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**Please read about the areas i focus on before contacting me**

Hi there. I am dual trained as a midwife and psychologist. My working life involves support adolescents and young women through pregnancy, birth, miscarriage and still birth. 

Online, I have experience in supporting adolescents and young women with a whole range of issues.  My expertise is in supporting them through pregnancy related issues. This could be miscarriage and pregnancy loss, depression and issues during pregnancy, concerns around birth, issues relating to previous trauma and abuse and how this affects giving birth,  post natal depression, and abortion.*

***Please note that I do not take requests/give advice about sexual and relationship issues***

In the past I have also supported adolescents and women with depression, eating disorders, PTSD and self harm. 

I hope to bring a calming, gentle and reflective approach to conversations.

I come to 7 cups of tea as someone with knowledge of both sides of the healing process. I am very aware that when we are in need of support it is often outside of 'office hours'. I completed training in psychiatry, psychology and education and have experience working in a wide variety of therapeutic contexts.

While I am happy to listen to all problems. My areas of specialist knowledge are:

* pregnancy related issues: pre and post natal depression, depression following miscarriage or still birth

* traumatic experiences: abuse, childhood abuse, miscarriage

* self-harm, past history of suicide

* eating disorders: binge eating, bulimia, anorexia

*long-term psychiatric issues: e.g. clinical depression, PTSD

This story reflects my philosophy on the purpose of my life and of life in general:

THE STARFISH STORY (adapted from Loren Eiseley)

A young girl was walking along a beach upon which thousands of starfish had been washed up during a terrible storm. Every so often she would pick up a starfish, and throw it back into the ocean.

She had been doing this for some time when an old man approached her and said, “Little girl, why are you doing this? Look at this beach! You can’t save all these starfish. You can’t begin to make a difference!”

The girl seemed crushed, suddenly deflated. But after a few moments, she bent down, picked up another starfish, and hurled it as far as she could into the ocean. Then she looked up at the man and replied,

“Well, I made a difference to that one!”

The old man looked at the girl inquisitively and thought about what she had said. Inspired, he joined the little girl in throwing starfish back into the sea. Soon others joined, and all the starfish were saved.


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How to get rid of self harm scars?
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Why is self harming so addictive?
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Why do I keep thinking about cutting when I haven't cut in years?
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How can I stop a habit of self-harm?
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Is it still considered cutting if I just use a safety pin to scratch the surface and no blood?
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How can I tell my mother I'm pregnant?
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July 7th, 2015 11:16am
Can a person really not be affected by a serious traumatic event that would 'normally' cause trauma?
July 11th, 2016 12:38pm
Why do traumatic experiences lead to nightmares?
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How do I stop having flashbacks about the abuse?
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