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Bossy1
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After realizing that I was groomed I now cringe and can't tell anyone in my life
Trauma Support / by Bossy1
Last post
 August 31st, 2025
...See more When I was 17 I dated a man in his late thirties. At the time I saw nothing wrong with this, in fact it excited me because I felt older and more mature. But years later in my early 20s I find out that the man I am talking about was convicted if rape of a 13 yr old. I started to rethink everything that happened over the course of our "relationship " and then bagn to see the signs. I blamed myself for not seeing them sooner and wishing I was able ti shield that kid. He went to prison, but got out early. Because I never stressed to anyone that anything was wrong he still contacts me from time to time to check in. Everytime it sends chills down my spine. Like I said I can't talk to anyone in my life and I really needed to get this out. Thanks for listening, and if you have any tips on how to teach myself to remove the blame from myself I'm all ears.
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Time doesn't help.
Trauma Support / by Bossy1
Last post
 September 21st, 2023
...See more I was attacked multiple times by the same person for the course of a two year period back in 2014&2015. I've always heard "time heals". It's been almost 20 years since it started and nothing was "healed". I admit I was able to push it off my brain as a main thought but when a certain song comes on or I hear his name evene when its someone else completely I have this feeling that rushes over me and everthing comes flooding back. I've worked really hard to move on and to replace those memories with happier ones from my current place in life. But it is not truly "healed" and it honestly feels like it never will be.
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Chronic Pain Survivors
Disability Support / by Bossy1
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 January 8th, 2023
...See more I'm going through my chronic illness alone. Just curious to see if anyone else gets it..
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I could have stooped a predator.
Trauma Support / by Bossy1
Last post
 December 10th, 2021
...See more I just found out that the grown man whom i was dating as a teenager has been convicted of raping another teenage girl. It was years ago when we were together and i know now that what conspired was him grooming me. But since he never hurt me or forced me to do anything, back then i thought as long as i aggreed to everything that happened it was okay.. Yet now that i know that he has hurt somoene else and that i was clearly apart of a pattern i just cant turn my brain off to thinking that if i had spoken up at the time then the girls that got hurt after me wouldn't have gotten hurt. I know it isn't fair to put the responsibility of his actions on myself but im really struggling with the fact that i could have done something to help the girls after me.
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