumbling over your words a little. If you are feeling a little overwhelmed, there is nothing wrong with taking a slight pause for a second, deep breath to regain composure.
alohaandamor
December 4th, 2015 7:55pm
Practice makes perfect! As a public speaker, I had to overcome the same nervousness. I found it helpful to speak in front of family and friends... as well as in front of a mirror!
Daisyinclouds
December 5th, 2015 11:43pm
Maybe you can try performing speeches in the mirror. It might sound weird, but talking to yourself in bathroom, in the mirror can help a lot. I know this from my own experience.
camellover33
December 6th, 2015 5:05pm
Practice in front of a mirror, make a video, or just recite a certain number of times until you are totally comfortable!
Anonymous
December 7th, 2015 7:50am
Practice. Practice infront of people you feel comfortable with, like your parents or housemates or siblings. Then when you've practiced, just imagine you're doing it just to those people when you're presenting.
brilliantPudding22
December 11th, 2015 9:35pm
Remember that the listeners are there for the information, not a fashion evaluation. Remind yourself of what you have to do afterwards so you have a reference point for distraction that relaxes you.