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On a Self-Care Break


Welcome! I am a 7 Cups Internship Graduate with a strong background in law and psychology.

I specialize in trauma support, lgbtqia+ issues, and mood disorders. I have direct lived experience with post-traumatic stress disorder, bipolar disorder, anxiety, panic disorder, agoraphobia, addiction, self-injury, eating disorders, grief, personality disorders, relationship dynamics, surviving abuse, chronic pain and endometriosis. I have professional experience with ASD, ADHD, OCD, psychosis, and non-verbal communication in the field of Applied Behavioral Analysis.

I enjoy true crime, spirituality, reading, writing, crochet, learning, healing & solitude. Currently, I am working from home as a Legal Concierge on a joint venture that allows me to use my background in behavioral health and civil litigation to triage veterans and their caregivers in interpreting their legal benefits and gaining access to mental health resources. 

AFSP Advocate. DBSA Attendee. 7 Cups Volunteer. 🌈 📖💭🍵


"When we deny our stories, they define us. When we own our stories, we get to write a brave new ending." 


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Recent forum posts
Endometriosis: Complications Post-Hysterectomy
Women's Issues / by blitheSun94
Last post
November 19th, 2023
...See more Good Good morning early birds, late birds, and afternoon birds, In a previous post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/women/ReproductiveHealth_2516/UglyTruthsWhenitIsntEndometriosis_295980/] I tell my story from the beginning and mention the following in the comment section: '"t's important to note that Endo is not solely a reproductive disease, it is an estrogen dependent condition which explains why pms, menstrual cycles, and diet exacerbate the many manifestations of this illness. Endo can be found in the eyes, brain, and even strangle the heart. My hope is to share my story and provide support to other individuals and their loved ones who are deeply impacted by the symptoms and hard decisions Endo will force one to make. While it is a chronic pain condition with no cure, that is only one facet of its impact on organs throughout the entire body. Everyone experiences this disease differently. It is uniquely a case-by-case basis, and frankly, that's exactly why it deserves its own community. My hope is to connect with that population and lift them up by providing a more viable platform where currently there exists none." All that to say I am ten months post-op and last Sunday, I wet the bed. That's right. I peed my pants. This is something I had never done before, which lead me to very real questions concerning the position of my bladder post-hysterectomy. I have been experiencing the following resurfacing of symptoms and made the mistake of consulting Dr. Google. I’m ten months post laparoscopy, total hysterectomy, and diagnosis. (01/04/2023) I’m 34 years old and have never experienced incontinence, although I did have severe urine retention post-op.  On top of Nocturnal Enuresis, I have been ignoring the following: * Bladder Pain * Digestive problems (blood in stool)  * Sacral and Low Back pain  * Hip pain * Pelvic pain * Bloating  * Fatigue  * Pain with Urination  * Inability to empty my bladder * Ovarian Pain (lower abdomen) * Pain Flare Post Intercourse  * and now, Incontinence  I know these surgeries can damage your bladder and pelvic floor in general, so yesterday I went back to my OB for a new ultrasound. When I say it was painful, I mean it was somewhere between barbwire and a uterine biopsy, but I wanted answers more than I was afraid of the pain. I practiced my breathwork while the technician kept me distracted by her own life story. I gently reminded myself that this lifelong illness that engages like benign cancer and mimics an auto immune disease has no cure. In my opinion it's underfunded, understudied, and in the wrong category all together. [So far, signs point toward the UK managing endometriosis patients better than the US.] While logistically I understand that I have to do all that it takes, the state of overwhelm nearly brought me to tears. I had taken a break from procedures due to ongoing medical trauma related PTSD. Subsequent surgeries are nearly imminent and with that comes a unique type of grief. I recently fired my Pain Management doctor because he refuted my Neurologist and wanted to perform Cervical Ablation on me for no good reason. My mother has said herself that she will never be cut open again. Mostly I came here to say that you're not crazy and you're not alone if this is happening to you. I slept a whopping four hours due to the stress and anxiety of it all. Today we go back to get the results and decide what to do next. Keep you posted. 💛
Lately: My Pile of Crochet
Arts & Crafts / by blitheSun94
Last post
November 17th, 2023
...See more I’ve learned a lot in my first year of crochet! I hope to step it up next year and maybe even attempt to start and Etsy shop. Still learning my style, likes and dislikes, but I look forward to moving past the basics. Next step: Wearable! Thanks for all the love and support.   
The Chevron Stitch
Arts & Crafts / by blitheSun94
Last post
November 6th, 2023
...See more First attempt..🧶
Crochet Scarves and Blankets
Arts & Crafts / by blitheSun94
Last post
August 7th, 2023
...See more Just finished! Gonna learn some new stitches soon. ☺️
WIP!
Arts & Crafts / by blitheSun94
Last post
August 3rd, 2023
...See more Work in progress….🧶
Double Yarn Crochet!
Arts & Crafts / by blitheSun94
Last post
July 22nd, 2023
...See more Recent finish! I found I hate scarves less if I use double yarn and double crochet.
ACA - Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families
Addiction Support / by blitheSun94
Last post
July 27th, 2023
...See more Good morning, Forum, By recommendation of my therapist, I attended my first ACA meeting last night and it was too incredible not too share. Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families offers free online group support environments that hold space for hard conversation. As such, I wanted to be sure to share this resource with you all in case anyone else is interested. The Mission: [https://adultchildren.org/] Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA)/Dysfunctional Families is a Twelve Step [https://adultchildren.org/literature/steps/], Twelve Tradition [https://adultchildren.org/literature/traditions/] program of people who grew up in dysfunctional homes. We meet to share our experience of growing up in an environment where abuse, neglect and trauma infected us. This affects us today and influences how we deal with all aspects of our lives. ACA provides a safe, nonjudgmental environment that allows us to grieve our childhoods and conduct an honest inventory of ourselves and our family—so we may (i) identify and heal core trauma, (ii) experience freedom from shame and abandonment, and (iii) become our own loving parents. What is ACA? [https://adultchildren.org/newcomer/] ACA is a 12 Step program that focuses on emotional sobriety. We were all profoundly affected by the dysfunction in our families of origin, whether alcohol was present in the home or not. Consequently, we developed a set of “laundry list” traits that helped us survive that experience. These traits may have been adaptive at the time, but have now come to substantially disrupt our lives. We recover by “working our program.” This means attending ACA meetings and working the Twelve Steps. The Steps are not meant to be worked in isolation, which is why we work with more experienced members, a twelve step group, and/or our fellow travelers (others in ACA). ACA is a spiritual program, not a religious program. The only requirement for membership is a desire to recover from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional family. ACA has no membership fees. Since each meeting is autonomous, and each meeting can be a different experience, we recommend that if your first meeting is not a fit for you, try other meetings before deciding if the ACA program can be helpful in your journey from discovery to recovery. Meetings are intended to be a safe place. We share our experience, strength, and hope; we offer compassion and understanding. We also have the right not to share, unless we are ready. We welcome you to join us. Please note that ACA is not a replacement for addicts working an abstinence program in other Twelve Step fellowships. Adult Children of Alcoholics works best for people that have obtained a level of sobriety in their other program(s). The Laundry List: [https://adultchildren.org/literature/laundry-list/] The Laundry List is a list of traits generally exhibited by adult children of alcoholics & dysfunctional families and serves as the basis for the problem statement. [https://adultchildren.org/literature/problem/] The Adult Children Bookstore: [https://shop.adultchildren.org/] ACA literature for recovery and follow along workbooks. Find a Meeting: [https://adultchildren.org/meeting-group/] There are many types of ACA Meetings [https://adultchildren.org/meeting-search/]: in-person (face to face) [https://adultchildren.org/meeting-search/], online [https://adultchildren.org/quick-search/?onlinebt=Click+Here], telephone [https://adultchildren.org/quick-search/?telephonebt=Click+Here], and audio/online [https://adultchildren.org/quick-search/?audiobt=Click+Here]. ACA also offers hybrid meetings both online and in-person. You are not alone. 💝 Source: Welcome - Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families [https://adultchildren.org/]
First Round of Therapy in Ten Years
Anxiety Support / by blitheSun94
Last post
August 8th, 2023
...See more If you’re wondering about therapy, this is your sign to go. (TW) I arrived early, halfway forgetting to remember my new patient paperwork at home. After cursing at my steering wheel, I swallowed my anxiety medication and went in anyway, observing the inception like staircases on my way to the bathroom. I checked in, fingers crossed. The receptionist was nice enough, in a better mood today, but she informed me I had to complete the paperwork again, nonetheless. Moving quickly now I leafed through the various stages of medical stories, family history, abusive experiences and consent initials just in time for my name to be called. At the door I was greeted by a warm and lovely woman, a woman old enough to be my grandmother, a woman that gave me high hopes that her wisdom would be greater than my own. After winding down the disorienting black and blue hallways, I made my way to her sunken in couch adorned with frayed and clearly cried on pillows, evidence of those who had come before me. I explained in detail that I didn’t want to spend too much time meandering in the past, although it has no doubt had an impact on my present pathology. I elaborated that I felt addressing present day concerns would be more pertinent and she kindly agreed. She asked about my previous psychiatric history and subsequent hospitalizations, which I thought was nice of her to acknowledge. Revisiting these things can be triggering, but that’s also what makes them important. I explained that like most people I sustained a largely useless hospitalization the first time and left with nothing more than crisis intervention, a less than revealing personality inventory, medication and a misdiagnosis. In the ten years that passed I struggled greatly with my sexual orientation, and sustained the blow of suicide that fractures a family in ways you only know if you’ve lived it. I explained the litany of maladaptive behaviors that followed for every poor soul dangling in my family tree and how leaving was the only way to heal. She told me I was very articulate and made me promise to keep writing. She asked if I had been here before, swearing up and down that she recognized me. I don’t believe in coincidences and took this as a good sign. We later determined we had passed in the hallway once or twice six years ago. She recalled me on my way to another practitioner who I later had to break up with on the basis of facial recognition alone. We moved then to present day symptomology, the things that challenge me the most, the things that break my heart on a day-to-day basis. She was engaging, validating, and compassionate during my telling of my late cousin – stolen too soon by a drug overdose, my total hysterectomy – stolen too soon by endometriosis, and my sweet kitty girl Sibyl – stolen too soon by her own vet. I cried and she empathized, telling me of her own fur babies while I reached for the inevitable nearby tissue box and did my best not to judge the situation. I told her my medication was helping but also changed my demeanor so I apologized if I didn’t seem interested. She engaged with me anyway, turning to her nearby bookshelf and soon sitting beside me on the pressed in couch. As we flipped through the pages, she identified tools and defined the word “homework” that we both determined would be helpful in our journey together. She spoke of her own family and offered praise in my progress as a spiritual being who is deeply invested in self-healing, no matter the consequence. We touched on relationships, boundaries, and she offered some additional community resources once she learned I am a lover of the peer support model. She touched on the idea that this is a relationship and she wants our communication to remain transparent, to which I couldn’t agree more. Post-therapy sniffles came to a slow and our time was up. In some strange way I didn’t want it to end. There is so much to unpack, so much work to be done, but I am confident we will arrive at the goal we set to be met by January of next year – namely giving my adrenal gland a break and giving me something tangible to hold onto.
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blitheSun94 was a really great listener. I felt really comfortable expressing what I was thinking, and they listened without judgment while still helping me process my thoughts. It was a really great way for me to express feelings that I normally keep to myself and I felt so much more relaxed after conversing with them.
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