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7 Cups Behavioral Points System

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Our objective is to streamline the process and keep you well-informed. Not many people struggle with several behavior points, but for people who do, we want to ensure that you can take steps to improve your behavior and be part of the community. We had originally launched the system in 2016 and in 2020 we updated and re-emphasized it.

This process is designed to provide you with an opportunity to improve. We do not have any intentions to punish anyone but we do need to keep people accountable for their behavior. It is your community and how you behave, that impacts it as well. Our purpose is to provide better help & support and a compassionate environment to all.

đź’ˇ We all want to be part of a community that fosters high warmth and high expectations. It is the best way to lead a community because everyone deserves support and compassion.
High Warmth and high Expectations are part of the 7 Cups Culture. Because:
  • If you have high warmth but low expectations, then the structure or culture is low.
  • If you have low warmth and high expectations, then it has a structure, but limited reliability and safety.
  • If you have low warmth and low expectations, then neither has a structure nor culture.
  • If you have high warmth and high expectations, it has structure reliability, and safety.
đź’ˇ We are focused on providing both so that the community can have increased trust, support, culture, safety, and compassion.
Points to Consider
We believe in second chances

We know and understand no one is perfect and can improve. But, we need to understand when you have an opportunity to improve, you strive to improve and show that you improved. Value the opportunities you have.

We believe in inclusivity.

We welcome all constructive feedback. Because we are also not perfect and striving to improve. Feedback is a two-way process. Ensure to provide feedback in a compassionate, constructive, and respectful manner.

We believe in accountability.

Everyone is responsible and accountable for their actions. Because action reacts and impacts someone. We are in a community setup, so how you act impacts community activities. If you are supportive, the activities flow positively. If you act unsupportive, the activity flow gets interrupted.

We believe transparency is helpful.

As a community member, it is your right to know what is happening with the reports and how it gets processed. So, we want to provide better transparency in our actions in this system. However, there are also natural limitations too. We will not be able to share or disclose in detail with the community at large things that are happening on an individual basis. Because a wise person said, Praise in public, criticize in private. We want to give everyone a second chance to improve and feel encouraged to improve.

What is the Behavioral Rating System?

It is a process we would use to assign points based on the infractions they did in the community at a point in time. Every time, they commit a violation, they will be getting points assigned and informed through email so they know what violations they did, and what points are assigned to them for the violations. So they can have the opportunity to learn from the mistakes they made and improve. But if they do not improve and they cross the threshold, they will face consequences.

This is modeled after other point systems like having a driving license in the US. If a person drives safely and smartly (they are a good member), then they will receive no points. If they drive through stop signs, then they get a point. If they drive dangerously, then they get more points. If a person accrues enough points, then they are required to go to driving school. If they still do not improve then they can lose their license and no longer drive.

It is a systematic process where all reports will be included for a user.

How does it work?
  • The system will apply to both listeners and members.
  • Each behavior report or flagged forum thread will be evaluated using the below point criteria. Points are cumulative.
  • Each point expires 6 months after it was earned.
  • If no reports within three months from the date of action, an 80% reduction in the points. Note: One can be able to apply for a leadership role. This includes Mentor roles, teen star, group mod, peer support, and project agent roles.
  • If zero reports within a month from the date of action, 40% reduction in the behavior score.
Applicability of the system

The process will be applicable moving forward. It won't consider past reports. Except for the severe reports. It will be up to the Community Management Team to decide on those reports.

How reports are filed?
  • Reports filed via specific behavior reports. Please see Different ways of reporting someone’s behavior in the community
  • The incoming report will be reviewed by the concerned team. It will be reviewed for accuracy and if one of the below behaviors is identified the following actions will be taken:
  • The authority sends a warning message to the reported user letting them know about the report. If the user would like to provide their side of the story, they will be invited to do that.
  • Point(s) will be assigned if the user assumes responsibility for the action and agrees that it happened. The authority will let the user know the point has been assigned.
  • If the user does not accept responsibility for the behavior and the evidence that the behavior did occur is clear, point(s) will be assigned.
  • It is requested of all reporters that they submit relevant screenshots to prove their accusations for a user.
Identified Behaviors and the Behavioral Points Table
đź’ˇ The behavioral points shown in the table reflect the points that can be assigned when one violates any specific guidelines for the first time. For repetitive violations or multiple occurrences, points will be cumulative. All points are tallied and tracked on the community management team's backend panel. Dates will be logged to monitor the timing.
Category Behavior & its description Points
Adult Teen Listeners Who engaged in an offsite contact with a teen or adult. Note: ATL badge + any leadership role you may have will be removed 5
Breaking Confidentiality • References another user by name and/or specific content of a confidential 1-1 chat Note: Your post will be edited to remove names and specifics. (Please check the notes below) 1
Bullying • Hurtful, rude, unprofessional language is used with the intent to be mean-spirited, hurt feelings, or intentionally cause harm. 3
Creating Duplicate Accounts ` • If you are rejected then go to your member account and/or create a new member/listener account and continue to post/share/message/act in a way similar to that which resulted in the initial rejection. 3
Disregarding another user's personal boundary after they have clearly stated it to you. • Ex. stalking, harassing, etc. 3
Flirting 3
Group Support Chats Talk about personal problems while on your listener account after receiving at least two warnings from a moderator inviting you to head to your member account. The appropriate way to get support is to move to your member account to seek support. 2
Group Support Chats Engaging in a conflict, arguing, acting confrontational 2
Group Support Chats Using racist or hate speech 4
Group Support Chats Bullying or harassing another user 3
Group Support Chats Continued to discuss inappropriate discussion topics after deliberately interrupting a discussion in progress after the moderator's warning 2
Group Support Chats Using the “Start discussion button” inappropriately 3
Group Support Chats Deliberately interrupting a discussion in progress 2
Group Support Chats Being generally unsupportive of your peers & unwelcoming to people who join the room 1
Impersonation Impersonating any user, admin, or community mod account-- We discourage impersonation in the community as it is not healthy for the community environment and connections. 5
Making Generalizations Making generalizations based on another person’s (or group of people's) experiences on 7 Cups (not your personal experiences). All constructive or feedback-oriented forum posts about 7 Cups should be written based on your personal experiences on 7 Cups only. Statements like: “I have spoken to many people who believe…” should be avoided. Instead, you can encourage someone to upvote your post, reply, and share in the thread, or express their personal experiences in their own way. (Please check the notes below) 1
Offsite Chat Group If you are confirmed to be part of a large offsite chat group 6
Offsite Contact Confirmed interaction with another community member off of 7 Cups 3
Offsite Contact If you are a community leader in any role and you are confirmed to be engaged in offsite 6
Perpetuating a debate without constructive purpose • Specifically, please use the feedback formats mentioned above and share your ideas in good faith. • If you decide to join a conversation where there are 2 opposing viewpoints being shared, share your opinions in a kind, professional way that does not belittle the thoughts or ideas of people who have a different opinion on the specific topic. • Your contribution to the discussion should advance the conversation, and add value with the intent of being constructive and helpful. 1
Plagiarism Leaving your listener account fake reviews from member account 4
Polarize or Divide the Community Creating posts attempting to polarize or divide the community. 2
Posting Sexual Content • A post that attempts to sext or share graphic information with another user. Additionally, this can include posts that indicate a romantic relationship is going on between 2 users or a specific plan to connect sexually. EX. I love you so much & I cannot wait to meet you next week 4
Refusing to use conflict resolution and problem solving skills Refusing to use conflict resolution and problem-solving skills in a situation where you are playing a direct role. (learn more here/ add link). — We realize that in some cases you may not be able to do this. If conflict resolution is not possible, you may: file a report. Check the “How Reports are filed section above”. In all cases, we encourage you to do self-care and move forward from the situation. — Problems arise when the following behaviors are detected: • If conflict resolution is possible for you and you actively avoid or delay it • Perpetuating the problem between you and another listener by triangulating, spreading a rumor, or speaking negatively in a public space about another person (learn more rumor spreading here) • Inappropriate use of conflict resolution: Specifically, this refers to the act of conflict resolution with another person. If during this process, a lack of professionalism, an open communication style, or being intentionally hurtful toward another user. judgmental 2
Romantic relationship with a member or other listener . Offsite chatting • Lack of professionalism • Relationship / romantic connection makes its way into the 7 Cups community in any way 5
Sexting Sexting (Mentor/ leadership badges removed for a minimum of 3 Months) 8
Forums Sharing Contact Information in the Forums Note: The inappropriate content may be edited by a forum mod. (Please check the notes below) 3
Sharing unconstructive feedback • A constructive feedback forum post should identify the problem, be objective, and offer a solution(s) to the identified problem. See below for more information. If a forum post is not constructive or positive then it will be deleted and a point may be assigned. 1
Spreading gossip You can learn more about gossip here! 2
Triangulating with 2 or more users • You can learn more about triangulation here 3
Usernames Using terms like 'Therapist' or “Life Coach' or using Triggering or Inappropriate terms in the username is not allowed. If a user does so, they will be asked to change their username, if the user does not then points will be assigned. 3
Using Inappropriate Language • Language that is hurtful, unprofessional, contains inappropriate language, or is mean-spirited towards an individual, group of individuals, or idea. In this context, inappropriate language is curse words aimed to cause hurt or harm. 3
Using inappropriate Tone • The general attitude of the post is negative, abusive, hurtful, derogatory, or inflammatory • Sarcastic humor is used in a way to bring someone, a group of people, or an idea down. 3

Consequences Based on the Behavioral Points

Below you will find the corresponding consequences of the above behaviors.

Colors Points Actions
Blue 0-2 Gentle Reminder Email
Purple 3-4 Warning email + two weeks break
Yellow 5-6 warning email + 1 month break
Orange 7-8 Warning email + three months break
Light Red 9 Warning email + six months break
Dark Red 10 or above Suspension

Loss of privilege or warning enacted

Number of Points Loss of privileges or warnings enacted
0-2 • Forum posts may be edited or deleted (depending on the content of the post) & any content identified in the scale above will be removed.  • A Warning/ feedback message may be sent to you from a community manager.  • If 2+ points were earned in a listener chatroom, we will issue a global mute for 1 week  • If you earn any of the 0-point offenses 3 times, it will be counted as 1 point.  • The Adult / Teen Listener badge is removed (Only if points were earned during an interaction with a teen user).
3-4 • 2-week self-care break • Leadership badges (and internship eligibility status) removed for up to 3 months (2 months is standard, sexual/abusive/racist/graphic chats will be 3 months or full removal of leadership status depending on the exact nature of the offense)
5-6 - 1 month break - Leadership badges (and internship eligibility status) removed for up to 3 months (2 months is standard, sexual/abusive/racist/graphic chats will be 3 months or full removal of leadership status depending on the exact nature of the offense)
7-8 • 3-month self-care break
9-10 • No longer invited to be part of the community. The specifics of the rejection can vary. Generally, this will mean a listener account rejection only. If the situation allows, we will allow you to remain in the community as a member.   • There are instances where someone is unable to use their member account professionally after their listener account has been put on hold. In these instances, we’ll ask you to not return as a member as well.  These instances include: ◦ Using a member account to continue to be unprofessional or engage in the behavior you were rejected for ◦ Harassing, rumor spreading, or perpetuating negativity from another account

Important Notes (as mentioned in the Behavior Points Table)
  • All the behaviors identified above are common behaviors identified in the specific areas. However, if the same behavior is found in other parts of the community as well, the points and consequences will be applicable.
  • Zero Points Behavior. They are applicable for the first instance only. If the behavior continues, the points will be assigned according to the severity of the reported behavior.
  • Except for a few specific behaviors that are subjected only to listeners. All other behaviors are subject to both listeners and members of the community.
  • Adult Teen Listeners- In case of violations, the badge and access will be removed instantly.
Red Flag Offenses & Consequences
Offenses
  • Forum Spam - If you are repeatedly spamming the forums with inappropriate content or advertisements you or your account may be removed
  • Post inappropriate or graphic pictures, your account will be removed
  • Sexting and/or repeatedly sexting (after being given a warning not to) will result in account removal
  • Underage or in the wrong age community (you must be 15 to be a listener & 13 to be a member)
Consequences

Immediate removal from 7 Cups community

Protocol for Getting Support from a Community Leader

If you are having a problem, you may approach a community leader for support on how to manage that situation. However, please refrain from telling them specific details. As a general rule when communicating with community leaders: we should avoid using names and specific details about a person or a given situation. For example, if you are having a conflict with another listener. You could go to the community leader and say “I am struggling with a difficult situation. Could you give me some tips on how to use conflict resolution?” In this example, no specific details are mentioned, but you are still able to ask for help as you work through a difficult situation.

Important terms and their meanings

Rumor

A rumor is a currently circulating story or report of uncertain truth.

When you spread a story about someone or something that is not true you are acting similar to how a bully would. You are perpetuating false information which is incredibly hurtful to the individuals involved. Additionally, you are bringing down the culture of 7 Cups.

If you hear a rumor, please keep it to yourself. Be the reason the rumor stops spreading. And remind the person who told you that their actions are very hurtful.

If someone comes on to 7 Cups using a guest account to spread a rumor, please ban these accounts immediately. These are people who are going out of their way to inject harmful, misinformation into our community. In this post on mutual responsibility, I talk about the importance of removing bad actors as a community. It is everyone's responsibility to remove bad actors when we see them and report bad behaviors when we encounter them. If you do not report them, you are contributing to a culture of dishonesty, rumor-spreading, and harmful behavior.

đź’ˇ Important for the Teen community. As young adults, you are more susceptible to these behaviors. Teens, please carefully review this post, report any necessary behaviors, and stop rumors in their tracks.

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