Megalomentaurus Member Profile

Walking with Questions Unanswered

Autism Support / by Megalomentaurus

Saturday

...See more Hello. For the record, with this thread post if I accidentally offend anyone, please let me know, and I'll try to avoid making the same mistake again. This is just a vent for me, as my life feels like a trapped circle of chains that I can't break myself out of. I feel desperate and stressed out, upset, and confused. I feel a lot of exhaustion as well as these thoughts are constantly in my head and I need help figuring them out. Please if anyone would like to give assistance, that'd be greatly appreciated. So, I am NOT diagnosed with autism, but I feel I may be autistic. I will get diagnosed eventually on May 8th, but at the time of this post, it isn't May 8th yet. I've been wondering what's been up with me for years, but these couple of months have been real tough on me as the diagnostic is close, but STILL not there. If people would want to help me learn more about what autism is like, so I can not only educate myself, but also help figure myself out, I would appreciate it. I also wrote like 10 pages of symptoms on my small journal (Yeah, I really did go into it.) I'll showcase them here, and if anyone wants to put their opinions on it, and say whether or not I'm autistic, that'll be good too. I know this isn't a tool to diagnosis, but I'd feel it'd be important to reach out to autistic people or people are knowledgeable about it, so I can learn more about my symptoms. I also diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and PTSD, so I'm not sure if those may intervene with one another instead. However, for my PTSD, I haven't been diagnosed with that BEFORE I started to wonder if I was autistic. The PTSD is a recent diagnosis. I've also been considered to have ADHD, such as from my psychiatrist. My ex-online friend thought I could be autistic while another ex-online friend thought I could have ADHD, and they WERE actually diagnosed with ADHD. Overall, there's a lot of complications when it comes to figuring who I am and what I'm dealing with. If people could help me figure it out in here, I'd enjoy reading the information and asking questions or concerns if I have any. Thank you! Here's the list of my symptoms by the way (that I've noticed and believe they may point to me being autistic) so you can see them yourself: I find social situations confusing and overwhelming. It's hard for me to make and keep friendships. I think I hyperfixate on a specific fictional character (Miles "Tails" Prower from Sonic the Hedgehog) compared to other characters in a (the) particular franchise. This character also increased my love for a specific animal (foxes) for merely existing. I find comfort in routines and I do get upset and panicky when something happens and my routine changes, like having to go into a different building instead of a classroom on schedule, for example, at school. I'm terrified to get in trouble at school and I will try to follow the rules, feeling really guilty and angry at myself if I don't follow expectations or mess up. I believe I stim. I've nail-bit my fingers for a long time, and I still do to this day, but it's not as common. I also rock back and forth, bounce my leg, and "flap" my hands. I also fidget with my orange stress ball and finding increasing comfort and sentiment towards it. These behaviors happen all the time; not just when I'm anxious or stressed. I find it really hard to calm myself and my anxious thoughts. I find it difficult to regulate my emotions and cope with them in a healthy way. I believe I'm more emotional and sensitive than others. I'm very sensitive to loud noises, and I have specific triggers that make me mad. I dislike certain textures and clothing; most types of pants, wet hair, etc. I was much shyer and awkward when I was younger. I also struggled with eye contact more so in the past, feeling constantly to look at others. I'm easily startled and jumpy. I believe I get meltdowns, but I suppress them at school. I believe I struggle with focus and impulsivity. Look at them carefully and take your time to write your thoughts. Also, if you want more details on any of these symptoms, let me know too! I hope I can learn more about the autism spectrum and educate myself on this topic.

How to stop worrying about the future and growing up?

Anxiety Support / by Megalomentaurus

December 28th, 2023

...See more Throughout today, I keep hearing about a few people and seeing posts about growing up, growing old, and harder life challenges down the line. I wish it didn't give this much distress as it's easy for me to get new, scary thoughts that interfere and cause extreme emotions and pain. I keep thinking about the things I have right now as a kid, and how they will slowly fade away throughout time. Some specific ones I mainly mention that make me stress out is the loss of breaks like Winter Break, Summer Break, Spring Break, etc., it feels like your birthdays become more of a normal day instead of celebratory, and sometimes, it seems like sometimes you have lesser time to have fun and have WAY more responsibility, and there's also this nostalgia that I'm scared to feel when I'm an adult, that being: "I'm being a kid again." "This reminds me of my childhood." "I miss my childhood!" I don't want to say goodbye to being a kid and then missing it. I'm a very emotional person, and I struggle to calm down when getting into a mess of moods. While I know being an adult is different for everyone, however, there are just many bad things I think about adulthood and what I'll do for the rest of my life when I AM an adult. Life will also get harder and there WILL be more things to stress about, and the expectations I set for myself are INCREDIBLY and TIRING HARD! But- I believe my expectations will only get worse as the general requirement for success gets harder and harder, and you are expected to do MORE as you grow up. I hate worrying about becoming an adult when I'm still young. I should focus on my childhood and the things I DO have instead of missing them and wasting my time. I can't stop all these worries happening over and over again. I don't even worry JUST about growing up, there's SO many things I worry, worry, worry constantly about. Low self-esteem and constantly bullying myself in my head. I should think about the positives of being an adult, but I'm blinded by all the negatives I see. It feels like, in this world, there's a LOT more negative things than positive things. I hate feeling all icky and convoluted as my emotions are very intense, too intense for me to handle and manage. How will I handle my waa-waa self as an adult? I'll have to suck it up and toughen up instead of crying all the time, getting pouty and angry at stupid things, and having stupid tantrums in my room. Alone in my room.

Struggling to Forgive and Freshly Start

Friendship Support / by Megalomentaurus

November 19th, 2023

Too much Empathy + Demotivation

Depression Support / by Megalomentaurus

September 14th, 2023

...See more I have dreams I want to fulfil. Thoughts I think up everyday as my imagination goes wild. Realism hurts hard at me as I think about how my thoughts are too "out-there" for me, and... what's the point when pain hits us hard? I do not know if I have been exposed to things too much, or simply exposed too little because I'm only a new, young teenager. However, I keep seeing pain across the internet and around the corners, and it only influences loads of pain and chills down my spine. The world overwhelms me with all its negativity, destroying any motivation I have to take onto my dreams and try. Heck- I probably don't know everything and I'm scared to know, terrified. I don't want to become an adult, I don't want to see the future, I am not ready. I don't know who I want to be when I grow up. People can say that I'm young and I still got time, but watch, time will fly away. Time will slip out of my hand and now I'm suddenly older. Imagination drives me pain sometimes. Why must my mind be so vivid and dark, yet my heart so soft and sensitive? I cry like a little baby as I think of my fears and things I have to accept in this planet like death. My pets will go away from me, everyone I love will go away, I will go away. I have to work things out in my own mind, but it's too difficult. Just reading or hearing something horrible, makes me feel a lot of emotions at once. I hate hearing about bad things that happen to people, or to hear that one of my loved ones are having a bad day. I'm too overdramatic about it, I'll literally freak-out as my mind cannot rest. Horrible days or horrible things that happened in the past, I hate how they bother me so much. Things bother me a whole lot and I really hate it, yet I don't even know if I can make a change in this planet. My attitude towards myself is so low, I hate myself, been hating myself for years. I keep distracting myself and shaming myself for progress I make on things. Drawings, I hate every single one of them. They aren't perfect just YET, but when is that yet? I want that yet to be now, but it won't be. I have muffled dreams to become an artist/animator, however, I cannot enjoy and have fun with the progress. I give up quickly, and I shame myself for that. I hate learning, and I shame myself for that. I have a lot of burdens that I carry in a metal backpack, and I'm climbing a mountain. I see others slip and fall. I just watch the cycle over and over, when I slip myself and stumble. I want to catch them and help, but I feel too hurt and unready to try. I think of myself as unkind, uncaring, and aloof. Even though seeing other pain's makes me feel a lot of pain myself. Too much of it. Why is that? Why am I so empathetic? Is it because I classify myself a HSP? Other reasons? Am I just experiencing on TRULY how much pain this world gives to everyone, and I'm struggling to handle it? Would I say I hate this world? Well, I feel like I want to say "yes?" My mind is too boggled by negativity to think of positivity. Is there MORE negativity than positivity? It feels like it, but I should focus on my own life, but no... I constantly think of others and then I think about how I can face the same pain. I imagine violent scenarios in my head, I imagine things that bring me misery, I feel like I can hear screams and see all the blood and terror. Am I being too overdramatic? Why do all these intrusive and pesky thoughts fly around in my brain, buzzing and buzzing? What can I do to stop them? I can't enjoy and experience life with all the commotion inside of my brain.

Is it abuse and manipulation, my fault, or something else? (TW?)

Trauma Support / by Megalomentaurus

August 25th, 2023

...See more Hello 7Cups and all its people. I'm making a forum post to help me answer questions if people are willing to answer them. I hope this forum post doesn't offend anyone or hurt anyone in anyway! I'm only a teenager... so I don't fully understand concepts of everything with mental health, that includes abuse. It may be something else that I'm struggling with, but I have a suspicion it may something related or it IS abuse. If you can, please help me answer my questions, it'd be helpful to see if other people, survivors, and professionals can assist me with the topic. With that said, I hope you have a great day, whoever you are... and remember you're very special. 💖 Now, I keep thinking of these questions throughout my days, and it keeps making me wonder. You see, I don't have the bestest relationship with my mother. I used to love her a lot more when I was younger, but as time went on and things happened, I love her less now. It's a bittersweet kind of relationship that I don't like. My family's struggles are pretty complex and complicated, which in turn, makes me feel lonely, confused (with myself and the others), and have some resentment and bitterness. I used to have a bigger family when I was younger, I was happier back then, because maybe I had more people to love. Watching Spongebob or the Amazing World of Gumball every morning with my grandma... seeing my aunt, my uncle, and of course, the 4 dogs at that house. They'd come to celebrate the birthday and bring me joy, before we split from them. I also remember every morning as well... I'd eat delicious and scrumptious pancakes cooked from my grandma, resulting that I felt a longing for pancakes and a missing for them. I know that my mother also struggles with her own mental health. She may be struggling with Depression and possibly other mental disorders. She may be Bipolar, according to my dad, as she seems to switch her emotions from happy to sad pretty quickly. In my knowledge as I've learnt, there's different types of Bipolar Disorder, but I don't know which type she has. She's stubborn to get help for her mental health and try to grow from the past. She didn't have the bestest past either, but there's many gaps, holes, and missing pieces in the puzzle... so much... that I can't figure out what EXACTLY happened in the past. I probably will never find out unless there's an actual successful time machine. She had a sister (my aunt), a brother (my uncle I think), a mother (my grandma), and a dad (my SUPPOSED grandfather.) She told me quite some things from her past and I was a younger age too. I believe in the single digit numbers, not even 10 years or anything. Maybe 7, 8, 9? Something along those lines. Either way, she told me some things... and I was rather confused and I didn't exactly know how to feel. Due to not knowing how to feel... mainly trusting and loving my mom more at the time... I believed on what she was saying, but didn't know how to comment on it. Maybe I had my own thoughts, but I brushed them off for the sake of my own mother. But due to exposure with the ears and seeing her tears... in the long run, it did affect me, now that I'm older. I didn't understand a lot about mental health back then, abuse, and all of that. I still am learning today. Either way, using this information that my mother told me AND her severe trust issues that she has... (still HAS, key word.) she tried to split them from me and slowly make me lost trust of them. And she did. She made me (and my brother) resent THEM and not trust them. She wanted to keep ME all for herself, she wanted me to take her side of the family. Even though in families, there's supposed to be no sides, right? Families should support each other... like we're a familiar team. However, it wasn't the case for my family. Back then, my dad and brother also believed that was no sides. However, my mother and I joked about it... and laughed about them. My mom also told me things about my father... and how he's actually bad and more demonic than I think he is. Talking bad about her or cheating, for instance. My mom also doesn't FULLY trust my brother... because she believes that he's talking bad about her to my father. She doesn't trust her own son? Now that's bad. As she fed this information into my naive and gullible brain, it slowly was affecting me and putting toxins inside. Like I said earlier, I'd start to resent my other parts of the family, my dad's family (his mom and dad I think), and I wouldn't have my cousins anymore. I don't remember my cousins at all, only really visiting them once, then never seeing them again. This would be the same for my grandma and the others. However, longer. I'd see them for a while and then... poof. Gone. Gone from my life. No more pancakes, no more Spongebob, no more TAWOG, none of that. No more extra birthday gifts and love. I don't even see my dad's mom or my dad's... DAD... that much anymore. It's just the six of us now. Me, my mom, my dad, and my brother + my dog and my cat. Now that I'm older... I believe she managed to manipulate me and MY BROTHER to some extent, to make us resent them and fully leave them, as if THEY'RE the ones causing pain. Now granted, in my mom's past, it's true that I don't have a grandfather. Her dad used to do horrible things, sexual assault(?), to her and her sister... while her mom wouldn't do anything about it. Her dad eventually killed himself one day, I forgot how, but he did. My mom didn't really have any friendships and struggled to connect with others, she might've felt lonely, resentment, bitterness, like how I do. It makes me feel guilty to some extent... to feel resentment and bitterness towards HER... when my mom also suffered pain that could similar feelings to mine, maybe even more drastic, as things were different back then when she was a child. She didn't even have to go to school that much... as my grandma, her own mom, didn't care. However, like how my dad said one day, you either learn from the abuse or repeat it. My mom hated my grandma, but she's trying to manipulate and sometimes is a toxic parent. She's becoming her own mom. I understand that everyone has different paces to healing from trauma and abuse, but she doesn't take steps too much. She doesn't believe she needs help, she's "fine." However, she has unresolved trauma I believe, and that needs help to care for. You might say I should talk to her about getting help, but she can get a pretty big temper and she can be stubborn. She even lost one of her jobs, according to my father. Her own job noticed that she wasn't in the best mental state... and they were going to fire her if she didn't get proper help. I think she only went into ONE appointment, but never again after that. Then she was fired. After reaching to the age I am now... and seeing ANOTHER tensioning act between my two parents (My dad says they haven't talked to each other in 2 weeks + it's only continuing. In fact, my brother and father PURPOSEFULLY avoid my mom as much as they can to keep the peace, as they live upstairs.), I decided to speak up about my feelings once and for all. I got insight from another "side," my dad and brother. I also spoke about this to my mom, however, I know this only caused her to resent me. She claims that I'm not her "loyal ally," anymore, and that my DAD said something like... "Ha, guess you're not her loyal ally anymore." Unfortunately, I can't tell if this is manipulation to make me feel bad or it's true and I didn't hear my father. I must admit, unless I'm submitting to a few bits of this slow, painful, and exhausting manipulation, that I am guilty of possibly relying and going on my father's side MORE nowadays. In my 2 notes that I wrote for both parents, I wanted to be in a more neutral state. As I couldn't rely on either both of them as I don't know ALL information and what ONE side tells me contradicts to the OTHER. For example, my dad claims he never did anything very horrible and my mom did bad things. However, my mom says she may have messed up... but she's seen that my dad's a jerk. I also admit that I'm more defensive for my dad when my mom "TRIES" or says something that seems judgeful to me. I am also aware that my resentment and bitterness, can get in the way of my logical decisions. For example, just TODAY, my jewelry box had a few things switched in it. I told this to my mom and she claimed she didn't do it. She didn't SAY that my father or brother did it... but in my aggressive mind... it felt like she was trying to IMPLY that they did something. My cat couldn't get in as well... as it's not like an open box. My cat has an obsession with hair ties (strange, huh?), but not really earrings. I am still confused with it and I don't know WHO exactly did it... I can't run a DNA test for it, now can I? Perhaps, the reasons on why I'm more defensive with my dad is that I've seen examples of him feeling bad and wanting me and my brother to have more. I remember seeing him cry one day, as he was upset that his two kids couldn't have all the happiness, a lovely home, and family love that they should've gotten. It makes me feel a lot... to see my father cry about that. I even called my current home a "dump," when I was still around my mom's side. My mom also called the home a "dump," when I look back into it, I think it's not very nice. However, my dad chose the home I have now, for whenever my mom fully leaves. I know she'll leave one day for an apartment, she told me and I told my dad and brother this with one of my notes. It was a smart decision of his, and I glad he made it, even if I am a bit unhappy with my home. I still have a home which is awesome, not the perfect home or a home that fully feels "homey," but... it's a home. Plus, my dad and brother are trying to be positive people. When I'm not already in a bad mood, my eyes light up as a smile forms on my face. I feel really energetic and crack out jokes as I see them. As I know they're funny and jokesters as well. My mom and I kinda still joke with each other, but it's not the same as it was back then. My mom gave me ALL the affection and love, calling me the "favorite child," as I was following her footsteps and being dragged. As years went on, however, she still does use the term "I love you," in a few situations, but not all the time. I don't either, since I do feel resentment and bitterness. It's a bittersweet relationship with me and my mom. For my dad and mom, sadly, it's all BITTER. As I write this whole thing, I also remember the December incident when it was birthday. You see, a long time ago, my mom used to have a job she HATED and stressed her out A WHOLE LOT. So much so, that she started to drink a lot and become drunk. She'd pass a lot, throw up, become confused and pretty angry... those lines. She was drunk at my birthday and my dad and brother noticed this. They didn't like it and went upstairs. I also went upstairs, I was opening up a new gift which was a new laptop. I don't remember the whole incident, but I do know it HAPPENED. However, she came upstairs, and started yelling and fighting. A fight happened... and my mom got aggressive, getting ready to hit and attack. She also demanded me coming with her and leaving. I was confused and didn't know how to feel. I think I was crying a little bit... due to possibly feeling scared with all the confusion I had. My mom eventually stormed out and left, leaving me, my brother, and my father to all deal with the aftermath of negative emotions. Also, with her drunk self, even before the fight... she talked suciudally, a little crazily. I believe she also mentioned this when I was even younger. She said that if she ever went away... she would want me and my brother to be strong. I didn't want to be away and I was confused. Throughout my younger self, I didn't have a somewhat developed mind with my own thoughts, wants, needs, feelings, traits, all of that. I didn't and struggled to understand. I was exposed to some suicidal stuff at a young age... it may have not FULLY affected me back then... but it affects me now as I realize how serious the situation was. I was exposed and now that I learned more... it makes me feel a lot. She may be still a bit suciudal today, wanting to end herself, but she carries on each day... maybe for the sake of us in someway. She doesn't fully love us which sucks, but she does support in some ways. She's not a FULLY toxic parent, but... she can be and she has her ways of trying to gain back control. As much as I want EVERYONE to move on and accept the past has happened... it's WAY harder than it is in my own fairytale head. My mom claims that speaking out about my emotions and trying to be assertive back only is corrupting and hurting the peace. I'm not trying hard enough and I'm only damaging the process. I still feel guilt and shame for talking about things like this... even if people tell me that I should NEVER doubt my feelings. I have my own issues and I can say that I haven't been fully taught on how to cope with them... but I'm trying to learn them on my own. I have to learn some things that I'm afraid of or struggling with on my own, and sometimes I don't feel like trying. Even though you have to TRY to learn. So... it can be frustrating with me. I don't understand or... I don't feel handling the situation properly? It sounds kinda weird to say the second thing... because I DO feel like trying to handle it. Maybe it IS just that I don't have enough knowledge and really... in my young teenager age... I can't really do much. I already spoke out about my emotions and had some realization (whether it's accurate or not) that my mom can be toxic, her past is toxic, and the family... can sometimes be toxic. It hurts to think about, but I'll try to be strong. This is probably a WHOLE essay, but I do have a lot of questions. In the short term, even if you skimmed through all this, is this abuse and manipulation? My fault for not fully understanding and cooperating? Or is it a different issue and topic that I'm not aware of? Please answer me questions, it'd be really helpful to know. Thank you A WHOLE LOT if you read all this, skimmed it, whatever! It just helps being heard, you know? Throughout all the fourms I sent, it helps to even have a little bit of people hearing me. You are a very blessed individual, may you have blessings throughout this present and the FUTURE.

Why is school already overwhelming? + other issues

Student Support / by Megalomentaurus

August 19th, 2023

...See more I feel like a failure ALREADY. I had a bad day at school today and a not-so-great day yesterday. I bet tomorrow will be bad too. I feel so many emotions at once and it's so hard being ME. I keep setting up many high expectations and I'm bullying myself for messing up everything I do. I can't focus on my successes and I'm immaturely displaying my emotions in my room. I feel hatred in my Spanish, Civics, and Math class. I struggle to understand, communicate, and learn in my Spanish and Math class... as I don't understand the teachers very well. My Spanish teacher seems to stutter and seems awkward when she talks in English, they also do teaching methods that make me confused. My Math teacher is from a different country and talks way too fast with an accent I'm not used to. I don't want to blame those two teachers, but it makes things harder to freaking learn. I'm scared, intimidated, and hate my Civics teacher. He seems harsh and grumpy. I had things set up for me the past few days... I was feeling happy and good (or at least neutral)... but now I'm feeling stress and pain. I'm trying to fight against my Social Anxiety, but IT'S NOT WORKING ANYMORE. I didn't try any activities today, I didn't talk, I didn't do anything. I'm trying to make a friend in my Math class (as someone nice sits next to me), but I didn't say anything to them. I just rushed out the door when the bell rang. I HATE MYSELF SO MUCH, I can't focus on self-compassion. I am in advanced classes and I wonder why I was put into an Algebra I Honors class. I set up too many high expectations of me... and I can't STOP. I CAN'T STOP. I feel so much PAIN. It's the freaking start of school... and I already feel so much pain. I keep every emotion I have inside of me... as I feel the reasons for my emotions are stupid and not worth talking about. I consider myself a HSP, and I suffer with Social Anxiety, some Depression, and some Anxiety. I also have anger issues, but that may be the results of my mental health struggles. ALSO... whenever I get lectured, scolded, or told to stop something wrong... I'll get extremely anxious very quickly, feeling the need to cry. I'm not used to getting into trouble, I'm not a troublemaker kinda kid... but I struggle to deal with criticism, lectures, yelling, scolding, and other discipline speeches and tactics. I can't tell if there's an in-depth reason for WHY I feel the need to CRY after getting into trouble (even it's a little lecture.) I'll feel very wrong and like I messed up very badly, even if it's a mishap. I can't deal with my emotions, I feel so many at once. It makes me scream and die inside. I just needed to vent this out... I'm not ready for Friday. I wish I could go into the weekend already and sleep all day or something. Thank you if you read all this, I hope everyone has a blessed day, blessings in general. 💖

My Mom's Drunk.

Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by Megalomentaurus

August 18th, 2023

Going to take a self-care break, hopefully.

General Support / by Megalomentaurus

August 3rd, 2023

Bio

Recent forum posts

Talk to an expert therapist

I am an experienced relationship expert helping individuals & couples In dealing...

About Us

Get Started

Online Therapy

Terms

Don't miss a message!

The 7 Cups app is available on iOS and Android

Bio