What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Explain that you have no interest in reconnecting with them. If they continue to harras you, contact legal help.
Ask them to stop politely. Usually we tend to give a reaction but if we surprise them with calm and polite manner then they'll be overwhelmed to a point they don't know how to react
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 6:30pm
I would ask him politely ask him to stop. If he does not, then I would try blocking his calls and text messages.
Tell him/her how U feel on the subject hope he/she stops and comes to realise what it's doing to you
That depends on whether you want the contact. If you don't, politely ask him/her to stop. If they won't, change your cell/mobile number/home number and ignore contact with them. Block them on Facebook. If they are a danger to you, call the police - don't think they will just "go away" - some people can become aggressive and if you're dealing with that type of person, it's best to seek professional help (ie. the police).
If blocking fails,and he still tries to contact you.Then save all his messages,calls and text and file a police report.Inform close friends and your work that you want no contact with this individual.
well if you want them to contact them then ok but if not tell them how you feel about them contacting you but do it in a polite manner
Its okay to stay in contact with your ex its even fine when you are friends its okay. But if you don't like to be in contact with your ex maybe you should consider telling them about it.
If you've asked them to stop and they wont maybe try and block them on whatever platform they are contacting you on. On the other hand, you could try talking to them, asking why they keep contacting you.
That depends on what you want. Do you want to stay in touch and try keeping a friendship? Or do you want her to stop? You can everytime communicate to other people what your wishes upon such topics are!
If your ex is contacting you for good reasons i think you can be friends. we dont have to ignore anyone.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 5:36pm
I'd start off by asking him/her to stop and if that doesn't work I'd block the number and if he/she found a way to contact you again I would warn him/her that you are going to report him/her harassment and if he/she does it again report him for harassment
You should reply him in a mature manner. Although, if you're not comfortable with it, you could bring it up to him, and told him that you may need some space at the moment. Avoiding it wouldn't solve the issue, approaching it may :)
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 6:11pm
You should ask him to stop or block him or her. You don't need to have him or her intruding ........
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 6:54pm
Simple solution. Block their number and just ignore them. Simple. Just don't talk to them and if it gets to harassment then tell someone
I recommend you speak to them and explain that they're bothering you or maybe block their account or phone number
Clearly state that you do not wish to be contacted, block them on social media, loose their number and ignore any other contacts, if you do not wish to interact with them any more.
if it's fine with you then go ahead and talk. He may want to be friend but if it makes you feel uncomfortable, be honest and tell him you aren't feeling fine.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 8:54pm
If you are comfortable in talking to him/her , then go ahead answer his/her call. But if you are not then politely ask them to contact you again .
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 2:24pm
All depend on the reason of breaking up. We just didn't match to each other, so we still keep in touch. He is much better friend than boyfriend. With another one, I just ignore his messages
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:31am
If you are bothered by your ex contacting you then I suggest that you do speak up about it, if he does not stop then contact police.
You can politely tell him to back off, but if he keeps bothering you over the internet or maybe even physically following you, then you should consider contacting authorities. But remember, it's not your fault.
If he is nothing you, depending on the extent. I would recommend either asking him to stop and deleting him or blocking him.
if it's bothering you and it's torturing you by not help you moving on .. simply stop talking to him cause it will leave you stuck not being able to stop having feelings for him
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:26pm
Block them on all of your social media, block their messages. If you are in a situate where you have to see them every day like at a workplace or school then do your best to avoid them.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 8:18pm
Try to make him stop. If it doesn't work, talk to his/her friends to make him stop, or just try to ignore him. I think that helps when you ignore people. But if things get bad, talk to an adult about the situation.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 9:38pm
If I was in this situation, the first thing I would do is try to forcefully tell them that you do not want to be contacted and ask for them to stop. If this doesn't work, maybe try to block their account or number to prevent contact. Ultimately, if you feel threatened or unsafe I would seek out help from an authority figure who would have more information about steps you can take.
Well it depends what he says and how he treats you if you two left because something back then don't respond
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 7:16pm
Tell him it's unhealthy for him/her to do so, since it refrains both of you from moving on. If he/she won't stop, stop answering.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 8:01am
Just make him understand that you have moved on in your life and you are happy in your life. Even that if your ex contact you, then ignore that person.
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