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Yes, you should definitely ask your crush out! Life is short -- you have no idea! When you get to age 30 you'll start to realize how many opportunities you passed by just because you were afraid or shy. Life will pass you by. The worst case scenario is they say no. So in summary, yes you should always ask your crush out. (unless they're in a relationship)
I don't know if it can help... but everytime I was hesitating about sometime that interests me, my father told me '' The worst that can happens in life is to die''. By that, he would mean ''You can take your courage and ask her/him out, in the best she/he will say yes, and in the worst she/he will say know. In therapy for anxiety, it's often suggest to do ''exposure'', that means to go gradually in the situations that create anxiety. I think it's the same thing for asking somebody out, you will never know if you never try. Hope it help a little bit :) xxxxx
Well, if they like you as well, then yes! But if no, then you should probably try to build up a really solid friendship with them so you can make sure that if you do ask them out then they will have less chances of avoiding you/something like that. Sometimes you don't know what the other side thinks of you and you might think they don't like you but it might be the opposite. Try your chances. You will be Anxious when approaching them but with time you will start to 'get used to it' and the anxiety will slowly be gone while you're around them.
I think you should go for it and hope for the best, and if it doesn’t work out, then it wasn’t meant to be.
Absolutely, life is short... so always try and do what will make you happy. Just know that because you have a crush on said person, they may not always feel the same. If you ask them out and they say yes, than great! Just prepare yourself that they have other things in mind if they were to decline your offer. There is someone for everyone. Some people come into our lives to help us learn about ourselves, support us and even anger us... so don't hold yourself accountable if it does not go the way you had hoped. Just be true to you and what your personal goals are.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2018 4:49am
Honestly it really depends if you guys knew each other to the point where your both feeling like it’s time for you both to date. Because if you guys don’t talk that much or even know each other, asking him can be a bit risky then. So it would be better if you guys talked a bit more first.
If you feel this is the best thing to do then go for it! If you have a good gut feeling about this then go right ahead!
Anonymous
July 9th, 2018 3:39pm
Do what you think is right! If you feel it is the right time go for it! If you don't then hold it for another day.
Yes! It is never easy to be the first one to reach out and put your heart on the line, but it is worth it to be brave! We tend to be so afraid of rejection. Yes, rejection is painful, but so is missing out on an opportunity to connect with another person. Asking your crush out is scary, but it is so brave! And who knows, maybe they'll say yes!
However, if your crush is already involved in a relationship or you don't really know them, it may be best to proceed with caution. If they are already in a relationship, you probably shouldn't ask them out. If you don't really know them, you should try to get to know them a little better before you ask them out.
Good luck! :)
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