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AFollowerofPlato
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Number of ratings290 Number of reviews116 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, French, Latin, Portuguese, Spanish Listener sinceFeb 1, 2016 Last activein last week PathStep 766 People helped612 Chats1,896 Group support chats2 Listener group chats10 Forum posts35 Forum upvotes96
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I can only promise you one thing - my full undivided attention towards what is going on with you.

Recent forum posts
Are users the ones who need protection from us? Shouldn't it be the other way around?
7 Cups Leadership / by AFollowerofPlato
Last post
May 24th, 2023
...See more Hi everyone. I've been here for over 7 years and usually I only tend to post in the forums when it comes down to important things. As such, by writing these lines I hope to spark a significant debate over something that I consider to be an important, ongoing and still-current issue of supporting users. Essentially, users can block us for just any reason, and that makes it impossible for us to either interact with them, or report their behaviour. At the same time, if we - as supporters - block them, even for what we consider to be completely fair reasons, we ocasionally receive messages from your website stating that we're misuing the feature (and could get in trouble over it). Let me give you two examples of how this is usually misused. Imagine you spot a user with a name such as 'hotdaddy69'. You connect with them, they visit your profile, somehow notice you're a male, and quickly block you... meaning, there's one more pervert in the website, and we cannot do absolutely nothing about it - we can't even report them, which is an issue! Another example - a few hours ago, a user made me a bad request. He, or she, wanted me to pretend I was performing an illegal sexual act with them and tell them how it would go. Naturally, I told them I was uncomfortable with the request, and I was about to report them when the conversation "mysteriously" disappeared. He - or she - had blocked me. Again, this meant one more pervert in the website, and we cannot do anything about it. Now, this is a significant issue. We should be here to present support to those who need it, and instead the website is offering ways for misdeeders to protect themselves from us, while even preventing us from reporting them. This has to be corrected. As Listeners, if someone preemptively blocks us - usually, to prevent us from reporting them - we should still, at the very least, have some way to flag their profile too!
A small challenge for all expecting daddies
Relationship Stress / by AFollowerofPlato
Last post
September 21st, 2021
...See more Hi everyone. I've been here for years and, unusually, across time I was even told by two new moms I helped in here they named their kids after me. So, I'd like to propose a small challenge for all expecting daddies, even if it is your very first kid. Essentially, if your wife/girlfriend/companion has a big belly and trouble sleeping due to it, literally try to put yourself in her shoes. Put one or two pillows under your shirt and try to sleep like that for at least one night, so you can see how it all feels. In the past, I found it to be a profoundly bounding experience, and it really teaches you a lot about how uncomfortable it all is. And, for all expecting mothers, huge cheers to you! ❤️❤️❤️
Can you help me help her?
Bipolar, Schizophrenia & Psychosis Support / by AFollowerofPlato
Last post
January 25th, 2017
...See more Hey everyone! I was hoping you could give me a hand with this one. First, the basics - many, many years ago, I met a girl. She had been through a lot, and back then I promised I'd never leave her feeling alone (as opposed to people she often met, who used to be all nice, and drop her sooner than later). The problem is, she's bipolar; in the past, she'd often call me the best guy ever, and other times she'd call me every bad name in the book. Now, scroll to 2015. I had a stroke and I asked her to keep me company for a few days; instead, she got mad, and told me "The sooner this disease you supposedly have takes you to your grave, the better". In the hospital, it was found out that I have a degenerative disease that is destroying my muscles and my brain. And yet, I forgave her. A few months later, I had visited her a few times and everything was okay. I asked to visit her on her birthday (she always spends it alone), she let me do it, only to, in the exact day itself, decide otherwise. I felt devastated, I asked her how could she care so little about me, and she answered me something I felt was horrible - "Unless my grandmother dies [i.e. the person who raised her], I don't care about anything". I forgave her, but I did warn her those words were very dangerous. A month later, one of her kitty cats got sick, with feline panleukopenia. I did literally everything I could to help her, but the cat ended up dying. She did not speak to me for a day, and then, she told me she had decided to stop talking to a bunch of people - myself included. That I had done nothing wrong, she was simply deciding this, for undisclosed reasons. I became devastated, wrote her and her grandmother a farewell letter, and... she came back to talk to me, as if nothing had happened. I got really sad about it, and asked her not to talk to me until she can apologize. Doctors don't know how much longer I'll last, and I felt I couldn't take this anymore, hence the farewell letter. I was not abandoning her, I was trying to do what was best for me. But... I feel scared, not for me but for her. I don't want her to wake up one day and feel like she wasted all her life. Once, she even told me she feels she doesn't deserve to be happy, and so, when she is getting happy, she finds it strange and causes trouble on her own, for example, breaking up relationships. Last time I heard of her, she broke up with her long-term boyfriend (4 years, I think?), met a new guy, and moved together with him in about 3 months, which you may perhaps recognise as a not-so-good idea. I haven't been talking with her, but... this worried me, because this likely won't end up good. Can I help this girl? Can you help me help her?
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Wishing you all the best and am very thankful for all your help.
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