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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
New Forum Supporter
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 April 15th
...See more I would like to take a moment to introduce myself to the Self harm subcommunity.  My name is Kristynsmama (Kristy for short).  I have been self harm free for about 10 years!  I look forward to supporting this community!  Please feel free to reach out and make sure to tell me you are from the self harm forum!
Weekly Check in 4.14.24
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 April 14th
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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
Depression
by Tahyeet
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more i need help guys, is it possible that i can get help?
i tried
by sorryidontknowaname
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more i really tried this time. i really did. but I couldn't, I tried my best but its just not enough. i was 50 days too.
S/h
by Midnighttink
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Two days clean.
TW mentions of $h
by Tamikiii
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Ever since school and my other hobbies (mainly piano lessons and taekwondo) started, I've been so stressed to the point where it affected my mental health and my mental health affected the perfect relationship I used to have. It hasn't really ended well for me and so I started sh. My friends cleaned my wounds and tried looking for good alternatives for me but nothing just seems to work. Up to this day I still inflict pain on myself. But right now, I started getting clean for a maximum of 2 - 3 days and I end up doing it again. I really hope things get better for me.
Just venting
by R00thT00th
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I want to relapse so bad. I've been 4 months clean. My mom yelled at me on the phone today for not going to school. I didn't go to school because I thought I might get my period today, I have extremely heavy bleeding and horrible cramps, so I usually don't go to school because of it. My mom said I can't go to this concert I was going to go to, and I cant see friends, and if I don't get my period today and get it sometime this week, I'll still have to go. I feel horrible for making her mad I didn't mean to get her so mad at me. I just feel so guilty for staying home. She makes my mental health worse sometimes. I still love her but she has her bad days. I don't have therapy. I've been asking to get back into therapy for about a year now. She tries to find therapist, but she's so busy from work. I also want to go on birth control for my period, but she's also not got that for me. Idk how she doesn't understand that if I get all that fixed, I'll go to school and stop missing days. I'm just tired of her. She's coming home later today and I know shell just tell at me more. She might take my phone, but I'm not sure. I was thinking about cleaning the house for her, but I feel like I shouldn't have to do that just for her to not be mad at me. I think she'll still be mad at me even if I clean.
Top 5 reasons for self harming behavior
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 Saturday
...See more * These are the top 5 reasons that young adults practice in sept harming behaviors.  Which of these rings true for you?  It can be one of them or all of them.  Understanding why we practice this behavior is a key in long term recovery. * 1.  To release emotional pressure (In one study, 85 percent [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2723954/] of participants said this was their biggest reason for self-harming.) * 2.  In order to control how they’re feeling * 3.  To get away from intolerable emotions * 4.  As a way of punishing themselves or expressing anger at themselves * 5.  Being triggered by exposure to self-harm relapse in others or in the media.
Hello! I’m new here 👋
by DimStar789
Last post
 Friday
...See more Hello! Im new here, my name is Aubrey. I’m 13 (idk I haven’t rly seen anyone the same age as me 😶)  I’ve been self harming for a year or two on and off. Idk rly what I’m supposed to write. Anyways, hello! Love,  Aubrey
Self soothing
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 April 16th
...See more These are some of the things I do to self soothe when I’m having a hard time.  Do you do any of these things?  Are there other things you do to self soothe?  If so, what are they?
New Forum Supporter
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 April 15th
...See more I would like to take a moment to introduce myself to the Self harm subcommunity.  My name is Kristynsmama (Kristy for short).  I have been self harm free for about 10 years!  I look forward to supporting this community!  Please feel free to reach out and make sure to tell me you are from the self harm forum!
Anxiety and SH - really really need advice
by anonymousturtle1121
Last post
 April 15th
...See more Ive had depression for a long time. I never actually self harmed until really recently, and I don’t even know if it’s considered self harm, I would just scratch at any parts of myself until they turned red or felt like it burned. either way, I’ve been trying not to do this bad habit, and it’s just really really hard. I have pretty bad anxiety and little things cause me to panic really easily. Right now im dealing with some relationship issues and just the anxiety around my relationship issues and wanting that feeling of anxiety to go away, but not wanting to take out those emotions on my boyfriend or other people, I don’t know what to do with those feelings. I don’t want to take out this anxiety negatively on my boyfriend, especially when he is already busy and dealing with his own issues. And, it causes us to spiral further down a relationship rabbit hole and my anxiety gets worse. But then, if I sit with it, I don’t know where to put it. Without resolving it or “taking it out” on someone or something, it sits there giving me the jitters and I can’t think straight or focus at all. I start physically shaking and I just keep falling down a spiral of negativity. And that anxiety when it starts to build up and become too much, i take it out on myself to make myself feel better. And for the longest time, even right now, I feel like taking it out on myself instead of other people or instead of sitting with it is the best option for everyone. But it’s so hard because I want to find a healthier way to cope, this one just seems the easiest. My boyfriend has told me that I should look into therapy but, without going into the details of my situation too much, that’s not an option right now. Among the self harm, there are other thoughts that I don’t know if I should talk about here. But assuming that anyone reading this can see in between the lines, those thoughts haven’t just come and go like before for me, the emotions are piling up and it’s hard to keep them from leaving at all. Even when im in a situation where im “supposed” to feel happy I just can’t. This- it’s the only thing I ever think about anymore and I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I have any more options left to make the pain go away.
"I don't want to live, but I dont want to die" Existential Crisis is killing me OMG, send help (/ω＼)
by IwishmynamewasEllise
Last post
 April 15th
...See more AFTER months of going through my days feeling all gloomy and sad (without any major reasons) and multiple Mental Breakdowns, i finally accepted that "I am not okay". (I JUST ACCEPTED THIS YESTERDAY LOL, which is why i joined this community. I want to be better, feel better and grow better) i was indenial of my own vulnerability. Hehe T_T Im not okay... No matter how many times i watch TheWizardLiz for motivational words of wisdom that could boost my spirit up, yes it does have effects on me for a day or two but after that, the emptiness, low sense of purpose continues to eat me up. No matter how many times i try to do the thibgs that used to bring me joy, nothing. Nothing changes, the emptiness and loneliness is still there lingering on the back of my mind. I tend to question my worth these days, my purpose in life and the reason why i exist. I am conflicted of what i should do now that im getting closer to College life. I am confused of what i really want, What i love and need but all i know, i am living without a reason, not that i know it yet. I used to be so happy and motivated in my life but now, ever since i ented Senior Highschool, i no longer feel the fire in me. Its so cold and lonely and i want to know if people here feel/felt the same that i do rn. "A heavy weight is lighter together" soooo meuheheh tho i dont wnat people being conflicted with themselves tho!!! I just want to you know and relate with people HEHE

Hello, and welcome to the Self-Harm Recovery Subcommunity! It’s great to have you here, and we are proud of you for making the first brave step in reaching out for support. This is our supportive, safe and friendly environment, and we are glad to have you here 😃. Feel free to direct any questions to the appropriate leader of our community, which you can find at the bottom of the about section. ⭐️

🌟 Feel free to say hello and introduce yourself! Or if you want to just browse for now that is okay too! Take your time. We have several topics in our community such as the goals and success corner, recovery zone, support area and much more! Please use the relevant topic where appropriate so we can keep our community organised🌟

🌟 Please make sure to read through our community guidelines and browse our resources available 🌟

🌟 To join our community leadership team feel free to look through Here for the requirements and apply to join our team 🌟

🌟 Again, thank you for joining our community, and we look forward to seeing your progress on your journey! If you have any questions, please reach out to the relevant leader 😊

Community Guidelines

These guidelines are inspired by some communities around 7 cups! This is so we can adapt our little family to accommodate as many different life experiences and situations as possible. We recognize we cannot adapt to every circumstantial rule. However, we have outlined some of the common guidelines needed for our community. ❤️

✪ Please do not share any graphic images or descriptions of self-harm tools!

✪ Please do not mention the name of any tools used for self-harm in any area of the self-harm recovery community.

✪ Names of methods of self-harm are allowed to be shared in the group support room, but where possible please try to exchange a method name for the phrase "self-harm".

✪ When mentioning methods of self-harm or potentially triggering details of another topic in the forums, please put a trigger warning at the top of the post so people are able to click away from the post if they would like to. Additionally, please try to find an appropriate place within our forums to make your post. Certain areas are reserved for specific content, so please consider this when making your post.

✪ Pro-self-harm content will not be tolerated!

✪ Please be respectful to everyone, members and listeners alike.

✪ Remember, everyone's experiences are different. Please do not undermine or invalidate anyone's situation because it is not what most would consider "normal". We are a diverse community and have people from many backgrounds, so please always be respectful!

✪ General kindness, courtesy, and etiquette are heavily appreciated!

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