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...See more So I have this issue, but first I should give some back story about my relationship. I have been dating my partner for about 3 years and have been living with them just as long, we have always had a pretty close relationship. (little to no arguments.) They are my best friend and literally everything I have ever wanted out of a partner. I love them, A lot! They have also been dating another person since we are in a polyamorous relationship. (so my partner we will call A and their other partner we will call B.) Us three have been in a committed relationship and living together for a while. Not to long ago Partner A got pregnant with Partner B and had a kid in which we have all beans raising as 3 parents. And also ever since the baby has been born, I have been the sole providor of the household. (it streches me thin to support a family of 4, but I have made it work.) Anyway, so onto the issue.. The current area I live in is VERY anti LGBTQI type of culture, which feels suffocating to me being Trans, So I want to move to an area more accepting bc I honestly am miserable in this state. Partner A is also LGBT+ and wouldn't mind moving to a different state, however Partner B who is straight, sees no problem with our current state and is admantley refusing to leave the state because it is where he grew up. Partner A has also decided that they don't want to seperate the baby from Partner B (being they are the paternal parents.) So partner A won't move if Partner B won't move. Partner A said that they would be ok with us being long distance, because honestly I just literally cannot stand being denied jobs and access to places just bc I am trans. However at the same time if I leave i feel like I am being a failure of a parent... like I am abandoning my family like some dead beat parent. I also feel like less of a parent because partner A doesn't want to seperate the baby from Partner B but doesn't care if I seperate from the child. Idk what to do. Part of me wants to stay since this is a family I help builty. The other part of me wants to leave bc i can't stand it here and I really don't feel like they see me as an active parent. I just don't know. What do you all think I should do? also sorry for rambling.

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