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My mental health has ruined my friendships; What to do?
Friendship Support / by Betterthoughts11
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 January 16th, 2025
...See more To make a very long story short; I got out of a very bad relationship last year; which made my pre-exisiting mental health MUCH worse..these friends came and picked me up and helped me SO much through the year. But; I was not consistent in therapy, or other ways to grow, so I've hurt them badly.. I messed up. I was venting and sharing issues about other friends without taking steps to fix it, so it just ended up making them feel pinned against eachother, or like i purposefully tried to ruin the friend group, or like I was talking smack, this ENTIRELY wasn't my intention. But, that doesn't matter, because it happened wether i meant to or not. My mental state is so bad, I really thought/think everyone was out to get me/disliked me, but I didn't actually go address that with the person. There are some true and valid issues in the friend group that I didnt address, so it just looks like I was purposely a jerk. Its a mess of my own making...the guilt and pain feels crushing. My friends snapped at me, and asked for 6 months to a year of space, and then maybe we can try again at friendship. Their reaction is valid; my issues i had are valid, but i didnt handle them correctly. Despite this, I feel really wounded...how do I begin to manage the pain resulting from this?
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