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Number of ratings561 Number of reviews262 Listens toTeens & Over 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceJul 4, 2017 Last activein last week PathStep 2,449 People helped786 Chats4,425 Group support chats4,888 Listener group chats3,458 Forum posts11,400 Forum upvotes33,548
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"You are always one decision away from a totally different life."

Hello everyone, I'm known as Obs and I'm one of the members of the Community Management Team. 

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Do not say, "I am having a bad day." Say, "I am having a character-building day." - Les Brown

Have a wonderful day and thanks for stopping by!!
Recent forum posts
Be There for Them: Supporting Mental Health
General Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 20 hours ago
...See more Hello community, I hope you are all taking it easy on yourself. As we celebrate Mental Health Awareness Month [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/MentalHealthSupportAwareness_1600/MentalHealthAwarenessMonth2024ForumDiscussionsMaserpost_328898/], today I want to discuss supporting your loved ones.  You may all relate that seeing someone you care about battle mental health challenges can be heartbreaking. You want to help, but you might not know where to start, or what different you can do. Here are a few steps we can take to be a strong support system for them:  * Simply start a conversation and let your loved one know you're there for them. Phrases like "I'm worried about you" or "Is there anything I can do to help?" open the door. * Then, try to listen actively. That means being fully present, validating their feelings, and avoiding judgment. * Also, ensure respect for boundaries. Let them guide the conversation and share what they're comfortable with. Boundaries are applied on both sides and ensure to set your own boundaries as well. It is okay to say no if you cannot handle something.  * Other than that try to educate yourself. Learn about their specific condition because increased understanding fosters empathy and better support. * Encourage and practice self-care.  * Seek your own support and talk to friends, family, or a therapist. Taking care of yourself allows you to better care for others. * And, focus on what you can control: Their recovery is their journey, but your love and support can make a big difference.  All small steps count and can make a difference in their lives as well as promote awareness for mental health. And please know we are all here with you to listen to and support you. You matter and your voice matters.  I am sending this to you:  "I am proud of you. I am proud of you for reaching out and joining us here. I am proud of all you have been able to do and for taking all small steps.  For choosing to get back up with courage, and trying to find a path.  I am proud of you for staying kind and caring for others.  I am proud of the person you are.  You are doing so much better than you know.  I am proud of you and I believe in you." Tag and share this with someone you know and let's support and empower each other. T h a n k  Y o u!! 
Would You Rather: The Trust Chain
Icebreakers and Games / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello everyone,  let's get this game flowing. This is a Would You Rather? Chain Reaction game. Here's how it plays: Here is how it goes: * The first participant starts the chain by posting a "Would You Rather?" question-related to trust. * Example: Would you rather always know the truth from a friend, even if it hurts, or be happy in blissful ignorance? * The next participant replies by choosing between the two options in the previous question and explaining their reasoning. Then, they ask a new "Would You Rather?" question with a trust theme. * We keep the chain going, each participant responding to the previous question and adding their twist! Let's get started and see where this trust chain takes us. Please remember there are no wrong answers, so be honest and have fun. Let's see how long we can create this chain.
Mental Health Awareness Month: Compassion matters
General Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Hello all,  Compassion is a word tossed around a lot, but what does it mean? In simpler words, compassion is about understanding the suffering of another person, feeling empathy for their situation, and reminding them that they aren’t alone. In a society that seems to feel harsh and divided, compassion acts as a bridge. It helps to connect with others on a deeper level, fostering stronger & healthier relationships and building a more supportive environment to reach out and get support. Compassion has a profound impact on our mental and emotional well-being. When you practice compassion towards others, you cultivate a sense of interconnectedness and belonging. It helps to boost our self-esteem and reduce feelings of being alone. Those who practice compassion towards others are more likely to experience lower levels of stress and anxiety and better well-being.  How can you practice compassion? Compassion is a skill that we can all develop. Here are some steps to get us started: * Practice active listening: Pay close attention to what others are saying, both verbally and nonverbally. * Consider different perspectives: Try to see things from another person's point of view. * Offer support what you can: Even small gestures of kindness can make a big difference. * Forgive yourself and others: Holding onto negativity hinders compassion. * Start small: Show compassion to yourself and those around you every day. What are your thoughts on compassion? Share your experiences and thoughts below.
Let's talk about smashing the barriers to mental wellness
General Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Mental health is an essential part of overall well-being, just like physical health. Still, the stigma surrounding mental health can often prevent people from reaching out and getting support. This discussion is your chance to open up the conversation and explore ways to break down these barriers with us.  Even though we made significant progress in raising awareness and promoting acceptance. At present times, the issue of mental health stigma continues to persist. There is still a long way to go in eradicating the stereotypes and discrimination related to mental health.  Some of the key contributors to mental health stigmas and discrimination are:  * Lack of understanding and education surrounding mental health challenges. Many people still hold misconceptions and beliefs that perpetuate negative attitudes towards those struggling. * The media plays a significant role in perpetuating mental health stigma by sensationalizing and misrepresenting them.  * Also, reluctance of individuals to seek help due to the fear of being judged or discriminated against.  Mental health stigma remains a significant barrier to mental wellness and recovery for many individuals. So this discussion aims to: * Unpack the stereotypes and misconceptions that fuel stigma around mental health. * Share personal stories (if comfortable) to break down the isolation many face. * Explore the impact of stigma on individuals, families, and communities. Here are some questions to get us started: * Have you ever experienced stigma related to mental health, either personally or witnessing it towards others? * What are some of the biggest stereotypes you've encountered? * How can we create a more supportive environment where everyone feels comfortable talking about mental health? Let’s get together and create a shift to promote better mental health and well-being.
Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
35 & Over Community / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 May 3rd
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
Group Support- Ask me Anything
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello everyone,  I am opening the floor for an AMA (Ask Me Anything) on Group Support Chats [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php]. Whether you are curious about joining a group chat for the first time, want tips for getting the most out of your experience, or have questions about navigating group dynamics, we will be here to answer them.  Here are some common things I can help you with: * The benefits of group support chats * Finding the right group chat for you * How to prepare for your first participation * Tips for getting the most out of your group support experience * What to do if you're feeling hesitant or nervous * Or, anything and everything in between You can also check Group Support FAQs [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/FrequentlyAskedQuestionsGroupSupport_215692/]for some common questions and answers from the community.  Share your questions with us. No question is too big or too small. Let's open up the conversation and explore the power of group support together. I believe group support can be a powerful tool for healing, support, and connection if used mindfully. Let's break down any barriers and use group support chats. Also if you have any personal experiences with group support (positive or negative) that you'd like to share please do share with us.  Explore Group Chats here!  [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php]
Work Prompt #17: Have you ever experienced burnout?
Work & Career / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Welcome back all, I hope you are all taking it easy on yourself at work this week. Last week we discussed: Do you struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/career/General_2503/WorkPrompt17Doyoustrugglewithselfdoubtandnegativeselftalk_327469/]   [https://www.7cups.com/forum/career/General_2503/WorkPrompt14Haveyoueverfacedadifficultdecisionatwork_325320/]Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts for discussion. I enjoyed them. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/career/General_2503/WorkPrompt17Doyoustrugglewithselfdoubtandnegativeselftalk_327469/] It is something that many people can relate to, yet it's often shrouded in silence and stigma. Burnout can manifest in various forms and impact individuals in different ways. This week's prompt: Have you ever experienced burnout?  The feeling of burnout is like being trapped in a cycle of exhaustion, frustration, and disillusionment. It's a state where your mind and body feel drained, and your motivation and passion dwindle. I am looking forward to discussing it and sharing experiences to support each other in this journey towards emotional well-being. Let's use this space to discuss and share our struggles and challenges to support each other better on this front.  Also, I invite all to help me with creating these weekly prompt discussions so that we all can come together and discuss something related to work and career every week. If you any interested in helping me out, please share your interest through this form and  I will reach out to you to guide and support you in creating the next discussion.  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefjDBwy85YFxWpfrqrdXbdMORBC-pvJA4xhd10R9lMq66fIw/viewform] ------------------------- Join the Work&Career Group Chat every Wednesday & Thursday!  [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=l2prdHyUk5ydlLBqXYmVyg!!]
Weekly Prompt #37: What did bring you to 7Cups Community?
General Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Hello all!  Last week we discussed: Can you list five things you love about yourself? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt36Canyoulistfivethingsyouloveaboutyourself_327468/]  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt30Ifyoucanchallengeyourselfforonethingtostepoutsideyourcomfortzone_321887/]If you haven't checked yet, please click here to add your thoughts.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt36Canyoulistfivethingsyouloveaboutyourself_327468/] This week's prompt-  What did bring you to the 7Cups Community? How did 7Cups shape your experiences so far?  Today, I want us to reflect on how we joined 7Cups and how our experiences evolved here. I look forward to listening and discussing all thoughts, and experiences with you.  Also, I invite all to help me with creating these weekly prompt discussions so that we all can come together and discuss something related to general support every week. If you any interested in helping me out, please share your interest through this form and  I will reach out to you to guide and support you in creating the next discussion.  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefjDBwy85YFxWpfrqrdXbdMORBC-pvJA4xhd10R9lMq66fIw/viewform] Join us in the 24/7 General Support Group Chat to share and support each other. -------------------------
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Feedback & Reviews
Very kind and understanding, and fun to talk to
really observant and kind : ) obs is a great listener 100% recommend
this listener was emphatic loved chatting with obs would love to chat again.
Really well done on all accounts!
Obs is great
coolest coolest helpful person who knows how to take feedback and make a real difference on 7 cups
Obs has been tremendous support for me , always. I appreciate his presence in cups for responding promptly and doing what he can to be supportive of both listeners and members in 7 cups. Ive known him since around past 6 years and its always a pressure to see him in the rooms, the way he responds to people and his dicussions. It all shows his care and passion.
Really kind and helpful
really good listener!
Obs is always ready to help with questions and is very knowledgeable. It is a pleasure to have Obs here.
Best listener ever!
Helpful and open to understand
Very kind caring and supportive
incredible, good at time mangement
A very nice person. They try there best as Group Support Manager here at 7cups.
Very supportive. Very caring. Very understanding. Takes the time to listen to feedback from other Community Leaders. Very Professional. A very wise person.
ASlientObserver is a warm, caring person. They love being in group support. They are a good leader. They try there best to set a good example. They are good group support manager.
Always support and positive Sent information that is important to me to assistance me and also enhance my journey and support my chosen path.
amazinggggggggg
Obs is so patient, understanding, kind which makes them an amazing listener.
Obs is So helpful
We patient explaining answers to my questions.
Obs is such an amazing person, and I appreciate all of the contributions they have made to this wonderful community. Keep up the amazing work, and never change! ❤️❤️
An empathetic mind!
This person is very genuine and caring and honest. It was a shear pleasure interacting with them. I highly recommend them as someone to talk too and you should feel much much better afterwards. Definitely a pillar of this 7 cups community indeed. 10/10 service.
Obs is so nice and very patient. He is one of the best listeners there is, and I would give him a million stars if I could.
A wonderful person who goes the extra mile to make this a platform that is user friendly . They were patient responsive and very helpful.
He understands me. He just did thank you a thousand times
He's just the best
Really helpful and motivational
The best hands down so understanding and caring
He is a very nice person, he is willing to go extra mile just to help. He is deserves a million dollars tbh😂
Very good communicator and answers automatically when gets a chance, nice friendly too..
Obs is always pleasant and enjoyable to chat with, even in minor interactions. :)
A great listener who helped sort my emotions and lended a listening ear to my problems when no one was there to listen to them
He was very attentive, loyal, kind, Supportive and Empathetic Listener. Thanks you so much ASilentObserver 🥰♥️
Very attentive and considerate person, thank you for your help
great listener helpful
Very kind and understanding i loved talking to obs I highly recommend talking to obs if you need a helping hand
Very kind person. Encourages me a lot.
ASilentObserver was very kind and open to hearing my concerns. Also, very quick to respond and seemed forthright.
They helped me a lot just by listening, it was great talking to them.
Good he is very helpful
Hard worker. Amazing person.
thank you. You're wonderful
Hard working person for cups. Appreciate all that he does for us
Great person. Very Kind and very helpful.
Responds quickly and gets to the point.
Great Listener.
Super helpful, thanks so much
Always doing a great job. Very observant! ;)
Good hope we can continue
Great chat. I feel valued as a member.
*huggles* thank you soo much
They are very soothing.
Amazing listener! Thank you for taking the time to listen to my concerns and worries, and give real thought out answers which helped me realize things. It made me feel really listened to 💛
very patient listener
I was lucky to talk to him. He is knowledgeable on many topic and he understood me very well in short time. Gave me nice suggestion when asked. It was worth talking to him. Compassionate.. Empathy and have patient and easy to talk. definitely can be recommend to other. God bless you and you be happy always.
Great listener! Provided very helpful thoughts.
Helped me deal with the problem which was bugging me from a long time
I loved the chat.. it was what you might call refreshing... 😄
OBS is so caring
Really great listener
Very thoughtful in responses, really gives you a sense that they care and genuinely want to help
Really helped to talk things through
very helpful, caring and understanding
Such a warm heart!🤗
Amazing Listener as always :) Makes me feel a lot better after our conversation :)
One of the best listeners I have ever met. Responds and is there whenever I needed him. Makes me feel a lot better!:)
He was very nice and understanding to me, and helped me talk through my anxiety. I had a good time talking with him.
very kind and amazing listener
I am so thankful for the help and useful tips that I get,great advice!
I find the support valuable and appreciate the advice
Really useful communucation,friendly,helpful advice
Thank you.
Great Listener:) empathizes with you and understands. Feel a lot better after our conversation :)
Thank you very much. Thanks for helping with Bipolar awareness / relationships -- very important topic.
I found some great support from @ASilentObserver and a genuine,caring attitude.I much appreciate his help!
An amazing and caring person. They helped me through a really rough time.
amazing person genuinely kind and caring always responsive really helped me in my time of need thank you so much
Very caring and helpful
Silent is awesome, as always. Great listener, always there when I need to talk to someone and provides a compassionate ear to my seemingly minuscule problems.
Awesome!!! Love Obs!
Super understanding and sweet, thank you!
Always help and has insightful inputs
Had a fruitful and enlightening session helped me see things clearer and understand better where I was lagging
great
Understanding, smart, attentive, interactive, caring.
Obs is extremely helpful, understanding, and caring. I felt like I wasn't being judged, so thank you so much for your advice and I'll be coming again when I need more help!
Very helpful and understanding. She will lsten to what ever u have to say and try to help u sort out ur thoughts and help u with what's going on I highly recommend her
Thanks for your time
You're Kind. Thanks
amazing
awesome as always and very helpful
Thank you silentObs. You have been really helpful.
Obs is such a lovely heart to chat with. Always having the nicest words to make a day go better. It's a sweet heart and caring person I every way.
Our conversation was awesome! Thank you @ASilentListener
They helped and I appreciate that, I felt better after talking with them for a bit.
I did like how compassionate it seems to be.
He is very patient. Listened to my problems without judgment. Tried to cheer me up when I was at my worse. Thanks for being my listener.
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