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Session Three - The Denial of Trauma and abuse

Hello everyone and welcome to our Trauma support session. Today we will be discussing The denial of Trauma.  Trauma sessions will run at the same times each week and they are an opportunity for you to learn from and share with one another. Let’s remember to show kindness and support to others in the group at all times. If you need more support during this time, please connect 1-1 with a listener. See this resource thread


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Everyone is welcome to share and participate as they would like, but we respectfully ask you to let everyone participate in the discussion as they are comfortable to do so. Due to the nature of trauma discussion, please do not provide graphic details of your trauma to help prevent triggering others.


Reminder:  If you feel yourselves being triggered, remember it's okay to take a breather from the room and come back when you are feeling ready to.  Remember to use the link on grounding and if necessary, reach out for support to a listener. You come first and it's important to look after your needs!


Icebreaker: What was the last book you read or song you played?


  1. How would you define the term denial in the context of traumatic experiences and what are examples of how people may try to deny their traumatic experience?


Notes:  Denial can involve denying the traumatic event happened, denying that it was traumatic, an inability to accept a PTSD diagnosis,  or minimizing the devastating impact of the trauma. Some people may also use victim blaming or use false beliefs to reassurance themselves that nothing similar could happen to them or those they care for.  eg: “I’m not sad, I am not in denial, I should have been able to cope with it, what happened to me was not trauma.”


  1. Admitting to trauma is by far one of the most difficult aspects of healing from traumatic experiences. What difficulties and fears did you experience acknowledging your trauma experience?


Notes: Eg: wouldnt cope, would be overwhelmed, be disbelieved, rejected, keeps you in negative cycles of coping.)


  1. When admitting and facing your traumatic experiences, how did others around you respond?    What are some reasons people might respond negatively or have difficulty in acknowledging someone’s traumatic experience?


  1. If you encountered denial by others about your experiences, how did you manage that and the feelings this left you with?


  1. Acknowledging and admitting to trauma not only has a big impact on you but can also impact on everyone in your life, particularly your family and friends.  What impact on loved ones do you feel occurred when you acknowledged your trauma and did this change the way they related to you?


  1. As a reminder, please do not provide graphic details of your trauma to help prevent triggering others.  What did you find was the most difficult aspect in acknowledging your traumatic experience? Or if you still haven’t fully acknowledged it, what is stopping you?


Notes: Other people around us may feel the need to look at themselves when we admit to having had a traumatic experience. The denial of trauma absolves everyone of their own feelings. Having the strength to say, actually, you know what, this happened and this has contributed to where I am today, is one of the  hardest things many sufferers will have to do in their lives.


  1. Acknowledging trauma could leave some survivors feeling empowered having found courage to face their fear, speak out and survive doing that.  What positive effects did you experience either within yourself or from others once you acknowledged your trauma?


  1. The view through trauma-tinted lenses is one of constant fear. It makes the world seem a frightening and dangerous place where no one can be trusted. Trauma leaves people feeling confused and insecure.  How do you experience this? What fears and anxieties still have a huge impact on you?


  1. The denial of trauma is often rooted in issues of fear and safety. Dealing with trauma can be very painful and difficult. What ways do you feel can help you heal from your experiences whilst providing you with feelings of being safe and less afraid?  What have you tried that has worked or not been helpful for you?


Notes: courage, mental capacity, strength, patience, support, and other resources.


  1. For those of you who have started to work on your traumatic experiences, what positive changes do you feel you have made for yourself since beginning to face your experiences.  Has anything changed for the better for you?


  1. What is the one thing you feel you have learnt from today’s discussion that you can take away with you?


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