What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 3:02pm
See what he/she wants. But if they keep harassing you you should tell someone you are close to. If it gets really bad you should contact the police.
If he is nothing you, depending on the extent. I would recommend either asking him to stop and deleting him or blocking him.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 6:40pm
I had an ex who kept contacting me, insulting me and stalking/hacking me. I let this go on for a few weeks thinking it would stop. It didn't so i went to the police
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 4:34am
Inform them that you do not wish to be contacted, if they continue block them and then if they find other ways contact the police as this i believe is a form of harassment.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 6:11pm
You should ask him to stop or block him or her. You don't need to have him or her intruding ........
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 6:30pm
I would ask him politely ask him to stop. If he does not, then I would try blocking his calls and text messages.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 8:41am
If the ex is harassing you or bothering you, the best thing to do would be blocking anything they are able to contact you with.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2020 3:02pm
Has it been a while and they reached out? Do you still have feelings for them? If you still have feelings for this ex, I wouldn't respond (especially if they're texting you at like 2 am). If you don't want to be their friend, you shouldn't respond. The best course of action is to just not respond. Just ignore them and go text someone else. You may hurt in the moment, but you will feel better in the long run. If things get worse and this ex continues to make contact, tell them to stop that or you can just block them.
If you do not want them to contact you anymore, it would be best to block their phone number and them on social media. If it continues, and they do not leave you alone, changing phone numbers and usernames can be helpful as well. I have dealt with this and I personally find that responding can cause conflict, whether with the person or internally about the situation, and that removing that from happening all together has been most helpful for me. If it becomes a larger issue, and they start reaching out even after changing your phone number, blocking, and social media information, I would then call it harassment. Getting others involved in this situation would be necessary.
ignore
Possibly politely, this is a very unfriendly way. But it should be cut off early, there is no need to continue contact. For ex-boyfriends/girlfriends, many of us can't bear our hearts, and always have an illusion about our ex. In fact, the best way for us is to give up.
Another is to be a normal friend
This may be the best practice for some people. It is not impossible for an ex to become an ordinary friend. Just imagine, if your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend took the initiative to contact you, there must be something special. If there is nothing, people will not come to you. Be a good friend, help when you are in trouble, and chat when you have something.
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