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Number of ratings23 Number of reviews10 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceNov 9, 2016 Last activein last week GenderMale PathStep 158 People helped34 Chats168 Forum posts125 Forum upvotes137
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Hello! My name is CJ, I'm a 5th-year psychology student on my way to completing a doctorate in clinical psychology. I became a listener on 7 Cups back in 2016 when I was in high school; it has always been my goal to help as many people as I can live happy lives. Everyone has struggles that they go through, and those struggles can be overwhelming. No matter how big or how small, I'm here for you if you need someone to talk to. I hope all of those who read this are having a good day, and if not, feel free to reach out 💜

Here's some stuff I've been I've personally gone through mentally in case you are looking for someone with similar experiences: Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), agoraphobia, depression, anxiety, panic disorder, and dyslexia.

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I know that you may only get a limited amount of chat requests per day on here. If you chat request me, you can message me whenever you need to and I promise I will try to respond as soon as I can.

I am a full-time student, so I apologize if I take a bit to respond. I tend to be active mostly in the afternoon/evening and will also most likely be asleep/inactive between 10pm and 10am EST

Thank you for reading and I look forward to talking to you 💜


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Favorite lyrics?
Music & Dance / by CJHere2Help
Last post
 Friday
...See more Hello everyone! What are some of your favorite song lyrics? What do those lyrics mean to you? I'll start: "For anyone who's ever been through s*** in they lives. So they sit and they cry at night, wishin' they'd d**. 'Til they throw on a rap record and they sit and they vibe. We're nothin' to you, but we're the f***in s*** in they eyes." - Eminem This line from Sing For The Moment reminds me of the many days I felt like I had nobody, but I always had Eminem in my ear. Music can help us get through really difficult times in our lives; it helps validate how we're feeling and often lets us know that we aren't alone 💜
Lyrics and Lessons: Part I
Music & Dance / by CJHere2Help
Last post
 April 15th
...See more Hello everyone!         I hope you all are having an amazing day. Music is something that we all enjoy and it can help us get through tough times. Music often validates our emotions; if we feel happy, there are songs that help us keep that dopamine high and we jam to it. When we feel sad, there may be songs we listen to that make us feel that the artist understands what we are going through. Music is a great coping mechanism that helps us feel better and understood. Music has always meant a lot to me, I love deciphering the meaning behind lyrics and truly listening to what the artist is saying. I think it would be interesting to start a series of forum posts where I analyze song lyrics that have a deep meaning and may be able to help those who are feeling the same way or going through similar situations. Song Analysis "Lace It" by Juice WRLD feat. Eminem TRIGGER WARNING: Discussion of drug use, profane lyrics         I did not listen to Juice much before his passing, but after delving into his discography I believe he was an amazing songwriter. To give a quick backstory to this song, Juice passed away due to substance use in December 2019. He would still go on to have a lot of his music released years after his passing, including "Lace It" which came out in the past year. When the song came out and I began listening to it, I was initially disappointed with Juice's lyrics. As the title suggests, his entire verse was about the substances he uses. I thought that was a little distasteful for his team to release given what happened to Juice, but then Eminem started rapping. While Juice's verse was mostly glorifying substance use with lines like "roll it up, lace it, pop a few to chase it", Eminem decided to flip the script. Eminem spends his verse discussing the horrible effects that substance use can have on a person and how he understands how it starts and often ends.         Eminem spent many years of his life battling addiction and almost lost. He begins the verse with "You pop some [substance] first, it gets progressively worse. Try your best to reverse, unsuccessfully flirtin' with certain death and revertin' to your [substance] urges. The f***in devil he lurks, lose your best friend he smirks." He discusses how when people start with a substance and then progressively begin a habit of using it. This forms an addiction that is difficult for many to overcome. He then begins relating this to the genre of hip-hop and how many rappers fall down this spiral. Not only do they form addiction, but they make the substances that they use a part of their music, as Juice did in his verse. The many people who listen to these artists, often kids and teenagers, are now exposed to them. This creates an entire culture of substance use. Eminem goes on to say "So many who OD be way too young to go see me. I was lucky, my escape was narrow and do not think that I take it for granted that I'm still here." He follows that lyric by listing several substances that have killed many hip-hop artists to reinforce how huge a problem addiction is across many communities.         Eminem ends his verse by saying, “Addiction’s like a f***in vicious cycle, Juice we will forever miss you. To the younger generation, I ain’t lecturin’ you, but man just be careful when you” which leads into Juice WRLD’s chorus saying “roll it up, lace it.”  Eminem understands that his verse is not going to stop anyone from partaking in substances, so he clarifies that he’s not just some old man telling young people what to do. The goal of his verse was to put into perspective how many lives in hip-hop alone have been lost in recent years and promote awareness of the effects a substance can have on a person. I think it was absolutely beautiful how they took a song Juice WRLD wrote glorifying substance use before his passing and had Eminem, who has been through a lot regarding substance use, flip the message Juice was saying to promote addiction awareness. Questions: What do you think about this song? Do you have any suggestions for songs with powerful lyrics? I love exploring different genres and artists that I don’t normally listen to!
Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by CJHere2Help
Last post
 March 31st
...See more Hello everyone! My name is CJ, I look forward to interacting with all of you!         Curiosity is a powerful tool that can help us better ourselves by approaching opportunities that allow us to grow. The type of mindset that a person adopts can affect their behavior, achievements, and overall well-being. The two core mindsets as popularized by psychologist Carol Dweck are the growth mindset and the fixed mindset. A growth mindset is a belief that individuals can develop and improve their skills, abilities, and intelligence through learning, effort, and perseverance. Individuals with growth mindsets see challenges as opportunities to grow and improve their skills and abilities. This is in contrast to a fixed mindset, where individuals believe that their abilities are inherent traits that cannot be significantly changed.          The belief that improvement is possible affects whether or not someone will improve. This is why it is important to try to foster a growth mindset. Having a growth mindset allows us to be vulnerable, embrace change, and grow from our experiences. To help shift towards a growth mindset it’s important to embrace challenges. View challenges as an opportunity to strengthen your skills rather than a threat to self-worth. Whether you succeed or fail, your skills will come out better than they were before. It’s important to embrace failure as a natural part of the learning process rather than a reflection of your abilities. Viewing your setbacks as opportunities for reflection, learning, and improvement will help guide you toward personal growth.         I will leave you all with a quote and some questions for personal reflection. Michael Jordan is widely regarded as the greatest basketball player of all time. He was once asked that in an interview, in which he said, “You are only mentioning the successes. For me to become the greatest basketball player, I missed 9,000 shots when I was playing in the NBA.” Do you have a growth mindset or a fixed mindset? If you have a growth mindset, what factors or events in your life do you believe helped you foster this mindset? If you have a fixed mindset, what do you believe can help you shift towards a growth mindset?
Cultivating Key Qualities for Meaningful Connections
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by CJHere2Help
Last post
 March 18th
...See more Hello everyone! My name is CJ, it's a pleasure to meet you all!         Being able to relate to and care for others is one of the most important qualities a person could have. There are several parts that constitute this according to the readings in the IDG course guide. Those are appreciation, empathy & compassion, connectedness, and humility. Appreciation enhances interpersonal interactions and contributes to a positive and supportive social environment. Having appreciation towards others is crucial for fostering a sense of trust and connection. In any relationship we may have, it is important to recognize the value and significance of people, experiences, and the world around us.         Having empathy and compassion for others helps develop stronger relationships, enhances your understanding, and enables you to be able to address the suffering of others with kindness and care. By putting yourself in the shoes of others, it helps you see things from their perspective. Even though you may have not gone through the same situation, you can understand how it may feel for them. This is an important skill for listeners to practice strengthening. By cultivating empathy and compassion within ourselves, we can promote these qualities in our communities. This will foster positive relationships, alleviate suffering, and build a more connected world.         This leads me to the next topic, connectedness. Connectedness is the sense of feeling a part of a larger whole, such as a community. When a person perceives themself as part of a larger whole, they are more likely to contribute to their community’s values. Connectedness promotes solidarity, cooperation, and taking action toward shared goals and values. Take listeners on 7 Cups for example, as most of us are. Individually, we place value on helping people which is what led to us becoming listeners. By being a part of the 7 Cups community and engaging with each other, we collectively take action on our shared goals and values. Forums like this help create a better sense of connectedness and motivate us to continue pursuing these goals and values.         Humility involves a balanced perspective of one's own importance and the needs of the situation. It requires letting go of ego-driven concerns and being open to the perspectives and contributions of others. It is important to not tie ourselves to a specific self-image, as this leaves no room for humility and growth. Humility encourages individuals to take responsibility for their actions and decisions. By acknowledging our mistakes and shortcomings, we can demonstrate accountability and integrity which fosters the trust and respect of others. This reminds me of a quote by one of the greatest philosophers in all of fiction: “Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame.” - Uncle Iroh Out of the aforementioned qualities (appreciation, empathy & compassion, connectedness, and humility) which would you say is your strongest? Which would you say is your weakest? What steps can you take to strengthen this quality?
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