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Relationship Stress / by 22144m
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 December 18th, 2014
...See more I have a best friend who doesnt really show emotions easily,and i do know she loves me,but sometimes im just no sure beacuse she can be emotionaly distant,well not really distant,she just seems to have these walls around her,and when we are together its woderfull,but when she has a problem,she never likes talking about it,she just wants us to change subject mostly,and we talked,and she said that its beacuse she is raised that way,to not show much emotion, and for me,a person who is really really emotional,its hurtful. we do talk about it,but it doesnt seem to go anywhere. we just come up to the conclusion that im way to emotional (which i really am) and that its not that big of an issue beacuse im supposed to know she loves me,without her telling me or showing me constantly, she also hates beeing comforted,and when she is sad i just want her to talk to me about it,and i should hug her,let her cry it out,and it should be ok,but she sayes that I should just talk about something else to distract her. I guess she shows love  by beeing supportive,she offends me a few times a day,but I just take her-you dumbass like-i love you lol she obviously doesnt mean it,we laugh about it together,we are aaalways together,laughing and sharing thoughts,silly and sirious,she helps me,I help her, she also doesnt like beeing hugged or touched,but sometimes she asks me to stroke her hair or arm, all these things show that im special to her,but i always seem to want more, i would just like her to sometimes tell me she loves me,beacuse when I say it,she doesnt say it back,its like she cant say it seriously or easily,she prefers deeds to show it,but even that is sometimes too little for me,when she rests her head on my lap and i stroke her head,i just feel the love and the connection,but also,when i try to comfot her and pat her on the back,or touch her hand,she says-dont touch me, I mean,sometimes she just loves my stroking and touching her,and i know she would just let anyone do that,also when she wears her boots that have a heel,she holds my hand with our fingers intertwined,so that she doesnt fall, and i guess she thinks that all that should be enough for me,beacuse she doesnt do that with anyone else, and we do talk,its just that we come to the conclusion that im too emotinal,and that she is like this beacuse she was raised like that,just like i was raised to show a lot of affection and recieve it, she doesnt like it when i cry a lot about little things and i get sad about little things,like when she raises her voice,or says something to me that she didnt really mean at that time,but it slipped,and it hurts me a lot,and i guess it annoyes her to constantly have to watch her mouth and behavior so that she doesnt hurt me, she knows i crave her attention and love,but she said that the more i crave it and ask her for it,the less the odd that she is going to give it to me
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