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If you are in a crowd and still feel empty, dont wanna contact with the others, plus you just listen to sad music, then you feel lonely.
If you feel isolated from people, like you have no friends or are feeling disconnected, you might be lonely. Also, just because you have friends and are surrounded by people doesn't mean you aren't lonely. It's up to you to decide how to interpret your feelings.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 4:55am
When I feel lonely, I ask myself, is there anyone online to talk to? Can I reach out to my mom? A trusted adult?
One of the ways to be sure of that is when when you're doing nothing, your mind drift off to negative thoughts while you're alone or with people.
Loneliness gives the mind more capacity to overthink and they're mostly negative thoughts. If you're free and your mind didn't do that, then you're not lonely, because at that time you might have alot to do in your day for example.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 9:15am
You are never alone. You have divine spirits that are with you at all times, Spirit guides, angels, the universe, and your higher self. You must unlock it.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2017 12:29am
If you feel like you feel this a lot , if you used to feel that once a week then it you feel rhat everyday the it’s a sign that you are feeling lonely
You don't have to be alone to feel lonely. Loneliness can happen to anyone. Sometimes we feel lonely or isolated even in a crowd of people, if we don't feel needed or appreciated. Sometimes spending a large amount of time by yourself can make you lonely, although some alone-time is a good thing.
You might be craving the company of others, and feel sad or unsure of what to do when there is nobody around.
Being lonely is a feeling. If you think you feel that way know that it is normal to feel lonely, but remember that you are not alone.
I would say if you look at other people beeing together and you think " They are stupid" or "I wish I could have this". Or if you have a general feeling of not beeing able to talk with anybody or not relying on anyone. Sometimes, times are necessary when we are alone. However, feeling lonely is different. Just remember that everybody feels lonely at some point of their live, so basically were all together in this feeling.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2018 6:32pm
if you start yearning for anyone elses company and literally anyone will do but not be able to do anything about it
Feeling lonely is a natural thing.. it happens to majority of us. One way to knowing, is a feel of helplessness. The feel of abandonment, no one is there. There comes a need of a want, whether its social interactions or just simply being around others. You can think to yourself if either those situations would help in the case of your loneliness. Some individuals are surrounded all the time and feel lonely. It is just a simple thing that makes every being unique, looking for the "right company" or someone to get along with.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 5:45am
You're lonely if you feel lonely. Simple as that. No sense overthinking it. Maybe you're surrounded by people but still feel lonely. Then you're lonely. Maybe you spend a lot of time alone, but you don't feel lonely. Then you're not lonely.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 7:00am
The best way to be sure you’re lonely is to write down all the times you feel this way in a day then at then end of day look at what you logged.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2018 6:42pm
If you look around and see others having fun and wishing that was you that’s a sign of feeling lonely
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 3:15pm
Loneliness is completely separate from being alone; enjoying one's company and the solitude. If you're feeling that you're missing social interaction or even human contact, then you are probably lonely. Think to yourself: (anxieties and worries put aside) do you want your situation to change? Do you feel that you're missing out
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 3:39pm
Well, the definition of being lonely is being without friends or company. But being lonely obviously means something different for everyone - just because you do not fit this definition does not mean you aren't lonely.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 2:38pm
The meaning of loneliness can vary to each person. Generally, loneliness means that feeling sad/depressed because of not having any company. You can try to figure what a real company personally means to you.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 7:08pm
You have a feeling of obligation to make connections, but look desperate doing so. Feeling long periods in which you don't feel like you have any support, or anybody that can help you through.
Normally an obvious answer would be you have no friend to talk to. That's not for sure your lonely though. You are lonely when no one has your back when you in trouble or in need of assistants. You are lonely when you have nobody to tell all your feelings. Sure you can talk to a therapist or even tell a random stranger. Guess what though they not even care about you. They won't remember what you said minutes after you're gone. You are lonely when no one sees your ideas the same way you do because they are not with. That there is my opinion on being truly alone. I know I may have not covered all that there is to loneliness but you gotta start thinking what you think loneliness is.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 5:23pm
When you're surrounded by people but still feel you are alone. In this case you can say that you are lonely.
One feeling that is typically characterized by loneliness is a sense of emptiness, or feeling as if something is missing, whether someone or something is missing from your life or not.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 4:55am
Do you feel that the quality of your relationships (family, friends, acquaintances) is lacking or could be way better?
If you said yes to that, the answer is probably yes, you are probably lonely.
If you do not have many close friends and are not close with your family members, you may be considered lonely.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2018 3:48pm
I would know I'm lonely if I feel like I have no one who care about me and no one to talk to. If I feel like I have no one to share things with when I'm happy or sad I would feel alone
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 3:50am
if you have no one around you, but you should have people be with you to make you not lonely. People who care about you and love you.
I don't think there's any "being sure". If you've had to even ask yourself this question, you probably are. And that's okay. I've dealt with this problem before and I still do. I searched everywhere for friends and no one really wanted me around or to keep a conversation with me. I put myself out there but it wasn't enough. I got a job, moved, changed areas. Iit took me about 8 months but I'm finally surrounded by friends. Not many, about 3 or 4, but it's way better than none. Don't stop trying. Never give up. Someone somewhere is also needing a friend. You just need to find them.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 12:37am
if the feeling ensues nonstop... but we are never truly alone. strike up a conversation with an old friend and talk for a while- or message a bunch of people all at once. it usually works for me :)
Y'know, you can feel loneliness without actually being lonely. If you are feeling loneliness then those feelings are completely valid - but loneliness doesn't mean you don't have anyone to talk to, where as lonely does. So if you are experiencing loneliness then recognise that you have people around you to talk to who maybe feel like that too sometimes, and so you talking to them (ABOUT ANYTHING) will probably help them too. And if you're lonely, then I encourage you to push yourself to explore new interactions and ways of getting to know people, for your own good, and for theirs too 'cause they'll get to meet you!
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 7:10pm
Whenever in a crowd you are unable to express your feelings to someone means you are lonely when you can't talk to anyone you are lonely
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