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Number of ratings561 Number of reviews262 Listens toTeens & Over 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceJul 4, 2017 Last activein last week PathStep 2,449 People helped785 Chats4,422 Group support chats4,885 Listener group chats3,449 Forum posts11,272 Forum upvotes33,210
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"You are always one decision away from a totally different life."

Hello everyone, I'm known as Obs and I'm one of the members of the Community Management Team. 

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Please feel free to PM me with any questions or doubts regarding our community and roles. I am here with you to help with the best of my efforts while we keep building our community better each day with team efforts. 

I am unable to take chat requests right now as I am unable to respond timely. I request you to connect with other available listeners here-  Browse Listeners. We all are here with you to listen to and support you. 

Do not say, "I am having a bad day." Say, "I am having a character-building day." - Les Brown

Have a wonderful day and thanks for stopping by!!
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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
35 & Over Community / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
Work Prompt #17: Do you struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk?
Work & Career / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Welcome back all, I hope you are all taking it easy on yourself at work this week. Last week we discussed: What are your experiences with respect in the workplace? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/career/General_2503/WorkPrompt16Whatareyourexperienceswithrespectintheworkplace_326809/]   [https://www.7cups.com/forum/career/General_2503/WorkPrompt14Haveyoueverfacedadifficultdecisionatwork_325320/]Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts for discussion. I enjoyed them. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/career/General_2503/WorkPrompt16Whatareyourexperienceswithrespectintheworkplace_326809/] This week's prompt: Do you struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk? The battle with self-doubt and negative self-talk. How many times have you found yourself hesitating to take that leap of faith, pursue your dreams, or simply speak up because that little voice inside your head told you that you're not good enough? It's a struggle that many of us face, but it doesn't have to define us.  I am looking forward to discussing these issues and sharing experiences to support each other in this journey towards emotional well-being. Let's use this space to discuss and share our struggles and challenges to support each other better on this front.  Also, I invite all to help me with creating these weekly prompt discussions so that we all can come together and discuss something related to work and career every week. If you any interested in helping me out, please share your interest through this form and  I will reach out to you to guide and support you in creating the next discussion.  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefjDBwy85YFxWpfrqrdXbdMORBC-pvJA4xhd10R9lMq66fIw/viewform] ------------------------- Join the Work&Career Group Chat every Wednesday & Thursday!  [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=l2prdHyUk5ydlLBqXYmVyg!!]
Weekly Prompt #36: Can you list five things you love about yourself?
General Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello all!  Last week we discussed: What healthy coping mechanisms do you use to manage difficult emotions? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt35Whathealthycopingmechanismsdoyouusetomanagedifficultemotions_326804/]  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt30Ifyoucanchallengeyourselfforonethingtostepoutsideyourcomfortzone_321887/]If you haven't checked yet, please click here to add your thoughts.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt35Whathealthycopingmechanismsdoyouusetomanagedifficultemotions_326804/] This week's prompt-  Can you list five things you love about yourself?  We often find it easier to criticize ourselves rather than celebrate our strengths. But it is okay to practice self-love and acknowledge the positive qualities that make us unique individuals. So, let's reflect and list five things we love about ourselves. Also, I invite all to help me with creating these weekly prompt discussions so that we all can come together and discuss something related to general support every week. If you any interested in helping me out, please share your interest through this form and  I will reach out to you to guide and support you in creating the next discussion.  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefjDBwy85YFxWpfrqrdXbdMORBC-pvJA4xhd10R9lMq66fIw/viewform] Join us in the 24/7 General Support Group Chat to share and support each other. -------------------------
Weekly Prompt #35: How hard is it for you to set boundaries in your relationships?
Depression Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself this week. Last week we discussed:  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt33Haveyoueverstoppedtoponderthecomplexitiesofyourownmind_325966/]What is one difficult life situation you are facing right now? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt34Whatisonedifficultlifesituationyouarefacingrightnow_326788/] Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts and questions for discussion. They were thought-provoking questions and thoughts. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt34Whatisonedifficultlifesituationyouarefacingrightnow_326788/] This week's prompt: How hard is it for you to set boundaries in your relationships? Setting boundaries in relationships can be a challenging task, and when you are also depressed, it can become even more daunting. The struggle to prioritize your own needs and well-being while navigating the complexities of interpersonal connections can feel overwhelming. So please share the challenges and difficulties that you encounter in your relationships while navigating depression.  Note: I invite all to help me with creating these weekly prompt discussions so that we all can come together and discuss something related to depression every week. If you any interested in helping me out, please share your interest through this form and  I will reach out to you to guide and support you in creating the next discussion.  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefjDBwy85YFxWpfrqrdXbdMORBC-pvJA4xhd10R9lMq66fIw/viewform] Join us in the 24/7 Depression Support Group Chat [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] -------------------------
Weekly Prompt #35: What type of anxiety do you struggle with?
Anxiety Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Hello all and welcome back to another discussion,  A couple of weeks ago we discussed: How do you conquer fear and the "All-Eyes-On-Me" feeling? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WeeklyPrompt34HowdoyouconquerfearandtheAllEyesOnMefeeling_326784/] Thank you to all who participated and shared your thoughts with us. I appreciate you all. I hope all who may read it find it relatable too. If anyone hasn't shared yet, please share them here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WeeklyPrompt34HowdoyouconquerfearandtheAllEyesOnMefeeling_326784/] and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you. Thank you to @JollyRacher for suggesting the topic of different types of anxiety or panic attacks one experiences and that is what I look forward to discussing and hearing you all in this discussion.  Anxiety can come in different forms, shapes, and intensity for everyone. The type of anxiety you struggle with is a deeply personal experience that can have a significant impact on your daily life. This week's prompt: What type of anxiety do you struggle with? So, let's discuss and share different types of anxiety or panic attacks you experiencing and if there are any first steps you taking, even when it's scary. I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences! Note:  I invite all to help me with creating these weekly prompt discussions so that we all can come together and discuss something related to anxiety every week. If you any interested in helping me out, please share your interest through this form and  I will reach out to you to guide and support you in creating the next discussion.  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefjDBwy85YFxWpfrqrdXbdMORBC-pvJA4xhd10R9lMq66fIw/viewform] Join us in the Anxiety Support Chat every Monday and Tuesday! [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] -------------------------
Pop-up discussions are back!
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello and welcome to the revival of pop-up discussions In 2020, we received a suggestion from a teen member to revive pop-up discussions [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/PopUpGroupDiscussions_2110/Popupdiscussionsareback_226825/] and @Hope worked a lot on this front to bring it back. It was loved by everyone who hosted or attended these discussions. Thank you Hope for all your foundational work and for empowering us.  Now we are in 2024, and we introducing Pop-up Discussions 3.0 with some new changes to make it more inclusive, accessible, and more sessions to participate in. I invite you all to host or participate in these sessions. Let’s get started!  What is a pop-up discussion? It is a short discussion on lighthearted topics. It lasts 15 -45 minutes each. The primary goal is to have more focused opportunities to discuss and share in an inclusive space for everyone to come together and participate.  Why should you host pop-ups? They are super fun and convenient. You can host one without any planning and you can do anytime and as many as you like to based on your availability. Do you have 15 minutes? Feel free to start one.  It can be a good way to get to know other members in the group chats and encourage/ empower others to open up and share their thoughts.  Also, do you know? There is a special “Pop-up Ninja” badge. You can earn it by hosting 3 discussions in a week.  Who can host one?  Both Listeners and Members.  How can you host one? You can choose a script from the following available scripts and host the discussion in the appropriate room * Member Side Scripts [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jRiJQIqfXYtw8biZ13_6VNepYS09hxMCtg8yWEqz8Ro/edit#] * Listener Scripts [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hL9B9-hZJGvn8agsQzLq1vkUtH1x5ndmZo3c1oIBOcM/edit] Where can you host?  Adult * Group Chat for member pop-up discussion - Special events,  Positivity Corner * Group Chat for listener pop-up discussion - Listener Community Chat Teen * Group Chat for Member pop-up discussion - Teen Community Room, Special events  * Group Chat for Listener pop-up discussion - Teen Hangout, Teen Listeners Please note:  * Special events, Positivity Corner, and Teen Hangout are pop-up group chats that need to be opened by someone who has the special privilege to open/ close group chats.  * They are known as Doorkeepers. You can find one in the listener support chats or contact a moderator/ community moderator on shift.  Helpful tips to keep in mind:  * Ensure to set a discussion banner with “your name” and must have “Pop-up” in the banner. If you are unable to set a banner, you can take the help of anyone including community moderators to set a discussion banner for you * When you require assistance such as a room opening or setting up a banner, please reach out to the community moderator on duty with a kind and polite message. Please understand that they may be managing multiple rooms simultaneously. Allow them a few moments to acknowledge and respond to your request. * All pop-up discussions can be 15, 30, or 45 minutes based on your availability to host one.  * Fill out this short form to log the discussion you hosted. Bookmark the form  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdsQPBHJOkVsFXaElmOiXA-WY7H3cabI9rfXgtcVMkh5VNF8w/viewform] * Ensure to welcome all participants and repeat questions when a few more people join in. So all can participate.  * Do not rush into asking all questions. Host it at a comfortable pace where all participants can share.  * Use active listening skills to empathize, reflect, and validate with the participants. If you host pop-up discussions, please fill out this form so you can get a badge and cheers (if eligible) - Open the Form!  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdsQPBHJOkVsFXaElmOiXA-WY7H3cabI9rfXgtcVMkh5VNF8w/viewform] Let’s get started and have some good fun together!  @Heather225 @Suryansh @EmmaE @Hopedreamlove @amy
SAW #3: The power of laughter
Healthy Living / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 April 12th
...See more Hello all,  Group Support organizing Stress Awareness Week, [https://www.7cups.com/forum/healthyliving/General_2447/StressAwarenessWeekwUsYourenotalone_326969/]  the focus will be on discussing general awareness, and support, and celebrating milestones and small steps. This will be an opportunity for all of us to come together and extend our support and compassion to navigate the stress. Yesterday, we discussed stress-busting tips, if you haven't shared yours, please share them here with us.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/healthyliving/EmotionalSupport_1047/SAW2Shareyourtipstobeatthestress_327023/] As we discuss different tips to manage stress, I want to highlight and discuss a lighter yet more powerful technique: laughter. We all know laughter feels good, but, it also has benefits for our mental and physical well-being. * When we laugh, our bodies release endorphins, those feel-good chemicals that can improve our mood and reduce stress hormones like cortisol. Laughter can also boost our immune system and even lower blood pressure! * Sharing a funny story or joke with a friend can lighten the mood and put things in perspective. Can you think of a time when laughter helped you through a stressful situation?  * Different kinds of humor can be most effective for stress relief. Like, silly memes, witty puns, or lighthearted banter with friends.  * Laughter can be contagious. I am sure many of you found yourself laughing just because someone else is laughing. It helps to create a positive and supportive atmosphere, further reducing stress for everyone involved. So I want us to discuss and share the power of laughter to get better at managing our stress.  * Do you find laughter to be an effective stress reliever? Share your experiences. * What are your go-to strategies for finding humor in everyday situations? * Let's share some funny memes, jokes, or lighthearted stories to spread the laughter around. 
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Very kind and understanding, and fun to talk to
really observant and kind : ) obs is a great listener 100% recommend
this listener was emphatic loved chatting with obs would love to chat again.
Really well done on all accounts!
Obs is great
coolest coolest helpful person who knows how to take feedback and make a real difference on 7 cups
Obs has been tremendous support for me , always. I appreciate his presence in cups for responding promptly and doing what he can to be supportive of both listeners and members in 7 cups. Ive known him since around past 6 years and its always a pressure to see him in the rooms, the way he responds to people and his dicussions. It all shows his care and passion.
Really kind and helpful
really good listener!
Obs is always ready to help with questions and is very knowledgeable. It is a pleasure to have Obs here.
Best listener ever!
Helpful and open to understand
Very kind caring and supportive
incredible, good at time mangement
A very nice person. They try there best as Group Support Manager here at 7cups.
Very supportive. Very caring. Very understanding. Takes the time to listen to feedback from other Community Leaders. Very Professional. A very wise person.
ASlientObserver is a warm, caring person. They love being in group support. They are a good leader. They try there best to set a good example. They are good group support manager.
Always support and positive Sent information that is important to me to assistance me and also enhance my journey and support my chosen path.
amazinggggggggg
Obs is so patient, understanding, kind which makes them an amazing listener.
Obs is So helpful
We patient explaining answers to my questions.
Obs is such an amazing person, and I appreciate all of the contributions they have made to this wonderful community. Keep up the amazing work, and never change! ❤️❤️
An empathetic mind!
This person is very genuine and caring and honest. It was a shear pleasure interacting with them. I highly recommend them as someone to talk too and you should feel much much better afterwards. Definitely a pillar of this 7 cups community indeed. 10/10 service.
Obs is so nice and very patient. He is one of the best listeners there is, and I would give him a million stars if I could.
A wonderful person who goes the extra mile to make this a platform that is user friendly . They were patient responsive and very helpful.
He understands me. He just did thank you a thousand times
He's just the best
Really helpful and motivational
The best hands down so understanding and caring
He is a very nice person, he is willing to go extra mile just to help. He is deserves a million dollars tbh😂
Very good communicator and answers automatically when gets a chance, nice friendly too..
Obs is always pleasant and enjoyable to chat with, even in minor interactions. :)
A great listener who helped sort my emotions and lended a listening ear to my problems when no one was there to listen to them
He was very attentive, loyal, kind, Supportive and Empathetic Listener. Thanks you so much ASilentObserver 🥰♥️
Very attentive and considerate person, thank you for your help
great listener helpful
Very kind and understanding i loved talking to obs I highly recommend talking to obs if you need a helping hand
Very kind person. Encourages me a lot.
ASilentObserver was very kind and open to hearing my concerns. Also, very quick to respond and seemed forthright.
They helped me a lot just by listening, it was great talking to them.
Good he is very helpful
Hard worker. Amazing person.
thank you. You're wonderful
Hard working person for cups. Appreciate all that he does for us
Great person. Very Kind and very helpful.
Responds quickly and gets to the point.
Great Listener.
Super helpful, thanks so much
Always doing a great job. Very observant! ;)
Good hope we can continue
Great chat. I feel valued as a member.
*huggles* thank you soo much
They are very soothing.
Amazing listener! Thank you for taking the time to listen to my concerns and worries, and give real thought out answers which helped me realize things. It made me feel really listened to 💛
very patient listener
I was lucky to talk to him. He is knowledgeable on many topic and he understood me very well in short time. Gave me nice suggestion when asked. It was worth talking to him. Compassionate.. Empathy and have patient and easy to talk. definitely can be recommend to other. God bless you and you be happy always.
Great listener! Provided very helpful thoughts.
Helped me deal with the problem which was bugging me from a long time
I loved the chat.. it was what you might call refreshing... 😄
OBS is so caring
Really great listener
Very thoughtful in responses, really gives you a sense that they care and genuinely want to help
Really helped to talk things through
very helpful, caring and understanding
Such a warm heart!🤗
Amazing Listener as always :) Makes me feel a lot better after our conversation :)
One of the best listeners I have ever met. Responds and is there whenever I needed him. Makes me feel a lot better!:)
He was very nice and understanding to me, and helped me talk through my anxiety. I had a good time talking with him.
very kind and amazing listener
I am so thankful for the help and useful tips that I get,great advice!
I find the support valuable and appreciate the advice
Really useful communucation,friendly,helpful advice
Thank you.
Great Listener:) empathizes with you and understands. Feel a lot better after our conversation :)
Thank you very much. Thanks for helping with Bipolar awareness / relationships -- very important topic.
I found some great support from @ASilentObserver and a genuine,caring attitude.I much appreciate his help!
An amazing and caring person. They helped me through a really rough time.
amazing person genuinely kind and caring always responsive really helped me in my time of need thank you so much
Very caring and helpful
Silent is awesome, as always. Great listener, always there when I need to talk to someone and provides a compassionate ear to my seemingly minuscule problems.
Awesome!!! Love Obs!
Super understanding and sweet, thank you!
Always help and has insightful inputs
Had a fruitful and enlightening session helped me see things clearer and understand better where I was lagging
great
Understanding, smart, attentive, interactive, caring.
Obs is extremely helpful, understanding, and caring. I felt like I wasn't being judged, so thank you so much for your advice and I'll be coming again when I need more help!
Very helpful and understanding. She will lsten to what ever u have to say and try to help u sort out ur thoughts and help u with what's going on I highly recommend her
Thanks for your time
You're Kind. Thanks
amazing
awesome as always and very helpful
Thank you silentObs. You have been really helpful.
Obs is such a lovely heart to chat with. Always having the nicest words to make a day go better. It's a sweet heart and caring person I every way.
Our conversation was awesome! Thank you @ASilentListener
They helped and I appreciate that, I felt better after talking with them for a bit.
I did like how compassionate it seems to be.
He is very patient. Listened to my problems without judgment. Tried to cheer me up when I was at my worse. Thanks for being my listener.
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