Should I stay at a job that I hate?

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Last Updated: 09/19/2019 at 4:33pm
Should I stay at a job that I hate?
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Zildjianknyc
August 22nd, 2018 4:17am
The easy answer is "no". Typically we wouldn't encourage people to continue to do something that they hate. However, you have to consider your specific circumstances. Consider how realistic the possibility is of you getting another job. Consider what dependencies there are on you keeping a job regardless of how you feel about it. If you really hate your job so much that you want to leave it, then plan your exit. Prepare yourself to leave. Polish up your resume, reflect on your strengths and skills. Make sure you know what you want to go towards and not just what you are trying to leave. Have a plan, then leave.
lightningdevi101
August 23rd, 2018 7:18pm
Regardless of how much money you make at a job, it would be unhealthy to continue working at a job if you despise it. If you know you tell yourself every day that you hate your job, not only is that a bad mental effect on you, it affects the quality of the work produced from that job as well as others in the surrounding environment. No sum of money will ever compensate for your happiness and peace and well-being. Life is not meant to be wasted on materialistic things that you don't like; spend your time on Earth wisely.
MindfulSerenity
November 30th, 2018 1:39am
This can be a very tricky question which you need to determine a few key criteria before making a decision. First, you need to understand what makes you currently hate it. Could it be a co-worker? Could it be the department you're in and you wanted something different? Could it be the work is too much and you weren't given the proper tools and resources? Knowing what is making you hate it can lead you into discovering steps to try to fix it. Second, you need to take those steps to try to fix it. There is nothing wrong with speaking up especially if something is hindering your performance. If the organization is truly wanting you to succeed, they will listen to what you have to say. Sometimes a simple discussion can change something that's wrong. Finally, if those attempts to fix it don't work, and you know you want to leave, make sure you don't burn any bridges, do enough research to make sure you have a new job settled to go to and give your current organization plenty of notice.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2018 2:06am
That's a very personal decision that may require a lot of soul searching. Some useful tools to help make these kinds of decisions include pro/con lists, journaling on the things that upset you about your job, figuring out your values and how your job may compliment or deter from them, talking with a trusted friend or professional who knows your situation, or evaluating the costs involved. It could be helpful to see what other jobs are out there and if any of those appeal to you. It's important to listen to your feelings if these thoughts come up often and strongly.
KayHelps
December 6th, 2018 6:34pm
Short answer: in the long run - no But since we do not live in a black/white reality, there usually have to be tradeoffs. We still need money to survive. So make sure, whatever your wealth, that you money suffices for a long enough time in case you want to quit. If one is honest to himself, the fear of quitting the job results from only a few distorted views: 1) I will not find a new job (and some people will call me useless then / I do not contribute to society) 2) I don't know what I want to do 3) fear of the unknown/new Seeing the big picture, you should never work only for the money. If you do not enjoy your job, why would you waste over 50% of your wake time on it? When in your death bed, do you want to admit to yourself that you wasted over 50% of your life with something that you hate? That would be a pretty sad thing to imagine. You can search for a new orientation while you continue at the bad job or you can quit it in case the job causes damage to your body. If the job is unethical, I suggest to quit instantly. Same if you have serious health issues because of the job/colleagues. Just imagine all the good things that can happen when you quit. All the opportunities, the freedom that you will have, a more relaxed mind etc. Have the boldness to dare jump into the unknown, possibly even changing your field of profession, dream big. A small failure while changing the job would be way better than realizing the waste of precious time you were given with something that you hate.
BlankaM
January 9th, 2019 9:48pm
Sometimes you should stay at a job you hate because it is necessary in the long term. However, if it is directly impacting your mental and physical health, you really have to ask yourself, is it worth it? After all, you only get one life, and one body, so you should take care of it so it lasts healthy and happy for the rest of your life! You could ask yourself why you keep putting up with the job, what are the final goals. Is it more money? Better prospects? Promotion? Sometimes looking after your mental and physical health is more important than chasing money, so double checking your intentions behind all your decisions is never a bad thing!
Anonymous
January 13th, 2019 3:24pm
You should only stay at a job you hate as long as you have to. With that said there are a few reasons this applies to. Some examples are if the this is the only job you have that you can do, if it's the best job to have while supporting your family, if you are in the process of finding a new job or if it's the best paying job you can get. More importantly then if you like your job or not is if the job allows you to provide for yourself or for your family.
Favor2020
February 10th, 2019 9:02pm
Yes, if you have nothing to replace your current income with than you should stay put unless it has gotten to the point where you are wanting to do something stupid. Then by all measure you should leave ASAP otherwise try to find another job to replace the one that is getting on your nerves. It is so hard to replace a active income when you got a family and other obligations that you are responsible for my friend. You have no choice but to stay put and to grind it out until a better opportunity comes your way. Hang in there my friend and I pray nothing but the blessings of God over your life.
jenna888k
March 9th, 2019 12:57am
Unlike the classic American mindset of following your passion and not wasting your time doing something you don’t love. There are exceptions. Because there are bills to pay and people you need to take care of. Generally speaking, it is common sense to not waste your time at a job you hate. However, DO NOT quit if: You know the stress from looking for a new job will outweigh the stress you get from your current job. You don’t have any plan on what to do after you quit. But if you know your stress could not be any worse and you do have another job to go to or some type of plan, ask yourself these next questions: is this a job that has a potential to get more interesting? Even people who love their jobs experience extreme frustration and boredom at times. It’s perfectly normal. Just like a person, a job has its good and bad aspects. Were you ever happier than this at a different job? Or have you always hated work in general? If you cannot think of anything that you’d be happier doing, just stay at your job. Because there is a possibility you will hate your next job as much as this one. Is it the people you work with or the nature of the job? If it is the people, you should quit. The people you work with can make a world of a difference especially if you are a sensitive, social person. If it is the job, however, understand that unless you get a completely different job in a different field, not much will be different. Most importantly though, just understand that no matter where you go, there will be people you don’t get along with, tasks that bore you to tears or frustrate you to tears. This could be a great turning point to consider that maybe it’s not the job. Maybe it’s a different underlying issue, such as your mindset.
Anonymous
March 10th, 2019 8:00am
It all depends how much you need that Job. I believe we are happier when we do what we love, so if you can, quit and find the job of your dreams. If you cant quit, try and find the job of your dreams and the quit. Life is too short to be stuck doing something that does not spark joy in us. Sometimes we cant make that choice because we need the money to support ourselves and our loved ones, but even then we should work towards doing something that we enjoy. Perpetuating a reality that brings us misery is not only harmful to us but to those around us, because they don't get to experience the best of us.
LadyJaneGrey
March 24th, 2019 5:55am
I’d suggest a one on one session. Try talking about what you value about your work for five minutes. Then five minutes on what you want to achieve in it. This could be a change achieved through the role, it could be for your personal development or it could be a wage - there are no right or wrongs. Then spend another five minutes talking about what frustrates you. If it’s a person centred issue (as these things often are) it can help to imagine yourself as them talking to you. Then for ten minutes think about how you could get around those frustrations and what support you would need. If the job doesn’t match you values or your goals are not achievable then it may be time to move on.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2019 8:59pm
Nope - if you have dependents (children, family members) you can try to save money before leaving the job. Ultimately, start looking the instant you can. A wise man once told me to never leave a job until you have a backup job or backup support. My brother's girlfriend, as an example, hate her job. She was to the point where she was losing sleep just knowing she would have to return the next day. She had the support of her boyfriend and ultimately left the job without a different backup job. But - she had his support and her stress levels dropped dramatically! She found a job within two weeks and now is that much happier. Ask yourself - is your soul worth the job you're doing now? No job is worth it if you lose your soul in the process.
nlpinspiration
April 19th, 2019 9:35pm
It depends. You should evaluate situation. The best shoot is if you can find some think that makes you feel better and stick to it.But that is not always easy. It needs a little brainstorming. And than to make decision what is best for you. If you stay on current position what would the consequences could be. If you quit, will you be able to survive up to your next job? In both cases it needs to be in harmonies with your needs . The harmony have some impact on your personality. Positive impact can move you forward, bit negative influence, I mean if there is some non consistency within yourself can lead you toward anxiety and depression
Anonymous
April 27th, 2019 6:27am
This is a personal preference. If you feel like it could improve soon then you have that option to keep at it. No one should be miserable at a job but it completely depends on if you think it’s going to be worth it. If I were in your shoes I would probably start looking for other jobs and if I find one that would be perfect but you should keep the job until you could find a job you would like to switch to. One thing to handle the stress is just to think positive and try to have a positive outlook because too much stress can lead to depression.
GoodListener334
May 9th, 2019 8:17pm
It's always easiest to find a new job while you are currently employed. If you quit and there is a gap in employments future employers will want to know why. If you truly feel unhappy in your current job I'd recommend looking at other options to see what is available to you. Change can be scary but long term it will be worth it if you're that unhappy at your current job. Are there potentially other jobs available within the company you work at that may be a good fit for you? Good Luck, I'm sure you will make the right decision!
awesomePineapple7095
June 16th, 2019 2:13am
Staying at a job you hate is a personal decision that depends on how you feel and your goals for your life. You have to ask yourself how this job is negatively or positively impacting your life. If the point of your job is to help you achieve something, you should ask yourself how important the outcome is to you and whether it’s worth it. If you’re only staying because you feel like you have to, examine your other options, and think about considering a backup plan that would help you feel more secure in leaving your job. Ultimately, whether you should stay at a job you hate is a choice that is completely unique to you, your situation, and the circumstances.
versatileEnergy15
July 9th, 2019 7:10pm
There is no answer for this question. Instead I would challenge you to ask yourself the following: 1. Am I prepared to commit to finding a new job? 2. What type of commitment would finding a new job take? (1 hour a day? 8 hours a day?) 3. Is my health at risk continuing to work where I am? 4. Is my family at risk continuing to work where I am? 5. What is it that I LIKE about my current job? 6. What is it that I DO NOT LIKE about my current job? 7. Are there alternatives to quitting? (is this relationship salvageable?) If your job hatred is due to a single person you work with, you do not have to consider leaving this job. You DO have to consider confronting the problem or finding a 3rd party to help you resolve it. Before you take any action towards resolution, document your answers to the 7 questions above. You will want to have these written out, along with your goal of resolving the issue to continue to work at your job. This is important because once you make your company aware of your problem with a co-worker, they legally cannot make the matter worse. It may not get better, but they cannot retaliate or make it worse. If they do, you use the answers to the questions above as documentation (as well as any emails and text messages that help you make your point.) Futility - or hopelessness - is an awful feeling to have at work or at home. Sometimes we need to remove emotion from the equation and look at the logical part of the scenario. You are not alone.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2019 1:32pm
Sometimes you stay at a job you hate for a bigger goal. If you plan on staying in a job you hate for the rest of your life then no quit now! But if its just a temporary struggle to get to your dream job then push through it. I know it will seem to be like it isn’t worth it but trust me it is. Just as long as you have a bigger goal in mind. If not there are a million jobs out there and I am sure you are qualified for them. Your job now is neither better or worse than something else out there
IndigoSunshine03
August 9th, 2019 7:57pm
I think that doing what you ❤️love ❤️ is important and working 9to5 in a job that you hate is rarely worth it. Spending your life doing something you hate isn't really a great way to live and in the end will lead to unhappiness and missed opportunities. Work somewhere, doing something that makes you incandescently and crazily happy because you are worth happiness, you are worthy of being loved, you are worthy of self-love and if you are doing a job that you hate, your not opening new doors, you're not welcoming as much love into your life and you're not accepting yourself so don't work at a job you hate ❤️❤️❤️☺️❤️❤️
SilentSerenityy
August 31st, 2019 12:03pm
In an ideal world, we would not be doing anything that we didn't love. It depends on a lot of things, like how much you need the money you're earning. If you can go without the money for some time, then I would encourage you to leave. But for most people, they need money to get by. If you have the opportunity to go into/apply for another job, then you should definitely go for it. Staying in a job you hate is not good for you. Even in a job you love, sometimes it can be hard to get up each morning. Don't make life harder for yourself!
adaptiveFern3251
September 19th, 2019 4:33pm
Staying at a job which you hate is only going to pull you down further. Self-love is also acknowledging your feelings. Instead, identify your passion/interest and work towards it. Eventually, you will feel satisfied and peaceful in your life. This might take time. However, consistency and discipline along with alignment make you successful. Don't forget to take breaks once in a while. These breaks help to energize you as well as allows the door of new ideas to be open. Make small changes daily to reach for success. You are more capable than you think you are. I believe in you.