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I feel extremely sick whenever I leave my house, what can I do?

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Last Updated: 05/13/2022 at 5:11am
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Anonymous
November 20th, 2019 3:09pm
First, I would recommend seeing a doctor. However, that requires you to leave the house. Is there a way to bring a doctor into the home? Since you said extremely sick, I'm wondering if a relative could call emergency services to give you immediate care? If calling a doctor or emergency services to your home is not feasible: Baby steps. First try to stay outside for a few mins only, then gradually bring the few minutes into several minutes. Several minutes becomes one hour. Continue across the weeks until you have built enough immunity to go outside long enough to see the closest doctor. I feel like there are lot of unknown variables in this situation. Is the air quality in your environment bad? Do you have an immune system issue? If it's an immune system thing, bundle up appropriately and try to see a doctor (whether you go to them or them to you). They can get you an inhaler and other medications to assist. If this is a social anxiety related ailment that has escalated into agoraphobia, it's understandable to feel overwhelmed. The world can be quite scary but not everyone is this way. In this case, please call a therapist. They can employ a customized and individualized plan to accommodate your needs and gradually you will be able to leave the home again.
GivingstonTreegull
August 17th, 2017 10:08pm
Well you can start by asking yourself why? Anxiety is a tricky thing but it can almost always be helped! Try to figure out what exactly it is that scares you about leaving the house. Then determine if it is a real threat or just a fear of a threat. Chances are you are just working yourself up. Try turning leaving the house into a positive experience little by little and perhaps soon it won't bother you at all!
uniqueApricot19
January 9th, 2020 12:10pm
This is an increasingly common public ailment in the developing & western world's. As like loneliness similar with isolation. Physical symptoms of leaving or when leaving the home occur. If you feel verging on a full "Agoraphobia" which is rare and affects women more here are some of the symptoms to observe. The GP is the 1st point of call With agoraphobia, you won’t go to places that scare you. If you end up in one, you can become very anxious. Symptoms may include: Fast, pounding heart Sweating, trembling, shaking Breathing problems Feeling hot or cold Nausea or diarrhea Chest pain Problems swallowing Dizziness or feeling faint If it is not quiet this extreme but have irregular occurring & slight experiences; I would consider meditate after getting ready to set out for 15mins Find appropriate relevant visualisations Obtain a luck charm ( for excursions ) Call a friend before you open the doors to exit. Through your regular GP UK nhs or private medical care......You could try cognitive therapy. It can teach you new ways to think about or face situations that cause panic. These new ways will help you be less afraid. You may also learn relaxation and breathing exercises. Sometimes your therapist may suggest exposure therapy, in which you try to slowly do some of the things that make you anxious. In this case like leaving the home comfortably Medication s vary
stargirl0813
July 2nd, 2020 4:06am
There is nothing wrong with feeling that way! There are plenty of activities to do indoors. Whether it is curling up in bed to read a good book, learning a new recipe, or watching your favorite show, staying at home can be fun. There is always a time and place for everything and leaving the house can be done best when feeling comfortable. If you have come to the point where you feel sick, focus on the reasons why and tackle them. Finding support should be considered. Talk to some friends, a neighbor, or even your parents. Always remember to be positive and focus on the good.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 10:19pm
Have you tried consulting a doctor? It can be a medical or mental situation whenever you leave your house.
Panther7
August 1st, 2018 7:09am
What is the reason for feeling sick, is there something you miss ? At the end it is love, and you can find it everywhere just a smile to or from other people tells you you home is where your heart is. ;)
crispapple71
August 9th, 2018 1:07pm
Talk to a counsellor about getting some CBT sessions. They are very useful in helping overcome anxiety.
Bookloverxoxo
August 14th, 2018 10:41pm
Try and remind yourself that just because you leave your house, doesn't mean it has to be to do anything stressful or intense. Know your boundaries, take things slow, and do a little bit more each day. This will allow you to get used to doing things outside the house, as well as keep things moving at your own pace so you don't feel overwhelmed with anxiety each day you leave.
Anonymous
September 6th, 2018 10:18am
Take deep breaths, break your tasks down and reward useself for leaving the house to try and get over this fear. Also accepting that this fear is okay to have and that it doesn’t happen to eveyone but it is normal and can be worked on. Try to make sure you try and keep going out and facing this fear/ anxiety otherwise you will just keep avoiding the situation. Just remmber it’s okay and you can get better, maybe talking about it to someone close might help you accept it as well, so it doesn’t become a bigger problem
ItsTina15
September 16th, 2018 11:31am
Ask yourself why. And try to uncover and analyse what comes up. Maybe its the idea of having to interact with people? Maybe you are scared something will go wrong? Maybe you don't want to do what you plan on doing for which you are leaving your house. It can be many things, just keep asking probing questions to yourself for self awareness.Think of all the times you went outside and you felt sick. Maybe you will find some clues? Or patterns? You can also confide in a someone you trust, to get their opinion. Maybe they will be able to offer you insight on this.
Dtro18
September 26th, 2018 7:34am
It sounds like you have agoraphobia. Agoraphobia is when we start to fear more and more of the outside world, so much so that we shrink our boundaries more and more until we are confined to our homes. The best treatment of agoraphobia is therapy, but it can be difficult to receive therapy or treatment when the very thought of leaving our homes causes us to feel sick. For now, a good first step is really examining what it is we're afraid of that exists outside of out comfort bubble, and rationalizing those fears. Start by looking at what makes you anxious or stressed about a specific place, and realizing that some fears may be irrational. Rationalizing one place may be to unlocking the rest of the world for you.
monfleur
September 28th, 2018 3:33pm
I am very familiar with this feeling. Sometimes I still feel this way even though my worst and lowest point was years ago. I think that you could ask someone you trust to go out with you as a support or safety blanket. Start with the places that cause you less distress. And then, when you feel like it, start with more challenging places. First with your trusted ones, then maybe alone. Its trial & error. Take your time. Find out what exactly makes you sick & try to avoid it if you dont feel like facing it. Dont feel bad. You will eventually figure it out. But please ask your loved ones to help you through this journey.
Yocan18
October 14th, 2018 1:52pm
Find support. Have someone be with you when you leave. Try and comfort yourself with little things as you leave....and desensitize yourself in some way. Perhaps have something positive waiting for you at another location...a friend, a an item you want to buy...a massage. Go somewhere that you will feel peaceful, so that place because another comfort zone for you....This will change the way your body is conditioned to respond. Right now it is conditioned for fear...having something positive outside the house when you leave will condition your brain and your emotions and the body will follow.
ListenerDustin
October 26th, 2018 4:34pm
I know that it is very difficult sometimes when you are feeling sick or anxious when you leave your house. One things that I do when I am having anxiety and not being about to focus on all the people and noise because it is so much, I focus on breathing. I use different apps to help with my breathing and inner focus. Bring attention to your breath and if you breath in deeply through your nose and slowly out through your mouth this will help to calm and center yourself and bring awareness to the inner self and away from all the social anxiety and stress and pressure from those around you during these situations.
museofdreams
November 7th, 2018 10:00am
It would help to start with figuring out why you feel sick. Is there something wrong? Has something changed recently to make you feel this way? Are you uncomfortable with where you're going? When did you first begin feeling sick when left? Generally figuring out why we have a problem can be the key to understanding and working through that problem. If you figure out why you feel sick, what you can do to handle or cope with whatever makes you sick and put together a plan for getting more comfortable with leaving your house you should be able to tackle the world. There can be a lot of reasons for feeling sick when you leave home. Whether it's a fear of something, actual sickness due to the weather, or being uncomfortable with whatever you need to go out and do. All you can do is try to figure out what's wrong and confront the problem. You are strong and can overcome your problems.
FreshRiver42
November 11th, 2018 3:43pm
Hey, I'm sorry, I know this is hard. Grounding techniques may help you here! Things like focusing on your breath (for example, breathing in for four seconds, holding for four, then breathing out for four). It may help to take your mind off the nauseousness, or thoughts that make you feel that way. Similarly, counting how many colours you can see, or things you can taste, smell or feel can really help. I've also seen suggestions by people about clapping your hands, or rubbing them together, to feel that contact, and focus on it - taking your mind off things. I hope this helps. Stay strong; things will get better x
SaraHoffman
December 7th, 2018 3:00am
These are tips on trying to calm what sounds like anxiety. Grounding witch makes you realize your surroundings and realize you are not in that place anymore and you are safe. So name 5 things you see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. and look, touch, listen, smell, or taste the following things. Also look up square breathing. As well as Inhale for 7 sec hod for 4 exhale for 5. Doing things like walking, having cold water on the wrists and doing this breathing helps as well as being in a cold?hot (depending on if the attacks make you feel hot or cold pick the opposite temp ex if you feel hot go to a cold place ect) and quite place can help, Also running cold water on your wrists.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2019 7:34pm
Take a deep breath. Remember, going out is good for you, the fresh air feels and smells lovely. Maybe it smells like fresh rain, or maybe it smells like the hot caress of the sun. As you're walking, take care of where you're going, but listen. The excited day to day chatter, the laughs and giggles, or maybe the temper tantrums of children. Take in the world, the pure beauty. Your sickness is a passing feeling. It may feel scary and horrible, and it can be. But it's all a matter of perspective. Take a breather, a moment all to yourself, and try to change the way you look at the trees, the sky, the tiny droplets of rain. Everything around you is beauty and intelligence and has a story. Every flower, brick, car and dog. Think about those stories, and never rush. Take your journeys day by day.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2019 4:51am
I suggest that before you leave the house, you do a breathing activity and drink some water. Also believe in yourself and know that you will be okay. If you do feel sick, put on some music that relaxes your mind. I get that if must be hard for you and you may have fear or being overwhelmed from leaving the house. I believe if you do some activities that will take it off your mind will help you from getting sick. Maybe even read a book and examine everything might get your mind off of feeling sick. Thanks you
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2019 6:01pm
The first thing you can do is try to figure out where you are going and find a safe path then you can call up a friend to go with you. If you don't have a friend then you shall be brave and step out that door, just remember. Preparation is key. Prepare before you leave. Make sure you have everything on you that will help on your journey and if you get lost, don't be afraid to ask for help. We're all humans and we're not going to judge you. Maybe you can get a pet dog too.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2019 5:03pm
think about the sun which will touch your skin when you´ll be outside. the wind, which you will be able to feel in your hair. it may be a bit too bright outside but you will get used to it. believe me at some point you will actually like it. whenever you feel uncomfortable look for clouds. count them. try to guess what they look like. search for trees. maybe one of them has your favorite color. think about all those thinks while leaving the house. forget about your problems. just think about the sun, the sky, the wind and the nature which will be waiting for you outside.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2019 3:42am
I understand maybe we can set up a weekly chat and I can try to help you overcome this sick feeling you get wen you leave your home. A home can be a safe place for many people and that may be what is making you feel sick when you leave. Leaving a home can be very unsettling but am here to listen and help you get overcome this felling and get out in the open more and make new friends that also influence you to get out more. It may also help with this feeling being out with people you enjoy being around.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2019 2:46am
Deep breathes, Fresh air and mindful exorcising. These are my coping skills. Often when I am feeling sick its normally my anxiety. It's good to get some air or take a small walk when I am feeling anxious. Some times if I am feeling actually sick physically I chew some gum or suck on a mint. For some reason mint not only helps my stomach but calms me down. It is some what of a Melatonin for me. I calms my nerves and makes me feel better. When I am sick I usually will try to avoid my phone.
Anonymous
December 11th, 2019 10:45am
Practice grounding. Distract yourself. Practice mindfulness. Get fresh air. Smell something soothing. Take anxiety medicine. Hold onto something comforting. Remind yourself you are okay. Go with a buddy. Reward yourself. Think positive. Wear comfortable clothes. Be aware of if you are too hot or cold. Drink chamomile or green tea. Suck on a piece of candy. Chew gum. Practice breathing techniques. Focus on your breathing. Make sure you are taking care of yourself. Bring some water. Make sure you are eating enough. Make sure you are drinking enough water. Get a stress ball. Try relaxing techniques. Get a "That was easy", button.
beautifulsoul247
December 26th, 2019 5:46pm
A number people feel this way sometimes. The intensity of reluctance to leave the house may vary, as do the reasons behind it. If the feeling is extreme to the point of hindering your day-to-day life, it is important to acknowledge that professional consultation might be called for. How does one overcome that which they do not know? Especially where mental health is concerned, when the discomfort is not visible, one may feel doubtful of its existence and therefore unsure of how to act. A professional can help to diagnose that a condition definitely exists based on facts and not mere feeling. They can identify the degree or intensity. They would be in the best position to advise on a course of action based on findings. While seeking professional help might seem daunting, imagine the peace of mind you can feel when you truly know what you are experiencing and the best ways to cope.
Morgannn92
February 1st, 2020 7:03am
Bringing comforting things that remind you of your house or safe place can be helpful, or even taking a specific scent or taste with you. I put essential oils that I put in my candles at home on my wrists when I go to school and whenever I feel nervous I smell my wrists. You can also put home-related items in jewelry (like a locket) that you can open up and look at, or just put a little something in your pocket that reminds you of home. I also chew gum that reminds me of home and family (my aunt, whom I love with, chews the same gum).
Dad1st
February 5th, 2020 7:03am
I would seek the help of a therapist. There are plenty of options to speak to one online, even here on 7 cups, so there is no leaving the house required. Another good thing to try is a short walk just around your house. Could be a stroll through your yard or maybe just maybe a small walk down the sidewalk. Contact a friend or family member to go with you if you feel like that would make you more comfortable. There is a great big wide world out there with lots to do and see, you dont want to miss out.
JennMarie2
February 8th, 2020 3:11am
It sounds like you are having some anxiety related to leaving a place where you feel comfortable. Some things that can be helpful including bringing something with you when you leave that reminds you of being home, and setting a time table for yourself so you know that even though you are spending "X" hours away from your house, you will be able to go home where you feel comfortable after those "X" hours have passed. A lot of people find it comforting to brig something small with them every time that they leave. They leave it in their pockets and then when they get back home, they put it back where it is supposed to go for the next time that they have to leave. It usually helps if the item is centrally located in your house so that you see it frequently when you are at home and comfortable. Associating comforting feelings with the object can relieve anxiety when you are away from home.
kindDreamer9743
February 13th, 2020 8:30am
The best way to deal with this issue is always to have in your mind that your home is your sanctuary and you can return to it as often and when you like to there are no restrictions, taking controlled breaths and remaining calm will reducing the anxiety level and reducing the "sick" feeling we all get from time to time although its more prominant in others, just take a few moments before leaving the house to reassure yourself that you will return at any time you wish no one else has the control of that but you, on your journey out feel calm that you will return and have the feeling of empowerment that you have overcome that situation even if you have only been away for a few moments this will get longer the more you work on this.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2021 10:12pm
It seems you're a home body or you're socially very anxious. There are ways that could actually help, a great deal of exercise and try going out more. Try not to think about the stares you will get when you leave the comfort of your home. You shouldn't feel bad about this tho. Visiting your therapist when necessary will also help and most importantly, avoid places to put you at stake or make you feel socially anxious Try going to the market with your mom. If you have a pet dog, go for a walk daily. The gym is another place you can go to.