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2023 - 35+ Taglist
by Tazzie
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This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to 35+ Taglist [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?3b0b4bbeef586cd8249ad142338328ac].
To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me.
To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me.
Current updated taglist as at March 7 2023
Leaders please copy the names below
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i used to be a good person...
by munificentgearhead
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there was a time that i would have helped anyone who needed it. i have literally given people the clothes off my back. I've spent thousands of dollars on people who wouldn't even consider lifting a finger for me. im so done with it. all my kindness is used up. i have done so much for so many people just for them to spit in my face. im done. im so done with everything. anytime im in a position where im the one who needs help people dont care. people act like i dont matter and i am starting to believe them. when i try to do good i get punished for it so i dont try anymore. when people talk to me the only thing on my mind is how to get them away from me as soon as humanly possible. i dont have friends anymore.... and with how i am now i dont see it ever happening again... how do you make friends when all i can think is they are just humoring me to make their lives easier. either they want something from me, they dont believe me, or they are outright trying to hurt me. i dont believe in good people anymore. i dont even believe im a good person anymore.
Shaking my head
by greatfulReeds6671
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I am really sorry that i am not married and writing this thing about marriage.
I am really really effected. You guy doesn't treat your partner well and they end up getting depressed and comes here to share and talk. Just to feel peace, support, companion ship and to remove the feelings of been alone.
I person never wanted this in life. They wanted there partner to be the one who listened give them all these things i wrote above.
Treat your partner with respect, love, affection, make her smile tell her jokes, help her in cooking, be always close to her. When ever going some where open door for her treat her like your queen as she treats you like her king. These simple things resolves most of the marriage issues.
If you still lack at some place just give a comment. I will help you out.
Sad 😢
by cag17
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My mom lost her battle with cancer last month and it's been really tough for me. Today it's really hitting me hard 😭
She found out last year in September that she had breast cancer. In October, the cancer had spread to her liver, and in January she found out that it had spread to her brain. At that point her health was getting worse and I had taken a leave of absence from my job to help take care of her.
She was very weak from the chemo/radiation and other medications she was on. She had gotten to a point where the doctor wanted her to stay at a facility for a bit to get rehab and therapy because she was so weak.
About a week and a half after she was there she was sent to the hospital because they didn't like the way she looked. She was in the ER and her blood pressure was dangerously low, her oxygen was very low, and she was very dehydrated. The next day me and my two sisters went to see her again and a doctor there talked to us and said that things weren't good and they talked about her going to hospice. He said that the cancer wasn't curable and it was only going to get worse if she didn't get her treatments, but she was too weak to get them. Shortly after we talked to the doctor, she was sent to hospice. The next day in the morning she had passed.
I've really been struggling with it. Some days I'm okay, and other days I think about it and just cry a lot. There are time when I think about something I should tell my mom or show her and then I stop and think wait I can't 😢
Sorry for the long post. I'm just struggling and having a tough day. And thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this.
Getting a divorce after 12 years
by sunnyBunny8240
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On Saturday, March 2 my soon-to-be ex-husband mustered up his
courage to tell me he wanted a divorce.
I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him.
I thought the worst thing that could happen was him dying on me.
I never anticipated this.
He is not happy with me and he had endured and tolerated me for more than several years. He is very tired, and wants his own life alone. I am not resentful of him. He is a kind, smart person who deserves happiness. I am not giving him any.
I am devasted but trying to take in day by day, step by step.
I would really like some words of encouragement.
Thank you.
Sorry just letting this out... I'm the problem I guess
by GothamRam
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I know this may be common to some but when in this situation, it really is hard to deal with. Most people who know me see as that strong woman who never cares what other people think or never cares what happens. No one knows what goes in my mind lately. But deep within, I care, I care a lot.
I've been in my marriage for 18 years and I remember us being so in love and just going head-on about anything, so bravely. Now we are at the point of I may need to leave. Maybe life caught up with us, got teenagers and I mostly think about - "when they're done in school, I'm going to leave and be free". No question, I still love him and I feel like leaving is not an option for him. No other parties on both sides, I think we're just drained and tired.
Maybe life challenges got into me, I tried to tell him everything but most of the time ends up him just saying sorry and so little effort to change. Don't get me wrong, I'm trying to better myself too and change but I think hearing sorry all the time isn't the thing I need. I even told him he doesn't need to be sorry, just do what he says he will. Some issues are small, some are big, but definitely hurts me every time. It's already hard for me to open up to him because I feel like it's an unending cycle.
Sorry if this is confusing or doesn't make sense. Maybe I just need to vent out a little. I'm moving out in a week but my kids think I'm going job hunting and meetings but truth is I'm preparing for a big life decision. And this part hurts me so much because I think I am going to hurt them. I'm 100% sure I may consider going back just because of them but I need this for my peace. I'm always thinking of being gone - don't worry I'm not doing it if that's what you're thinking - but it would be nice to be away and just be with myself for a long time. If only we can do that or go back to where it all started. I don't even know where and when to go back to even if that miracle happens.
Ha! Taylor's song just came up and is saying "it's me, I'm the problem it's me" - maybe I am...
Looking for a chatty friend
by proactiveFriend
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Hi
I am looking for a chatty friends who are just talking about different subjects. I like self development, music , meditation but like to interact with ppl from different backgrounds.
I've tried dealing with people (humans)
by toughHouse8139
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I've NEVER belonged anywhere and I wish it didn't matter to me. I wish I could remove that feeling and recycle it for something more useful and less depressing. I'm going to try to accept that some of us are just born to be alone, stop fighting it🤷♀️
Maybe I'm just supposed to do some stuff, see some stuff and call it a day
Trying to find a "community" has exhausted my bones, plus most the of the time people just aren't ... IDK, not worth all the anxiety
Is it possible to reconnect, become attracted to and genuinely love your wife again?
by Wildone42
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I moved out a month ago as i thought i wanted something else in my life.. I miss my family and my wife.. But i do not love her completely as a husband should. Is it possible to reconnect. to become madly attracted to her again and want to be with her once again?
I don't know what to title this
by amusingWest5360
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I'm not sure where to express and I don't mean to sound harsh, BUT If you're a listener PLEASE do not call people dear or any other pet name . I've been called dear SO many times and I really don't like it. I'm an adult and I don't need strangers calling me pet names or any endearing names.
It's not necessary Thankyou.
Am I alone
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Help
Share any Happy Movies you find
by communicativePond1728
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A space to share happy, uplifting movies.
These days so many shows are violent, dramatic or outright stupid.
Many don't find cheap, gormless or ignorant tricks for their attention to be worth their time and money.
If you agree that investing one's time and energy in something more meaningful and substantial is a great idea then you're welcome here.
https://youtu.be/JhHbUj26rc8?si=o0iAB2TsSfS9bwia
New here, in some relationship trouble
by Zorzeta36
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Hallo guys, I'm kind of excited to have found this place. Feels like 2000 again when I used to chat with strangers online and no one was a robot or trying to scam you :)
I'm feeling very lonely and lost in my relationship of 14 years. With my Partner (male 42J) we share 2 kids 4j and 6 months. It feels like I'm in a movie..the same story as old as time: a great love gone bad..starting strong, getting used to each other, growing apart, getting mean, hating one another, eventually break up. And it's like I'm screaming to the TV "break up already, live your life be happy". Only I can't even begin to imagine the logistics of this mess and I am absolutely sure, I can not go through with it. Seeing my kids on agreed days? Having to explain to my daughter everything and hurting her so bad. Becoming fragile, unsafe and anxious about surviving with to small kids? This stuff is either for very strong people or people who don't have a clue. I remember my divorced mother trying to live a decent life and she just had me and a good paying job. Wasn't east, didn't look like fun. I have nothing. No car, no house, an ok salary that wouldn't get me any appartment in the *** up housing crisis of the City im in. I also have no one around who could help since I am an immigrant in this country and all of my family is elsewhere. With friends it's also bleak. No serious friendships just people I meet for coffee once in a while. So I wait. I numb my self waiting for the relationship to either get better or for the kids to grow up and then I see.. what a pathetic sad situation. I'm 36, fun, sexy, love to be around people. And yet I'm alone, haven't had sex in 1 year or so and feel stuck.
So that's that. Anyone who experienced this and knows better? Or is going through it?
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The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
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Welcome to the 35 and over community! Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea :)
(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday!
Would you like to be added to the Tag List? Please reply to this thread Here
Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :) Interested in joining the team? Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic
Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments.
Thank you!