Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

For fear of appearing so broken. For fear of being dismissed as silly. For fear of not being understood.

Depressed people push loved ones away because they do not feel as if the love is worth anything, they feel as if love is pointless and loving them if pointless.

Depressed people push loved ones away because they do not love themselves ; therefore they feel no one else is able to love them.

Because they cant handle the feeling of love vs needing love. Conflict of not wanting ppl to know vs calling out for help

Sometimes it's because being around people who don't understand can be exhausting. Other times it can be because we feel the need to act happy so we don't spread our negative vibes. 1 thing I've noticed though is even 2 sad people usually feel better meeting up than being alone. A change of scenery & meeting people can break patterns of negative thoughts that take over when you're alone. I have friends who don't want to meet up but feel better once we do.

Because they are sad,they are so deeply sad. They can't find joy in anything.And it hurts. it hurts so much inside you can't think about anything else. and you just want to talk about it. and talk and talk and talk and talk, and they are afraid they will be annoying... and they are afraid their loved ones will push them away first... Sometimes though depressed people don't wanna do anything. they don't wanna talk. They want to be consumed by their sadness. because that's how they know to be... and not everyone can understand that.

Depressed people push loved ones away for quite a few reasons. One reason for pushing loved ones away is to hide a side of oneself that one is ashamed of. The idea of not being able to manage one's own life and mental health is something that people on the outside are not always accepting of. Depressed people might push loved ones away because depression is altering their thought patterns and might lead one to no longer trust in loved ones or have hope that things will improve. Another reason might be that depressed people are looking to protect their loved ones by not exposing them to the traumas that they've experienced and by not giving them a burden in the form of them and their traumas. People listening to traumas can live vicariously through them and experience some of the emotions and stress as well on top of the stress and emotions that come with hearing about a loved one struggling altogeter.

Usually because we feel like we are a burden. Its always painful to see everyone around you being so happy and lively, like everything is in color yet when it comes to you everything is suddenly gray and bleak. Its worse when you realize your loved sometimes have to act like they are walking on egg shells around you and you think start to "maybe if I distanced myself they wouldn't get hurt, they can live their lives without any burden from me". In a depressive mindset we think its the best decision but we aren't seeing the full picture, we aren't seeing that the reality is we're hurting them as much as ourselves

They could possibly not want to hurt others while they are hurting or they simply do not trust people not to leave them, so they make it easy on themselves and push others away.

because they just probably just want to be alone for a while and maybe the love ones are making i worse by trying to help them.

They do not want any bit of their compassion anymore. They wish to stay alone. They feel guilty of doing wrong to someone..

I think when people are depressed we feel like no one understands, can help, or it requires too much effort to be around someone else.

What ive found from personal experience is that its not that the depressed person hates them but rather they dont want to hurt or burden the loved one. In a sense the farther from the person you are when something bad happens the less it hurts like a bomb kinda.

Because they need to know someone cares.Yes, they do feel the need to be alone and cry but they also want the others to try and help them better than they did before.Try and understand them, show them that they are important.

Because they feel that they are sparing their loved ones from their depression. Your first instinct is to just deal with it alone, which of course, can make it worse. Allow those in your life to get close to you and help you.

I feel like people push other away when in that state because they want to be able to figure it out on their own. Sometimes they want to stop others from seeing them in that state, from shame or fear or maybe even worry for their lived ones reactions. I think it's a very painful thing to be alone when depression takes over, but being in that state and having people around you is a different kind of pain and worry that mixes in. We all need help at one point, but part of the path has to be walked alone, sometimes we need to realize ourselves that we need to reach out and ask for help. Until we come to that moment, no amount of outside help can make it to us. Patience is the most important thing, and not giving up until they do take our helping hand is the best we can do.

It is never intentional. It is something that is not understood nor is it meant to be from those who don't suffer for it. They will except your love if you simply show it without taking it personally. They usually will blame themselves before anyone else.

Some wouldn't want their saddness and problems to affect other people's life and happiness. Forgetting that by pushing them away , they hurt the people that love them and themselves even more.

It is simple in my opinion, Depressive people do not love themselves. It is clearly that a person who doesn„t love himself cannot understand how others love him

Because they think that their loved ones dont understand what they are going through and in that case, they are wrong!

Depressed people generally feel like they aren't worth anyone's time and know it, so they feel guilty about it. They might also feel like they are not nice and feel it is best to avoid people to save them from being hurt.

Well, depression people used to pushed people they love away cause, most of the time they will felt themselves worthless and can't make people they love happy so they used to afraid of being burden to them and they was afraid od hurting people they love to the depression and the negative thinking that used to be in their mind like a poison, but honestly they doesn't want to hurt you but they pushed you away usually they will think that your life will be better without them as they afraid of hurting you emotionally. They prefer they are the only one who get hurt other than make people they love hurt too. Actually they tried to protect people they love's feeling but maybe in a wrong way. Well it is not surprising cause they got much more negative thoughts and thinking more than you know they are. Tbh, they need support and people to lead them to positive thinking and manners but most of people around then doesn't aware of it. And they prefer thinking that the depression people is fine but deep inside them, they aren't fine totally. But most of the time, depression people used to hide their emotions and what they feel so that it won't make people around them worry. But actually, to all of people out there, please be aware if someone were depressed cause I'm afraid it will get worsen till they might be having a suicidal thoughts.

They fear that the loved ones don't understand or are afraid of pity or loved ones over-reacting to it.

depression is like drowning except you can see everyone around you breathing, it's like you're screaming as loud as you can and no one around u hear you or even care about you that's why depressed people tend to push people away cause they still see that even though they love them but still this love isn't enough they feel as if you just don't care and they're afraid to exchange the same love with them so they won't get disappointed or hurt at the end

Being Depressed is like Standing over a cliff with a storm above your head, alone and isolated and you constantly ask the questions should i jump ?

Because they feel like 1. they don't have the energy to love the person back and 2. they don't believe the person loves them for real, because they don't think they deserve to be loved. They feel more safe when they are alone, because then nobody can hurt them.

Sometimes we want to have some time on our own to analyse and validate our thoughts neutrally without other people interfering during the process, sometimes we are afraid to depend on other people emotionally, sometimes we are afraid of people leaving or hurting us that we choose to distance ourselves in order to ignore the pain and sometimes we are not able of forming healthy relationships with people and therefore we try to ignore our problems by fading away. There can be thousands of reasons to why a person chooses to push people away. Ask yourself, do you relate to any of the reasons given above?

In part, depressed people want their loved ones to know how awful they feel - they are searching for words of assurance, and they want to know that they will continue to be supportive even when provoked to be otherwise

I think it's because we don't want to hurt someone along the way. We are scared that if we have loved ones around when we are hurting, they will soon get hurt too.

being depressed i feel like i cause a lot of problems to everyone around me. especially my loved ones. i want them to be happy. and if i make them feel sad or stressed the quickest solution i can think of is to push them away. a lot of people may think i hate them but the truth is i love them so much i rather sacrifice myself in a way to make them feel better if i cause them so much stress... i dont know if this makes any sense. i hope it does. but basically. we push them away so we wont hurt them...