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How do you help someone who is depressed?

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Last Updated: 07/23/2018 at 6:19pm
How do you help someone who is depressed?
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Top Rated Answers
KatieWhite
April 19th, 2016 12:52am
Help them understand that you support them, you understand that they're going through something, and that you care about them. If you can, try to convince them to see a professional that can help them overcome their depression. Also, people with depression tend to sleep longer and want to stay inside. Sunlight increases dopamine levels which is the hormone that makes people happy. Getting someone with depression to go outside and even exercise is a natural way to help them, even if just for a little while.
radiantPassion58
April 11th, 2016 3:57pm
You listen to them, you love them , you show them they are valuable. Also maintaining a healthy lifestile and never holding back what you wmat to say can help.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2016 7:31am
The effects of depression are extremely subjective, but it is important not to belittle the person's feelings; acknowledge and validate their struggles, give them space to breathe rather than forcing them into what you think is the right route of recovery, and understand that it will take time. What was best for me was not when my loved ones shoved suggestions of typical modes of help down my throat - therapy, medication - but when they were just fully present and with me. Our conversations didn't even have to be about my condition; love and concern can be translated through other topics, other activities. It was a nice break as well from just worrying about what a burden I felt like I was.
jadespace
February 1st, 2016 3:18am
Be there for them. Simply just provide a safe place for them to express and be expressive. Don't let stay depressed of course but guide them and they'll find their way.
Anonymous
January 26th, 2016 2:05pm
Even if you can't give them advice, just make sure that you let them know that you're there for them, be a friend when they need it and all in all make sure they don't feel like they're suffering alone.
Ellie15
November 19th, 2014 5:30am
Tell them to use their strengths and positive past experiences to help them remember this shall pass.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 12:20pm
Sounds like you have a good heart and a friend is in need of help with depression or a family member Id advise them to go and see there go
nyctophilenymph
November 1st, 2014 7:00pm
Don't just listen, make them FEEL heard and that their words and feelings matter to you just as much as they do to them. Focus on everything they are saying, and never judge anyone's situation. Show your compassion and warmth, and give them as much of your time as possible. They will appreciate it so much.
ErinGrace
September 11th, 2014 7:07am
I just try to be there whenever they need someone. I've found it's better to let them come to you, instead of you going to them and asking them questions or something else along those lines. Just make sure they aren't becoming self-destructive, they're getting help if they need it, and to always be there for them no matter what.
HelenSmith
September 13th, 2014 10:30am
You try to be there for them, and try to give them some support. Also, it's important to try and get them some professional help.
aliciajayne
September 14th, 2014 8:13am
I make them think about all the good things in their life & that they have so many things to do yet.
rieckie
September 14th, 2014 7:39pm
Recommend them to a therapist or self-help sites and talk about what is bothering them. You can also make sure that they aren't going to harm themselves and give them a suicide hotline and 911 if you think they do.
MusicMajor
October 4th, 2014 4:42am
Usually I just try to have them talk it out and tell them about coping mechanisms! Tell them all about different resources that I know about is helpful, too!
Inthu
October 6th, 2014 10:33am
Get their mind of off the reason that is causing Depression. Keep them occupied, and eventually thy will get over their depression.
LittleElephant
October 13th, 2014 10:24pm
I think just being around them and caring for them is very powerful. Someone who has depression is in a difficult situation, but when they are alone, it can make them feel very empty and can worsen the effects dramatically.
lexjc617
October 14th, 2014 7:09pm
Show him/her that you are there for support for whatever he/she needs, but also know that an individual with depression may back away to try to find space.
AnnieElen
October 22nd, 2014 11:16pm
I would help them find out why, share my own experiences. Never lose hope. There is always someone that will help.
Neeka
October 24th, 2014 12:01am
Being there for people who are depressed is key. I am depressed more than I am not and I know that if I had someone to talk to who wouldn't judge me I would feel a million times better. Listening is better than giving advice because those who are depressed are delicate and may take things you have to say out of context.
Helll00
October 25th, 2014 6:20am
I will first try to know the real cause of depression. Then i will try to help the person out of his state of mind.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2014 3:59pm
It's hard to help someone but the main thing to do is just be there for them. Be there when they need a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to.
Rachel1984
October 29th, 2014 12:01pm
It can be very hard to know what to do. Some things that have really helped me are just when someone is willing to be there for me, and not judge. You can't expect to make a depressed person happy, but you can provide comfort by not giving up on them.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2014 12:20pm
Make them feel loved and make them understand that you'll be there for them when they need something. Don't tell them what they should and shouldn't do - they already know and it makes it worse. Stay by their side.
pegah96
November 1st, 2014 6:30pm
ask the person to explaine more about the situation.then ill try to feel emphathy for him/her. then i try to get on a conclusion from his words
Anonymous
May 8th, 2015 3:15pm
The most basic thing you can do is be with that person. Let the person know that you are there, and you are there to stay. Do not tell the person things like "it's not that bad", "it'll get better", "people have it worse". Even if the person lashes out at you in anger, don't take it personally. Just be there. That's all.
luna2490
November 3rd, 2014 3:42am
helping them process through the issues to help them redirect their own minds and deal with the cause in a productive way by helping them self's and listening to their thoughts
Nexilva
November 4th, 2014 10:16am
Offer them emotional support in a non condescending and friendly manner, try not to look down on them and definitely don't tell them that ''they're just having a bad day''.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2014 6:46pm
I think the best way to help is to let them know that you're there. Even if they don't want to talk right then, it might help them to feel less alone.
crlody
November 8th, 2014 11:19pm
Don't give up on them. It may not seem like the person is responding to or even appreciates your concern for them but there's a part of them that is crying out for love and acceptance. Don't try to fix them or force them to get better - do not give someone an ultimatum. You can offer advice or resources if they ask for it but if you try to make them try something they don't want to do at best you'll be wasting your time and energy and at worst you could actually make their situation worse. If they try something and it didn't work for them don't take it personally. Similarly if they lash out at you or ignore you don't take it personally - you have to be strong and not let them push you away. Let them know you are there for them and support and accept them 100%. Let them know it's OK to feel the way they feel and they don't need to change if they don't want to. Hearing that is a breath of fresh air to someone who feels like they're not good enough because they don't fit our social norms and expectations and doesn't know what's wrong with them when it seems so easy for everyone else. Sometimes just sitting with someone not doing anything or saying anything can make all the difference in the world - check up on them as much as you can just to let them you are there when they need you. Engage them and encourage them to do things like getting out of the house or eating a nutritious meal because most likely they will not reach out to you to ask for help even though you have told them time and time again that they can call you for anything. A depressed person most likely does not think they are worthy of being helped and does not want to bother you so you have make the first move and be the one to show up emotionally. Get them to open up about how they're feeling and make sure you listen nonjudgmentally.
rainbowkitten
November 10th, 2014 5:03pm
You ask him if he wants to talk about what makes him that way,and get him to know that you will be there for him.
HelpfulCow
November 10th, 2014 10:19pm
It is best to send them to someone who can give them professional help. If that doesn't happen, the person may get more depressed or even suicidal.