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7 Cups Online Therapy / by DuffRose

4 minutes ago

Sapphic woman, with a fear of being outed

LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by loverrgal

5 minutes ago

Cris' little happweness corner🌻💙

General Support / by cristlecares

11 minutes ago

Narcissist husband

50 & Over Community / by quietApricot1804

14 minutes ago

Need some advice

Relationship & Friendship Support / by sensibleTangerine6030

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i hate myself

Eating Disorder Support / by jellyca420

33 minutes ago

How do you argue with yourself?

7 Cups Online Therapy / by amiablePeace77

33 minutes ago

...See more Have you ever had a situation where you want to try something new and all of a sudden a voice in your head pops up and starts arguing with you? It’s not only about having an argument, this voice is actually trying to convince ourselves that what we intend to do does either not make sense or we are not good enough. So, what do you usually do if this voice appears in your head? Are you having long arguments or are you able to shut it down? Let’s explore some ways which can be helpful to handle this unhelpful voice: Say “Stop!” - when we become aware of the voice, let’s call it from now on the the debater just stop it and take a few breaths Challenge what the debater is telling you: Argue with your own beliefs to find new or different beliefs. * What are the facts here? What backs up this belief I have? * What are all the possible causes? Is there a less hurtful way of looking at this? * If this is true, what difference does it make? What could happen as a result? * Are my thoughts helpful? Does this belief harm me? Even if it is true now, can something be changed? How can I make the best out of this situation? Things which help to shut down the the debater: * Self compassion exercises, example Being Gentle with the Self [https://youtu.be/7k7T3V9hl2I] * Listening to music * Going for a walk * Dancing exercise or any exercise that makes you feel good * Write down all the negative thoughts you have and to each negative thought add at least one positive thought * Help someone , maybe share food with a neighbour or just call someone who lives alone Negative thoughts become powerful when they become our only focus. We have the choice to learn to think differently, more neutral or more positive. It is not easy but the more we try the better we will get at it. Always remember: You Matter! Some people find it impossible to change their negative thoughts because of betrayal or abuse. If you feel that past traumatic experiences prevent you from getting a more positive mindset please reach out for help. Therapy can help you in many ways from learning new coping skills to helping you find new ways of thinking which will change your behaviour and likely the outcomes that happen in your life. 7cups has online, certified therapists with a paid option. For more information click on link [https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1]https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1 Kindly click here and fill out this short form to add or remove your names [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeql8unT87Ka1cN7jZZ8fk2QR4MRu8RZSytPu23e4cziOuEaQ/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1&flr=0&usp=mail_form_link]from the tag list and you will start getting announcements of any new threads and posts you are subscribed to in Therapy Subcom. That way you can participate in all the latest developments of this community. Please allow 4-7 days for your request to be processed. Taglist updated 11-17-22 [https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1] @adventureawaits777 @adventorousBranch3786 @allnaturalWillow7138 @ambitiousGlobe3422 @ambitioushope1234 @amiablePeace77 @Ashy123 @augustine1304 BeamsOfHope00 @Beepyy @blissedNblessed @charmaeausty @courageousPomegranate766 @creativeCar5713 @dlynn88911221 @Desmynn6789 @dysfunctionjunction1224 @EllyMerelyn @enthusiasticAcai2032 @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @FaithMagic @FlowerEV777 @FracturedPurple @fruityPond7887 @geribear @Ghasaq997 @GoldenNest2727 @helgafy @helpfulDime0407 @imaginativepear6493 @Jordan1872 @kindcircle3085 @LisaMeighanMBPsS @lovelycoacoa @meaningfulSilence @MoonMomm @Mscooper2789 @mytwistedsoul @nessa104 @oa4me @orangypie @paperBird3348 @patientwater @PinkTriangle133 @politeGrapefruit179 @redirecting @Scarletpear1945 @ShapeshiftSystem @SilverSeastar @slothgurl17 @soulsings @SpongeBob2021 @stephbrent @SugareeIsMe091121 @ThadSterling @thoughtsbubbleexpress @tifecandy @toughLand5970 @UniversalSmile @warmheart0890 @WentToBruv @waves @WorriedMagpie

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LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by EmotionsListener

44 minutes ago

50+ Check-In November 28-December 1, 2022

50 & Over Community / by amiablePeace77

44 minutes ago

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