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...See more Hi all! I would like to know if there is anyone else who never had any romantic relationship. And I literally mean never ever, i.e. including the adolescence/ teenage years (i.e. never had a girlfriend/ boyfriend). And I'm referring to the situation where you want to have a relationship, but you had no success so far. I hope this makes sense. BTW, I'm not a native English speaker, so I apologize if at times my English is poor. You can reply just by clicking the heart or a quick "me too" message, I'm grateful for any kind of reply from people with similar experiences, whenever that may be! I would just need to know if there are any other people going through something like this. I hope that by hearing from other people, if any, this will make me feel somewhat less alone. Because to be honest, I feel that I'm really the only one being stuck in such a situation. Among the few acquaintances of mine, I know no one in such situation. Deep inside I feel that this situation kills me slowly but steadily as each day passes by. 😞 I can't imagine living my entire life like this i.e. alone. Very briefly about myself: I'm male, now in my thirties. But gender and age don't matter so much in this topic. It's mostly about the feeling that you'll never be able to find love (i.e. a partner). About 6 years ago I started using online dating apps (e.g. ***). Yes, indeed, I wasted quite a couple of years in my life, where I did not have any attempt whatsoever at dating (you will understand better shortly). So going back to the online dating, in short, there were maybe 2 women who might have been interested in me, but unfortunately meeting them in person was not an option for me (they were very far from me i.e. in a different country). I'm a very shy and sensitive person. Actually, most likely in time I have developed a social anxiety for some specific situations, especially situations where I'm required or expected to talk. I had a stutter since childhood, so that speech impediment is one important reason for my avoidance of, and the awkwardness that I feel in, many social contexts. Another, and in my opinion the most important, reason for why I'm not capable of establishing meaningful connections with other people is the fact that (I'm 99% sure that) I have 'Emotional deprivation disorder'/ 'Childhood emotional neglect'. The gist of it is that I haven't developed into an emotionally mature adult. Also it's difficult for me to identify and express my emotions. I also have a few other issues with regard to my physical appearance. So given all these conditions, my self-esteem is basically (almost) non-existent. Thank you to anyone who had taken the time to read this! P.S.: If you know any other threads dealing with this topic (lack of romantic relationships) kindly let me know.

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