Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?

315 Answers
Last Updated: 07/03/2022 at 5:47am
What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
Moderated by

Alex DS Ellis, MA, LMFT

Marriage & Family Therapist

Feeling depressed or anxious can be so overwhelming. I want to help you feel better and be able to enjoy life. You are not alone and you deserve emotional support.

Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
November 9th, 2016 1:34am
I ignore, but I know doing this can be hard for some people. Just remember they're trying to get to you. They want you to be sad. Try thinking of something happy to make you smile or laugh. It can leave the bully confused or flustered,
hollyliz35
April 15th, 2018 6:25am
Nasty names are tough, I would probably push it out of my head and then do some things to make myself feel better.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2016 2:29pm
Ignore them. Their words don't have any bearing on what kind of a person you are. Whatever they say, is purely an opinion that you can easily disregard. I understand that it does get hard to ignore after a while, but it all goes back to the age old saying. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 5:16pm
NEVER retaliate, ignore. ignore and walk away and pretend they do not exist, that's how i personally did it.
MxSkeleton
July 28th, 2018 5:00pm
No one enjoys being called nasty names, however whenever you experience bullying, or cyberbulling, or other similar scenarios, you will be called names and they can make you insecure. Situations like this can't be avoided, but understanding the drive behind their intentions to hurt you, and understanding that they are going to try and hurt you with words is how to negate and lessen the blow. You can't always guarantee what they say *won't* hurt, but you can understand why they are doing this (to be a bully, and to bring you down) and to understand that they want to pull you to their level of insecure or lower, because they, for whatever reason, feel like it's okay to do so. Just know that you are not the names they call you, and that you are the person to define who your character is. You may not be able to shake off what they said, but you CAN take a deep breath and cope with it to get over it, and work towards not listening to what they have to say. Just remember The bully's intention is to bring you down. Not be honest with you. You got this, and remember that you are the expert on you, and your situation. If you are experiencing any form of bullying, please reach out to someone, as you do not deserved to be harassed
TheCup5893
April 27th, 2018 9:02pm
Do not trust anyone elses judgement except for your own and your own peoples'. Please. You know you are a good person. What they've said reflects their unkindness, not your character. :)
Anonymous
March 15th, 2017 5:10am
Do something like listen to music or go for a walk to forget about your problems or just relax or speak to someone
empathicDreamer65
December 11th, 2015 1:24pm
Know that ALL behavior is communication. Yes, they are verbally communicating hurtful words, but it is really communicating that they have a void filled with insecurities within them, and that terrifies them. Lashing out at others and hurting them with words, as harmful and mean as they can be to the recipient, ends up being harder on the one who says the hurtful things. Knowing their hateful words are rooted in their own internal pain and have absolutely NOTHING to do with their target may open up the possibility to respond with compassion. Compassion for the misery they must endure that brings them to the point of cruelty in their effort to protect their own vulnerabilities. People make bad decisions when mad, sad, or stressed. Try loving them by seeing their words for what they are. A cry for help they may not even accept they need. Know you are beautiful and wonderful just as you are; their words reflect how they feel inside about themselves, and that is a sad dynamic for all.
happyhues
December 25th, 2015 7:35am
The best thing is not to retaliate. Let them tire themselves and show them that you are tougher than their words. Everything they say doesn't speak about you anyway, it reflects the kind of person they really are.
HungryAlpaca
August 5th, 2017 1:16am
The first thing I usually do is put space between myself and the person. Reminding myself that I don't need the person or their opinion in my life helps me feel a little less hurt by their words. I then usually try to validate myself by doing something that makes me feel proud or spending time with people that make me feel better about myself.
KurtCups711
August 8th, 2018 1:18pm
They are trying to tear you down to make themselves feel better. It's a sign of their own insecurity. Strong people don't have to step on others to have self confidence.
specialRiver83
August 9th, 2018 9:03am
Take it with a grain of salt because I person who would go to that extent to destroy another is a person with a lot of anger or insecurities of their own. If you can proudly admit to your faults and know you are not perfect then who cares what someone els thinks. Thou shall not judge
outgoingPlum171
December 25th, 2015 7:14pm
People will say rude, mean, nasty things towards you. Everyone gets them. Remember that people can say terrible things. Unbearable things about you. And they will have nothing to do with you. They will have nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves.
CherryBlossom360
October 6th, 2019 7:04pm
I would just block them out and do my best to Ignore them if I was in your situation. The more you react.... the worse it'll get---If you react then you are only going to make them want to continue doing what they are doing and acting in the way that they are acting towards you. If you are want then you could always try talking to them (in a calm manner) and telling them that their behavior is not ok and that you don't appreciate it. If it continues and if they continue to call you nasty names then you can either ignore it or get someone else involved.
BraveMelody87
August 22nd, 2018 1:13pm
When they are close with you, it's important to realize the way they treat you could be a reflection of their own view of themself. When they are simply a stranger or acquaintance, harmful words are used to illicit a desired response. Often, having the strength to understand that neither scenario is a reflection of the person you actually are as a whole leads to better managing your own reactions. Getting defensive, or feeling victimized are natural responses. However, as a human being, you have the power to decide how you finally respond. If separating yourself from an antagonistic person isn't an option, try replying with empathy: "It sounds like you're upset with me." Or reply with resolve, "That's simply not true."
OaklandHarleyCoffee
April 12th, 2017 1:03pm
The best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is really just to remember a few things. The first is that they most likely do not know you enough to call you that or to even say it meaningfully. The second thing to remember is that the things they are calling you are just words, as words can be said in different ways, but can still mean the same thing. Lastly, even though words are words it does not mean, at all, that feeling sad is wrong or that is is 'weak'. That's why listeners are here.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2017 11:49am
To just ignore it. It sounds cheesey and your parents probably tell you the same thing but ignoring the bully will make them mad and give you a sense of control. If the bully is being physical then it's time to maybe talk to an adult or teacher about it.
ellecbr
October 22nd, 2017 4:05am
My answer is a cliché one, you can just ignore them. It works well! But to be honest, it's not that easy. You can start off by thinking that their opinions on you don't really matter. You're you, and you don't need to care about someone else thinking you're fat, ugly, weird, or more. You don't need someone else's approval to love yourself.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 5:35am
Ignore them! if someone doesn't like you, thats not your problem, its theirs! People only call you names to make themselves feel superior
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 7:27pm
just think positive its the only way to go. then you just find nice things to say to yourself like: i am a good person i can do anything i want to and i can be anything i want to be.
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 11:15pm
You have probably heard "They're just jealous" before, but that might be exactly why they do that. Just remember you are fantastic and that person doesn't know what they're messing with!
elizabethunter
July 11th, 2018 5:58pm
Just ignore it.They are doing it because they are contstantly thinking about you which is different from you,you dont thin about them at all.If you ignore it there is a huge chance for them to stop.And also whatever they say you know the truth,that you are beautiful just the way you are!!!
Imheretohelpu12
July 13th, 2018 1:25pm
Remember that you can’t please everybody. We aren’t perfect and we can’t please everyone and that’s ok because we are all different. Stop remembering what someone said negatively about you and start remembering more often about the compliments that people who really care about you tell you. That’s what you should focus on, the people who love you and want to see at your best.
LittleButterfly
July 4th, 2018 5:45pm
It can be really tough to get over something like that. Words can cause so much damage. As hard as it may be, and what has helped me also, is to try to remind yourself that what others do and say has nothing to do with you. People who are negative to others often feel miserable with themselves or an aspect of their life. That in no way excuses their behaviour, but in saying that, people sometimes unfortunately try to bring others down to raise themselves above those individuals. But sometimes, people are just mean for no given reason. At the end of the day, what people say and do is only a reflection of who they are, not who you are.
OceanWaves23
December 11th, 2015 2:04pm
The best way to get over someone calling you a nasty name is to think of their motives, i would bet they are doing it to detract attention away from their own insecurities or to try try to make other people around them laugh, again if they need to do this then they are not confident in their own personality. You ARE better than them already, be strong, ignore them and rise above their level.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 9:51am
Realize that their anger has nothing to with you and everything to do with them internally and love yourself!!
Nansidrew
July 27th, 2018 6:09pm
Just know that what people say is a definition of who they are, not who you are. If people call you nasty names, it is because they think poorly of themselves. Furthermore, if people spread positivity, they are most likely happy, healthy individuals.
blissfulKiwi74
June 22nd, 2018 8:04pm
Ignore them because they are only doing that for attention and if you give them attention then they will get what they want and win. Most of the time, the people that call you nasty names do so because they feel bad about themselves and want someone to feel the same way.
HummingWisdom179
October 1st, 2016 5:50am
Filter those nasty names; an insult is a compliment wrapped in spikes. Don't fight fire with fire, though, as you don't know what they could be going through!
Sewyn
August 12th, 2018 11:15am
Take those insult and wear it like an shield, it won't bother you anymore if you know these ain't true, and most important, if they see they can't hurt you they'll get tired of it.