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Atulpandey111
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1 Week of Move On from 7 years of Relationship.
Relationship Stress / by Atulpandey111
Last post
 July 1st, 2024
...See more After losing her, I stalked her and even communicated her. I kept hurting myself again and again. Then I came here on 7 Cups , learned a lot. I was lacking Self-respect. She wanted to get rid of me. I wanted to save it. But 7days ago ended all this. No more stalking. No chats. Not any urge to do so. ( had 1-2 time at 1st and 2nd day). Connected with 7Cup communtiy. Found lot of new people. Some have bigger problems and loss than mine. Accepting my situation. I'm more calm. No more panic attacks. Keeping myself busy. Still her memories haunt me sometimes. But I think normal. Her memories are the problem now. After 7 days that's the problem that I'm facing. SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS, OPINIONS AND GUIDANCE regarding this. I'm loving you awesome people.
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Thanks to all of you. But WHY?
Relationship Stress / by Atulpandey111
Last post
 July 25th, 2024
...See more I'm a 21 year boy. Lost my first love(7 years of relationship). Family having economical problems. Feeling confused and out of track.  I felt depressed and anxious for past 4 months. And then I found this beautiful community of 7 Cup. I want to get connect to more and more people of this community. I came to know here that some people have already gone through problems like me. Their journey through those struggling phase is bringing me back on my track by making me think more and more about all the things in a realistic way(I used to imagine lot of unrealistic stuffs about life). I'm loving here.  I know I've to go through a lot of bad stuffs in this phase of my life. I'm glad I found 7 Cup. Please keep helping me by sharing your learnings(especially when you were/are aged 18-25). 
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7 years of relationship came to an end. I want to move on.
Relationship Stress / by Atulpandey111
Last post
 June 25th, 2024
...See more My girlfriend cannot marry me because her parents are not ready to do so. Even our caste is same and everything is favourable (I'm from India) then also they're not ready. The only thing what is stopping me is I'm jobless. Last year I started my graduation. Now I'm in 2nd year having my age 20 by December 2024. I can't get a good job with just this qualifications. And only a good job can create the chances of her parents being ready to marry her. I have talked to her mother. She rejected me. Also she isn't supporting me in this case. She's with the decision of her parents. She want to protect her reputation. Marrying a low earning man and performing love marriage will create bad reputation of her parents in the society. Thus She's with her parents. We met 9 years ago. We were friends and then we started loving each other. I fell for that girl very much. She also loves me even today. But her parents are the reason we just can't be together. I used to text her sometimes after all this dramatic situation. I cried and I was in depression that she'll be no more of mine after all these 7 years of love,care,effort,support, happiness, etc.I was not ready for this. So I was texting her. She now doesn't want to message me. She want to move on. So she's doing this. So I also said that okay then we'll not talk anymore. And now I'm feeling super bad. Again those same feelings of sadness and loneliness which I felt few months ago when I came to know all this. I really want to get all this over forever. Help me. I want to reshape myself. I want to earn a lot. I want to help my parents. I want a new life, a new start. But I cannot start. MY PAST HAUNTS ME. ALL THOSE MOMENTS AND STUFFS. :-(
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