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Jobs, tasks, assignments come in varied forms and with Supervisors or Bosses who have a redetermined mindset which , one has to deal with, in addition to completing the given task, efficiently and effectively. So one has to deal with the both - task and the task matter, with a very composed mind. I have seen in my own career, that even if i take my focus on either of this, the consequences can be tough to handle later on. So this seldom leads to hatefull attitude towards the job itself. If one carefully observes, the beauty lies in the accomplishing the task and the beast in the task master. There were times, when one is upset with the job and leaves for another job, more than ever, one finds again in a similar situation. So its best to deal with the current level of job, as efficiently as possible , and if the situation doesn't improve at the workplace, it is best to move over to another one and be prepared to face the new task and the task master with a smile of the face.
I believe that if you aren’t enjoying your job then you are more likely to under perform and not complete tasks to your full capability, it can also have an effect on your mental health and no job is worth that. However I also understand that everyone needs to earn a steady income and love a life. If you’re in a position to look for another job then I would do so.
Finding a job that gives you a balance of pleasure and financial stability is always a bonus, I would say if you can let you boss know that you’re not enjoying your job, that may help? What could be the reasons for disliking your job? Can things be changed to help you enjoy your job more?
This is a tricky question. Many people are trapped in jobs they hate for many different reasons. Some are trapped in a job they hate because they need the income that it provides and can't manage without that income. Others find themselves in jobs they hate because they are living someone else's (often a parent's) dream for them. Such as being a dentist because it's a family tradition, despite having no desire or possibly aptitude for it. Others still end up in a job they hate because it's the only one they can find, either due to economic conditions or because they lack the qualifications for anything better or more interesting.
You also need to work out why you hate your job and see if there are things that you could do to change the way you feel about it. Could you find a different role within the company? Could you arrange to work from home a few days a week to take you out of the pressure cooker if the job stresses yo too much? Do you have issues with your bosses that could be resolved?
Ultimately, staying at a job you hate will start to have a negative affect on you and your health, so you either need to find one you like or resolve the issues you have with the one you have.
However, before leaving said job, it is important to have a solid plan that allows your bills to be paid, so that you are not putting yourself in an even more difficult predicament. Before leaving the job, have an exit plan such as savings for months that you would be unemployed, or get hired somewhere else first. Also, maybe think about why you hate that job in the first place. If what you hate about the job is something that could be fixed, that could also be your first option. Ultimately, being unhappy in a job where you spend 5/7 of your days is not worth it.
If you hate your job, why would you want to stay there? I know everyone has their own reasons for staying with a job that they dislike, and those are valid. But I absolutely believe that you should have a job you enjoy doing. Though, I would not leave your current job unless you have been hired for a new one. Staying with a job that you hate could potentially burn you out from working in general; it can lower your quality of life. This may cause you not to feel motivated enough to go to work, hurting your reputation. Your job may drain your energy overtime as well. Focus on what it is about your job that you hate so much and see if that problem can be solved without leaving. Sometimes, we are not given the opportunity to switch jobs, or it may take a very long time to find another one. If this is the case, find ways to make your job more enjoyable. Are you directly working with toxic people? Is your job too stressful or overwhelming? Maybe try talking to your manager if you believe that may help resolve something. Overall, staying at a job that you hate can give you a negative impact in the workforce and lower your quality of life; therefore, it may be best to find one that you enjoy if the issues cannot be resolved.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2019 4:30pm
Well from personal experience I would say yes and no, one should weigh the good and the bad before taking a decision. I have been in this situation and decided to leave immediately but the freedom of stress was weighed down by the fact that I had left my colleagues and friends with wich I had worked for years side by side, plus there is also the stress with getting another job. I would advise finding another job that suits one best and when things can continue steadily than resign, is better to suffer a little loss than to lose a big part of a winning war
Anonymous
December 29th, 2019 1:12pm
I don't think I'd stay for a long. If I can't feel I'm happy at work then I'd consider finding a new job, working remote or start my own business.
Feeling happy and feeling that I'm contributing towards the workplace is paramount importance to me. When I'm happy I perform better. I'm i hate the job then eventually my productivity and performance will decrease and I surely wont feel good taking a salary when I'm not at my best. Also, I don't want to let people down either.
All in all, happiness is really important in life for me, so I'd make sure its a priority when it comes to work too.
There are many different situations you will face in life where the money from your job may seem like all that matters, but you should not stay at a job that you hate. There are obviously many factors that a part of this question that one must consider. Are you supporting loved ones with the money you receive from the job you dislike? Will you lose your shelter? Will you be able to purchase food? Are you supporting your child(ren)? Perhaps you could temporarily stay at this job and search for a new job. If you are unable to just up and drop this job it is important to find a new way of supporting yourself and others before making this leap. You could reach out to others and ask for help in this search as well. Ultimately you should not stay at a job you hate. Staying somewhere that does not make you happy will lead to long time problems and even clinical depression. A place that job hate is a toxic environment and damaging to the mind. If you do choose to leave your job, just make sure you have a plan and have thought it over thoroughly before doing so.
You should never do anything that makes you unhappy. But! Weigh the pros & cons. Do you really hate your job or aspects of it. Do you have another position lined up? Are you financially able to handle the burden or sacrifices of leaving a job before getting a new one? When you bare in mind all these factors and still decide-- this isn't for me, make sure your next destination is close to what you imagine in an ideal situation. While not every job is a dream job there are things that make work less draining. Like a positive environment free of toxic drama. Or decent lunch breaks where you have time to go for a walk. Or good benefits like insurance and PTO. Otherwise you may be asking this question again
Hey; what's better than what you have in front of you, you ask? Lets think an ask a few questions before we come up with wild thoughts okay? But where are my manners; i forgot to introduce myself, I'm frostwire. Welcome to 7 Cups. i will be helping you with your question today. So, about those questions; where do we begin? I have an idea; what is this J-O-B? meaning: what field of work is it and what are some of the other jobs that relate to it? When did i start hating where i work? Is this thing that makes me offset and temper-mental on the inside something i can change if given time? If i left this JOB; what other job options do i have?
Have i applied myself to be able to switch from one job to the next? Is this other job able to cover bills on a reoccurring basis? these questions are base reality question that can help decide what one can do to help them in or out of a tough position that they dislike.
I'm Frostwire; and this is 7 Cups, thanks for reaching out to your friendly and supporting listener zone.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2020 2:17am
I know this situation far too well. I've worked at my workplace too long and am stagnant - not learning anything new, or growing in any way whatsoever. The social environment between a lot of my coworkers is toxic as well. However, I have to stay because of the money. That being said, I was able to reduce my shifts and can say that less contact with that place has done me wonders. In my opinion, if you can afford to leave your job and find another one relatively quickly, I would do it. It is not worth the damage to your mental health that comes with showing up to a place you dread. If it feels like you are unable to leave your job, look for other options just in case - maybe you're missing another opportunity. I'm working on changing my situation and giving myself alternatives right now. You can do it too!
1.Do you have any other alternative opportunity or option to take up if you let go of the job?
2.Why do you hate your job? 'if' it pays good, are there things that you could change a bit and you would be okay with the job without changing it?
3. Do you need the job or are you doing it out of any other reason? If you need it, will you be able to easily get another job with a good payment option to fulfil your needs and requirements?
Just some questions you should consider. Doing a job you hate must have multiple reasons, I would suggest you decide what your priorities are regarding taking up the job and doing it for as long as you have done it. and if you have options and better arrangements to do you can definitely leave the job. But remember if it is about starting a new thing or something it will require time and efforts and if you are sure yo can give that then surely you can go for it.
hope this was helpful.
Until you find a better job, yes. As soon as you find another job, bid the horrific one goodbye and start your new adventure. Leaving a job without having one lined up is setting yourself up for depression and anxiety as you receive all the rejections that usually go along with searching for a new job.
Definitely look for a new one though, because it isn't worth being miserable. You owe it to yourself, your coworkers, your family, and even the people you currently work for to move on. When you do find the job that you love doing, you will probably look back and see why that former job you hated was needed to get you where you are.
There's no reason in the world not to look around! Polish up a resume, search online, consider all options. Would you move for a job? Is the benefit of a change greater than a fear of taking that leap? Even if you don't find the job that you want in your area, or you don't find the salary you need to justify that change, you'll know where you stand, and you'll know that the job you're doing is the best option or best-paying "for right now," and nothing stops you from looking around at the options again a month later.
It's probably not the best option to stay in a job you hate as this can lead to other complications such as stress anxiety and depression (speaking from experience) your quality of life will deminsh and so will your self esteem. Lets face it there's hardly a job out there that gives 100% satisfaction but it doesn't stop you from looking elsewhere to better yourself either monetary wise or health wise if you drop lucky you get both! The best thing to do is continue to work there whilst you press on looking for your next move and just imagine the day you hand in your resignation on move on!
Staying in a job you hate is the beginning of the end. Ultimately, you spend too much time in the work place to not enjoy your chosen profession. Not enjoying your work can lead to you not caring about what you are doing, taking leave days unnecessarily and being resentful to your coworkers and your superiors. Being honest with yourself and knowing what you want to do or be in your working life is so important as there are a lot of working years ahead of you. If you are unhappy there are options to either change jobs or do some training in what you are really interested in.
It depends! I think people are quick to say "quit your job if you hate it" but sometimes there are other factors to consider. For example, I wouldn't recommend quitting without another job lined up because not knowing where your next paycheck will come from can be seriously stressful if you have financial responsibility. At the same time, if you are being treated badly or abused, that's a completely different story. In most cases, the best approach is to quietly look for a new job while continuing to work your current job. It can take some time to make progress on this but it's the safest route. Be careful not to let your current employers know that you're looking for something else as it can make things worse at work. Ultimately if you're unhappy at work, it's the place you spend the most time, so if there's something you can do to improve things for yourself, it's worthwhile.
Ideally, not. But sometimes the answer is not that easy. If you are struggling financially or other people depend on your income a more measure approach may be needed. First, try to identify why you hate it and see if there's anything on your possibilities to change it. Second, evaluate if this is a temporary hate or is truly something that won't be gone, sometimes some holidays or a switch in the routine helps. Now, as for the change, it could be worth evaluating if there's a possible movement within the company to another department that does not have what you hate. Or if it is about the whole company, you may want to lock down a job somewhere else before quitting. Lastly, if you really hate it and your true purpose is somewhere else something different is implied. If you know that purpose, then it may be a question of how to get there. If you don't have one, well, it may be time to start exploring other worlds. At the end, don't stick to a job you hate unless it is for survival, but remember that no work is a paradise and you'll have to deal with something on each one.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2020 3:38pm
I think you should not stay at the job you hate, because that’s not you. You shouldn’t do something you don’t like. Also, if you really need the money stick with it, but also try and look for a new job. A new job, a job that you like, will make you happier. It will make your day better. Don’t stick with a job you hate. Life is about living and being positive. I don’t think I could do that with a job I hate. So a new fun, like able job would be what I would do, to brighten my future.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2020 8:15pm
I would find a job you are content with while working at your old job. This will secure you in still having a job while working at the one you hate. Just make sure the job you find pays greater or equal than to your last job. If you find finding another job that is difficult, maybe ask yourself why do you hate your job? And find ways to make it a better place to work. Listen to your coworkers, find similarities rather than differences. You might find things out that may catch your interests and build new friendships.
It's a difficult one, isn't it? I had a job I didn't particularly love or hate but I knew I wanted something else. So I started that something else as I was still working and used the work that I hated/disliked as motivation... it allowed me to dig deeper than I would've before. Using that almost anger constructively and using it to pull me towards what I really want. It will be a constant reminder of why you are working towards something else. At least that how it was for me. Look into things that may interest you and see if you can learn them as you do your job then pivot. I would say :) Hope this helps!
Anonymous
June 17th, 2020 1:06pm
It sounds to me like your puzzle over this. I would never advise anyone to be part of something they absolutely hate or feel uncomfortable with, but you know yourself best and only you can give yourself the answer your seeking for. Some very good questions to ask yourself is why your still working a job you hate and do those reasons still hold value? If so how can we make you hate your job less or how can you make yourself feel more at ease while working there or how can you make yourself feel safe?
I would say first of all ask yourself why you are still in this job. There could be good reason, it is not always easy to find a new job, or one where the hours or pay suit your needs. There will be other jobs out there for you though. It is really tough to do a job you don't like, I have been there myself. I would suggest thinking of and perhaps writing down the pros and cons of staying in your current job. Work out what you want from a job and what job that would be, or what environment if it is more the people / setting that you don't like. This should give you some options of what you do want - that job will be out there, it just requires some work to get there. It will be worth it, you will be a lot happier if you go for it.
It’s always difficult when working at a job you hate. It can be really stressful and you have to do what’s best for you in these situations. Will the benefits of staying outweigh the drawbacks of leaving? These are some questions to consider. I think it comes down to what works best for you and what will be better for your mental health in the long run. You may grow to love your job or find it easier to leave and get a new one. It’s up to what you think will be easiest and suit your needs best.
Do you dread waking up and going to work? Do you feel like you are working to your full potential at this job? Can you see yourself there for any longer? If you answer these questions as "no", it would not hurt to look for another job while continuing to work there. Many people look on the job market to see if there are any positions opening up so they have a cushion in case they decide to leave their current job. It is a difficult decision to make, one that you have to ultimately choose on your own. I wish you the best of luck!
Anonymous
July 12th, 2020 7:58pm
This needs to be considered in many ways. If the job pays a lot of money and you don't spend a lot of time on it every day. I think I can keep your current job because the money can support you to do other things you like. Try changing locations or companies to see if the work environment or company culture is making you feel uncomfortable. If you don't like your job, it is tiring, takes up most of your time and the salary is not ideal, it is recommended to change jobs. Happy is doing what you like, happy is making a lot of money, depending on which side you need more to meet your needs.
think about how you would feel at that job in the next 5 years. explore your options and recognize why you hate that job and if you can change that mindset. while exploring options figure out whether you would be happier at another job rather than your current one! take the time to reflect on all the major parts of this decision. but don't frustrate yourself! also, how would you feel leaving that job, satisfied? put it into multiple perspectives on how you would feel at another job versus how you feel at the current one. do what's best for you.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2020 4:47pm
There are many pros and cons in regards to staying at a job you don't like. I think it's important to assess what you don't like about your job and acknowledge the pros and cons of staying vs. leaving(maybe write them down on a piece of paper/whiteboard). This could help you come to a better understanding. Some things to consider are how this would affect your financial situation. If you quit, do you have enough money to support yourself while you find a new job? Also, if you choose to quit, it is very important to leave on good terms so that your future endeavors are not hindered.
However, your happiness is the most important. Staying at a job that you don't like can make you feel sluggish and dreadful. While there are certainly things to consider when quitting, like the stuff I mentioned previously, I believe it's important to prioritize your overall well-being. Enriching your life with things you enjoy makes things a whole lot easier.
Ask yourself this: "Is it worth the money to stay at this job and deal with the physical/emotional/mental drainage?" If you find yourself saying "no", then I'd say leave. If you need the money and are able to deal with the job physically/mentally/emotionally, I'd say to find a way to stick it through while job hunting whenever you get the chance so that you have opportunities lined up.
I would first ask myself why I hate my job.
I would make a list of things that I dislike about it. And at the end of it another list of things I like about my job.
A job is not just a series of tasks you are paid for.
First try to make a list of different factors making your job "a job" such as:
the tasks you have to accomplish;
the general work environment;+
you own workspace;
your workmates you have to share some or all your task with;
the workmates that you are in contact with on a daily basis for reasons unrelated to your specific job;
the workmates that you aren't in contact with on a daily basis you meet occasionally;
the people who have some power over you like your direct boss and so on;
the means of transportation you use to get to work;
the working shifts, from what time you must go to work until when you have to leave.
Make a list of everything is related to your job and try to find the needle in the haystack.
Perhaps you believe there's only a specific reason why you dislike your job but through this list, you could also find reasons are others.
No. Being unsatisfied with your job can be bad for your mental health and relationships. Ideally, try and get into a job that you would actually enjoy and find meaningful, or at least a job you would not hate. You may need to upskill yourself by taking courses to become qualified for the job you want first. Do not quit your job until you successfully landed a job that you would enjoy. But if you have absolutely no other choice, then I am inclined to say yes, because you need a way to support yourself financially. I hope you find a better job soon.
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