My mother hates me and I don't know why. What should I do?
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Anonymous
February 18th, 2016 6:14am
Mothers don't just hate their kids for no reason. Most moms don't hate their kids at all. Communication in key. Maybe something is bothering your mom that may not even be about you but about something she's going through. Talk to your mom and find out what the problem maybe and try and find a solution together
Find out the root of the problem. Communicate with the parent and express how you feel and why s/he feels that way. However, if they become overwhelmed with anger leave them be to calm down. If it gets to the point of physical struggle and feel as if you may be harmed call authorities so that you are able to get into a safe environment. In contrast, when talking calmly to a parent ask questions and try to get a full understanding of what is the root of the hatred. If and when the understanding is clear try to find a solution to the problem.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 4:38pm
No mother hates her own child. Talk to your mother. She is the one who brought you into this world. Maybe there are misunderstandings that can be worked upon.
Ask her about and try to obey her in what she tells. Avoid doing what she hates and always try to get closer to her when she is in a good mood.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 4:07pm
Do something nice for her, try to show your love by bringing roses or do something that makes her happy
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 7:16pm
I would sit down with her, one on one, and speak with her. Ask her up front that you feel she hates you and you want to know what happened or if it is true. At least you'll have answers to the question you're asking yourself.
It all depends on why she doesn't care for you. Your mother loves you no matter what. There will be a point in time when you had a big fight with your parents. Sooner then later it will all be over. Don't you worry :)
Jus show compassion towards her,dnt hate her if she hate you you should make her happy and dont do anything which she like
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 8:08pm
I would look out for friends to stay at, find comfort at. I hope you can find yourself in that.Take care
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 7:30pm
What do you think provokes your mother for this behaviour and under what circumstances you feel this attitude?
The first step is to talk to her. 9/10 problems can be solved just by communication. Remember to act calmly as anger can only worsen the situation.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2016 10:48pm
Talk to your mother, that is the best thing you can do. If you do not understand the resentment she has towards you, the best thing you can do is to just remove her from your life.
Sometimes, we feel like someone is hating us, but we can't be sure about their feelings if we don't ask them. I think that you should try to talk to your mom, ask her if you have done something that could have upset her. If it's the case, you'll be able to discuss it with her. If it's not the case, she'll tell you. Communication is the key. Good luck !
Try sitting down with your mother and discussing how you feel. Maybe your mom doesn't even realize how she may be acting towards you to make you feel that way.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 4:17am
If you don't know why it might not even be you she is mad at. Try to talk it over with her, keep an open mind and keep calm.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 5:02pm
Talk to her, one on one, I don't think she really hates you. Raising a teenager can be hard for any parent, you just need to try to figure out and solve the problem
Anonymous
February 28th, 2016 6:11am
Tell her it feels like she has a negative opinion of you and ask if that's accurate and ask what she's thinking
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 12:24pm
Find a time where you both are free and speak out your inner thoughts aloud,she will eventually tell you the reason.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 11:56am
Hi,
If i was in your position, maybe i will tall with my mother!
its possible (and common) that problems like this happened because of simple miss underestanding!
Sit down with her and open up to her about how're you are feeling. I'm sure she doesn't hate you. As a mother I know that when we go through something we hide it from our kids. Maybe something is going on in her life and she is being distant without even knowing it.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 12:11pm
Talk to your mother, in a sit down conversation and discuss your feelings and why you feel this way too
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 11:17pm
Your mother doesn't hate you. I promise you that. Talk to her and try to see what's going on. If you think there's a wall then be honest with her.
Talk to her about how you feel. They must be a reason on why you think she hates you. She might be going through a hard time. Talk to her.
Hello dear,
What makes you think that your mother hates you? Have you tried talking to her about it? :)
Anonymous
February 19th, 2016 5:28pm
Sometimes we think our parents don't like us because they are being unkind to us. In reality, they don't hate us, but are responding to some difficulty that is happening in their world. The best way to handle it is to ask, "Do you love me?" They might say, "Of course, why do you ask?" Then we can share how we felt about our most recent interaction. In return, we may find out what difficulties they are experiencing in their lives.
You should try to talk to her asking her why she holds these emotions towards you.If the situation is an abusive one you need to leave it.
How did you know that she hates you? There is a reason why she is like that to you. To find out why, there is nothing more effective than communication. Talk to her and tell her how you feel.
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