How long does it take to get over someone?
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It varies for everyone, but it's when you can see that person's facebook/snapchat/whatever and see that even if they're smiling without you, you only wish them the best. You have no unease in your heart, and you feel nothing but peace :) It'll come, even if it doesn't seem like it does now I promise.
It all depends on you. You have to take baby steps. It depends on how long you were with that person, why it ended, and many more factors are involved.
This is something that is different for each person. It can be a few days, or a few years. There is not one answer. I would say, take as much time as you need, and if reach out to someone if you feel like you can't handle the situation on your own.
As long as you are convinced that you do not have feelings for for the person. We are all different
It can take a long time to get over someone, and the important thing is not to measure this time in days, weeks or months, but in terms of your progress in healing, and ensuring that you love yourself, and continue looking forward to the future. Breaking up with someone is a grieving process, and it is important to take the time that you need, while never forgetting that there are other people in your life, and that only by looking forward and embracing life can you fully get over anyone, and build a successful and positive future. Getting over does not mean forgetting someone, and it might not even mean not loving someone, but learning how not to be 'in love' with someone, day to day, is crucial, and can take as long as it takes. X
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 1:33pm
You cannot give an exact answer for that because it depends on the individual on how hard he/she fell for that person and how he/she values him/her.
Take as long as you need , especially if you truly loved them . It's gonna take a while but be patient and now it will get better
However long it takes until you stop thinking about that person during the day and during the night. It'll take some time but you'll get there. Everyone can move on, it's just a matter of determination.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 7:05am
Honestly i'm a very cold hearted person so I never got into someone in the first place.. but I guess time just goes by
Anonymous
November 20th, 2017 7:11am
It really depends. My first relationship lasted a month with a guy I didn’t love, I got over it within a week. My second relationship as well as my third however took me a while because we developed real love feelings. Honestly it just depends on when you feel ready to move on with your life.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 12:56pm
It takes as long as you make it. It's a hard process but not impossible with good people to back you up and provide the emotional foundation that is necessary.
I can't answer in a specific amount of time. But it takes a few breakdowns, a little or a lot of crying and a few pints of ice-cream. Then, you will find yourself getting better.
It all depends on the person and how the person is on moving on and letting go of someone it can range from a few weeks to a few months to even years all depends on the person.
Its depends on you dear. Try and give time to yourself like enjoy some hobby or spend time with loved ones it may help you get over your ex.
Unfortunately it takes as long or as short as you allow it to.
Sometimes to help get over someone quicker, getting closure can really point you in the right direction.
It can take anywhere between days to years, and sometimes you may never get over someone. You just need to stay positive.
It depends, because it can take days, weeks, months, maybe even years. It depends on how much you loved that person and the impact that they took on you. Personal, i like a guy for over 4 years and I'm still not over him.
It depends, because it can take days, weeks, months, maybe even years. It depends on how much you loved that person and the impact that they took on you. Personal, i like a guy for over 4 years and I'm still not over him.
My personal experience is that you never really get over someone you have loved but with time you heal and learn to live without them. Usually it takes half the time you've known them to start moving on.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 4:17am
That depends on each individual, how long you were involved, how involved. Why don't you tell me what you are dealing with this evening?
I think you will never officially get over someone. I think you just think of them less often and that you start focusing your mind on other things.
Everyone has their own time frame and it all depends on how much the person meant to you. Take it easy and everything will be fine
it takes as long as you and your mind and body and heart needs don't rush it take the time you need to heal
Getting over someone is hard and its different for everyone,
One time i was over somebody in a month and another time it felt like forever ! It really depends
That depends from many factors, everybody is different. What helps is to go out, met new people, find out what you like, rediscover yourself and treating yourself well.
There is no definite time frame to 'get over someone', and I truly believe there never will. Some people can love the same person the rest of their life, while some cannot, what you can do is remind yourself that nothing is lost, that everything can teach us, and in time you can learn that nothing is infinite or finite.
My ex-boyfriend and I had liked each other for 8 months before we were officially together for a year and 6 months. He then decided to end the relationship because he fell for another girl. It took me 7 months to wholeheartedly get over him. I still love him but would never try to work on another relationship with him because of the magnitude of the pain he caused me. The amount of time it takes would depend on how much you love the person and how much of an impact they've made on your life.
If that person was very important then it's going to take a long time, you can do it tho. Life consists in meeting and loosing people.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 9:22pm
There's no definite answer to this because every one is different. Take your time. Don't rush it. You'll slowly realize you think about this someone.
I can't really answer that, because that's very different from person to person. It depends on how much you really cared for that "someone" and who you are as a person too.
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