What's the best way to stop feeling like I hate going to work?

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Last Updated: 03/12/2019 at 5:29pm
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Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 6:04pm
One thing I have done when I'm feeling burned out is try to shift my perspective. I have reminded myself that, ultimately, it is my choice to go to work (yes, I need to pay bills, etc. but no one is physically forcing me to go to work). When I started doing that, it's like it gave me some of my power back. And that helped me dread it less and enjoy it more.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2015 11:18pm
The question needs some clarification. Do you merely feel like you hate going to work or do you actually hate going to work? If the former, I think there's some cognitive dissonance involved here and that would take a lot of analysis to decipher. So, let's assume, then, that you actually hate going to work. We still need some additional clarification. When you say "going to work" are you literally referring to act of going to work as in your commute or is it work itself (or what goes at your place of work) that you abhor? Whichever of those you choose, the next step is to identify the things about that experience that you dislike so much that you have come to hate it. Feelings are reflections of our state of mind. If you don't like your state of mind, change it. You may not be in a position to change jobs or means getting to/from your place of employment. But, there may be things you can address to make things better for you. It's time to brainstorm and put on paper the list of things that bother you. Don't worry about the sequence and don't try to weed anything out at this stage. If they annoy you, they go on the list. When you're done, prioritize, putting the major issues at the top of the list. Next to each item jot down ideas that could make things better. It's OK to ask a friend or coworker you can confide in about a vexing issue on your list to see how they cope with it. At some point, you might even find your manager a sympathetic and effective resource. Just be mindful of how you express yourself. Be constructive and cooperative, not accusatory and resentful. You probably won't be able to fix everything and the changes you make may take time to have an impact. But, you have the motivation and a strategy to work with. Stay optimistic and don't give up on yourself. Good luck.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2015 9:13pm
Think of the reasons why you wanted that job in the first place. And think how lucky you are to have it, when many other people tried for the same position and failed.
serene63
March 15th, 2016 7:56pm
we all have our bad days if this is a every day thing have you tried another line of work.perhaps your not happy with the job your doing.
Asja
May 2nd, 2017 3:52pm
Just start your morning more positive, know that you're helping your community with that work and that you have purpose in your life with doing that work. You can, also, plan on doing something that you like after work so every day you have that: "okay, first I am going to work and then (for example) I'm going to watch that movie, I can not wait!"
callmejay
February 10th, 2015 9:29pm
Find out why you hate going to work. Try to nail down every single aspect that you don't like about going to work and find, with the help of family, friends or colleagues, a way to change it.
My1es
April 22nd, 2015 1:40pm
It's not easy. Sometimes it's a matter of finding something at work that fulfills you and making it a point to do so. I worked in retail pharmacy, and the company I worked for was very soul sucking and the environment was awful. I dreaded going there. What kept me going were my patients. I found ways to lower their copays using drug company promotions, and strove to ensure they were able to get their medicine for cheapest (even if it meant referring them elsewhere). That is just an example, of course. It really depends on what you're doing. I know that finding a new job isn't always practical, or possible at the time. You may want to sit down and write what you hate about your job. It's very cathartic, and can be very helpful. :) Having all of that in one place can help you figure out what to do. I hope that's helpful. Good luck!
ScreenOphelia
June 13th, 2017 6:59am
Set yourself a reward for after your shift (get a coffee, watch a favourite movie, see a friend). Or, if you're going to have a break, take yourself an edible treat to work whether it be a new flavour of tea or a healthy packed lunch.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2015 3:29pm
For many of us work is a requirement to live so we can have nice things. Until we create the opportunity that allows us to work our passion, we may be in a job that’s just a job and not a career. Once one begins to acknowledge one’s purpose, the job won’t feel so much like a burden. Look for opportunities instead of shortcomings, find a work buddy, stop being so negative, and keep working towards your passion.
LilyFlowers
May 6th, 2015 2:32am
Well you can change how you see work. Look at things from a different prospective. Change your thinking, change your life.
blissfulPicture49
March 1st, 2016 5:57pm
Think about the good things that come with the job.If you really hate your job think of what else you would like to do! you're never trapped in a job!
Greatlistener87
September 13th, 2016 2:24am
Firstly find out why you had going to work and deal with that. You have to love what you do to do it well.
Hawksbill
November 7th, 2017 10:20pm
Focus on how your current work is helping you achieve your bigger goals and what you get from your job - money, colleagues, experience. At the same time keep looking for a more satisfying job.
Openheart87
August 14th, 2018 10:08pm
If you hate your job then do yourself a favour and search for a new one. Life is too short to spend time in an environment that causes you distress! Actively apply for new jobs in your free time and confide in co-workers you trust to help you manage your emotions until you have found a new job. Good luck! xx
PhoenixArisen
March 12th, 2019 5:29pm
One thing that may be helpful is to change your verbiage, and therefor your mindset. Maybe instead of saying "I have go to work now" is simply to say "I'm going to go to work now". Saying "have to go" implies that you have no choice in the matter. But we all have choices, everyday. No one is forcing you today, you are choosing to go to work and you are choosing to work there. Sometimes setting out your clothing the night before can help, packing your lunch if need be the night before, and setting everything that is needed to accomplish the task of going to work is set right in front of your front door. Setting your alarm maybe 15 minutes earlier could be beneficial as well. This way you might not be so rushed, frazzled, maybe have a little "me" time in there before you head out to start your day!